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Author Topic: Man Has Stroke; Wakes Up Gay  (Read 31738 times)

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Man Has Stroke; Wakes Up Gay
« on: September 22, 2011, 10:39:57 am »

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« Reply #1 on: September 22, 2011, 11:59:52 am »
Well he's happy with who is now, so that's good.
The whole way he went gay tips my bullshit meter but anything's possible.
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Re: Beware of doing somersaults
« Reply #2 on: September 22, 2011, 01:24:13 pm »
My sister had a head trauma and her personality changed. It happens. Sometimes I think it just takes a knock on the head to bring out the traits that are really there but hidden deep.

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Re: Beware of doing somersaults
« Reply #3 on: September 22, 2011, 03:55:59 pm »
It's not like he doesn't have the life altering credentials to back up his story, but yeah that's very odd.  I've known people who have had serious brain trauma and recovered and it either fucked them up or completely changed them.

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« Reply #4 on: September 22, 2011, 04:46:31 pm »
There was that lady who suddenly got a strange european but unspecific accent after surgery.
So what's Madonna's excuse for hers?

It's interesting what someone said - could bring out the deep hidden traits.  So that would mean this guy was a deeply repressed homo?  Hmm.

Well he seems cool about it.

But he said something interesting - that now he no longer has self doubts.  So does that mean he used to have self doubts when he was a straight lad?  Maybe it wasn't all that deeply repressed before, afterall..
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Re: Beware of doing somersaults
« Reply #5 on: September 22, 2011, 04:49:31 pm »
I thought gay people were supposed to have good  hair.
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« Reply #6 on: September 22, 2011, 04:53:53 pm »
If all it takes is a bump on the head to make you gay somebody would have already taken a 2x4 upside Brad Pitt's a long time ago .
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« Reply #7 on: September 22, 2011, 04:59:27 pm »
Brad Pitt hasn't convinced me that he is a world class hetero stud.  Isn't he saying he was stoned and dull through his marriage with the convincingly hetero Jennifer.  And now with Angelina, that couple gives off no heat whatsoever, he seems like a trophy mate for her.
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Re: Beware of doing somersaults
« Reply #8 on: September 22, 2011, 05:13:31 pm »
Brad Pitt hasn't convinced me that he is a world class hetero stud.  Isn't he saying he was stoned and dull through his marriage with the convincingly hetero Jennifer.  And now with Angelina, that couple gives off no heat whatsoever, he seems like a trophy mate for her.

Well ... I will buy the 2x4 if you will do the swinging . I could never whop a sexy man in the head ... with a board anyway . 
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« Reply #9 on: September 22, 2011, 05:17:22 pm »
Maybe the blow will turn him into an uber hetero sex god. Then where will we be.
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« Reply #10 on: September 22, 2011, 05:22:05 pm »
Maybe the blow will turn him into an uber hetero sex god. Then where will we be.

Having prison sex .
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Re: Beware of doing somersaults
« Reply #11 on: September 22, 2011, 05:28:01 pm »
Having prison sex .

You wish..............

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Re: Beware of doing somersaults
« Reply #12 on: September 22, 2011, 06:11:48 pm »
Having prison sex .

Between this and reply #6 you owe me a key board AND a new sweater, I spat then dribbled coffee all over the place... :D

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« Reply #13 on: September 22, 2011, 06:31:46 pm »
Between this and reply #6 you owe me a key board AND a new sweater, I spat then dribbled coffee all over the place... :D

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« Reply #14 on: September 22, 2011, 06:58:14 pm »
If they have some previous brain scans to compare the current ones to, they'd finally discover what part controls gayness?  Christ, I hope they don't throw research dollars towards a "cure".
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« Reply #15 on: September 22, 2011, 09:00:41 pm »
If all it takes is a bump on the head to make you gay somebody would have already taken a 2x4 upside Brad Pitt's a long time ago .

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Re: Beware of doing somersaults
« Reply #16 on: September 23, 2011, 12:07:32 am »
If they have some previous brain scans to compare the current ones to, they'd finally discover what part controls gayness?  Christ, I hope they don't throw research dollars towards a "cure".

Interesting thought. I doubt he was counting on bumping his head and waking up desiring men. Raises some questions though.

Maybe since he had to relearn everything again as if he were a child, it may reiterate that early childhood, environment and development DO have an influence on sexuality later in life. I am personally not of the belief that sexuality is completely genetic, as some claim. Suppose things were different this time around (like the old "absent father/overbearing mother" theories) and he came out a different person because of what happened post-stroke, rather than the stroke itself. I'm not trying to offend anyone, certainly cannot ungay people, sexuality is not a simple thing. I'm gay myself.
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« Reply #17 on: September 23, 2011, 02:13:05 am »
maybe since he had to relearn everything again as if he were a child, it may reiterate that early childhood, environment and development DO have an influence on sexuality later in life. I am personally not of the belief that sexuality is completely genetic, as some claim. Suppose things were different this time around (like the old "absent father/overbearing mother" theories)

I personally don't buy into the theory that parents are responsible for making children gay . It could be argued that if you believe that if your parents had character flaws that was responsible for you being gay that somehow being gay is a flaw of character because you wouldn't be that way if not abused or damaged in some way . I do not believe that as a gay man I am damaged goods so I would have a hard time excepting that way of explaining my sexuality . I don't really need an explanation for why I am gay , I just am and that's good enough for me .     
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« Reply #18 on: September 23, 2011, 02:41:38 am »
I personally don't buy into the theory that parents are responsible for making children gay . It could be argued that if you believe that if your parents had character flaws that was responsible for you being gay that somehow being gay is a flaw of character because you wouldn't be that way if not abused or damaged in some way . I do not believe that as a gay man I am damaged goods so I would have a hard time excepting that way of explaining my sexuality .     

I wasn't really trying to make it look that negative at all, truly I think its a mix of a lot of things, but I don't discredit any environmental/developmental influence.

Its odd, but I remember a time when I was VERY young (younger than 5), when I still had sexual attraction towards women. I would see nude women in movies by accident while we were watching a movie as a family that they didn't expect to have nudity, or I would steal my parents copies of Playboy, which they both read and had subscriptions to (still do, I read 'em as well, good articles). Let's just say the rocket would take off, even though I didn't know what was going on down there yet. I quickly became curious and then fascinated with the male body in the way I had been with women (simply cause I knew what a grown woman looked like, but what did a grown man look like?) and there was a longing for affection from a father figure (even though I had one that cared about me, maybe he lacked affection I don't know.) By the time I was 10, I had no interest in women left, I knew I was gay. None of that had really been my parent's fault.

Sorry if this is too graphic or whatever. I put thought into this stuff years ago but have never really had an opportunity to spit it out, interesting conversation is all I am seeking. I won't get mad if the mods wanna edit this. Child sexuality is something people sometimes don't want to hear about, I am trying to come at this from a psychology textbook standpoint, although I my knowledge of that is very basic, freshman college level. But I know for sure, that my sexuality has a lot to do with my early, pre-pubescent development. There's holes for sure, I can't tell exactly why I am gay, and I certainly have no clue why anyone else is. I think there is a possibility we are all born the same, neutral sexuality and it figures itself out into heterosexuality, bisexuality, or homosexuality usually a few years before we hit puberty.
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« Reply #19 on: September 23, 2011, 03:41:52 am »
I personally don't buy into the theory that parents are responsible for making children gay . It could be argued that if you believe that if your parents had character flaws that was responsible for you being gay that somehow being gay is a flaw of character because you wouldn't be that way if not abused or damaged in some way . I do not believe that as a gay man I am damaged goods so I would have a hard time excepting that way of explaining my sexuality . I don't really need an explanation for why I am gay , I just am and that's good enough for me .     

Gus didnt say anything about character fllaws of parents, or bad parenting, or traumatic childhoods or that being gay is a problem.  He just believes Nature vs Nurture is too simple and it can be nature + nurture.   

If you are talking about gay bias by ignorant people, they usually don't blame bad parenting either.  It's the homo's poor choice to become gay, or even be born gay and have the nerve to act upon the feeling.  It usually comes down to the evil bad gay. 
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« Reply #20 on: September 23, 2011, 04:20:14 am »
Oh well, I think this nature vs. nature stuff is nothing but dripping intellectual masturbation.

I am certain that a person’s sexual orientation (wherever that maybe on the Kinsey scale) is 100% genetic/biological and is not affected in the slightest by external factors. The fact that they haven’t found rock-solid conclusive scientific proof of this doesn’t shake my conviction of this fact at all. 

External factors such as upbringing and culture et al however, certainly play a very strong role in whether and how much people ACT on those desires. So say someone who is predominantly hetero but more than incidentally homo, might never have been intimate with guys because of his own internal conflicts about sexuality stemming from external prejudices in society.

All this gay guys having overbearing mothers and distant fathers and other similar prattle is just BS- I know plenty of straight guys who had the most vile and aggressive mothers (very gay of me to make that judgment btw) and pussy fathers and are as straight as they come.

I always knew I was a little different even as a 7 year old kid and the reason became blindingly obvious some years later when I had wet dreams of hairy-chested men instead of petite women with squishy boobs.

The guy in the article was probably always a bit queer and came up with this very original head banging sexual orientation transformation theory, which is way too innovative to have been conjured up by a straight man in the first place.

But may be I’m wrong, since British tabloids are held in such a high regard for their thorough checking of facts & research and are known to never concoct tales.

 

 
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« Reply #21 on: September 23, 2011, 09:27:08 am »

 I won't get mad if the mods wanna edit this.


Why would we? When Tim Horn asked us to be mindful of what we post, he was mainly talking about posting or linking to sexually graphic photos - gratuitous stuff. We did try to explain that our discussions about sex and sexuality won't be affected (unless of course what you're posting is a graphic description of what you did in the dark room of a bathhouse last night, purely for the purpose of titillation). This is a site that is always going to have discussions of a sexual nature, due to the nature of the virus.

I think it's an interesting conversation.

They have done studies on identical twins who were separated at birth and adopted by very different families from very different economic and social backgrounds. I wonder if they ever looked at sexuality in these studies and if they did, what were the outcomes? Something to google in my spare time.
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« Reply #22 on: September 23, 2011, 09:28:45 am »

But may be I’m wrong, since British tabloids are held in such a high regard for their thorough checking of facts & research and are known to never concoct tales.


Yeah, and a pig just flew over my house and landed in the back garden. He said "what drugs is that Space dude on? I want some!" ;D
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« Reply #23 on: September 23, 2011, 10:14:08 am »
There are two sets of identical twins in my city with one brother gay and other hetero.

Incidentally, they are gorgeous men....  One of the reasons so many people know about them!
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« Reply #24 on: September 23, 2011, 10:45:14 am »
There are two sets of identical twins in my city with one brother gay and other hetero.

Are they mirror twins?
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« Reply #25 on: September 23, 2011, 10:48:45 am »
Identical, yes.  Look the same.  Is that what "mirror" means.
Mirror would be appropriate for a gay/straight set, cause when you look in the mirror you see yourself backwards. Haha.
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« Reply #26 on: September 23, 2011, 11:16:07 am »
Mirror twins are identical, but one would be right-handed, the other left-handed. One might have a cowlick on the right side of the head, and the other would have it on the left side of the head. That's what made me think of mirror twins when you said one was gay and one was straight.

It happens when the egg splits a bit later following conception. (rather than in the first 24-36 hours or so)
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« Reply #27 on: September 23, 2011, 11:40:44 am »
Wow I never heard of that category of identical twins. But come to think of it, you are on to something.  I know one of the sets, so I'm going to ask.  They are identical but it seems yes, they may be mirror images.
I knew another set gay/straight on my college campus years ago.  Identical but different personalities.
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« Reply #28 on: September 23, 2011, 11:56:13 am »
Yeah, and a pig just flew over my house and landed in the back garden. He said "what drugs is that Space dude on? I want some!" ;D

Some great ganja from up in the Himalayas, Ann.  ;D
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« Reply #29 on: September 23, 2011, 12:04:23 pm »
Some great ganja from up in the Himalayas, Ann.  ;D

Trying to make me jealous, eh? I'll get you, my pretty!
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« Reply #30 on: September 23, 2011, 12:06:10 pm »
They have done studies on identical twins who were separated at birth and adopted by very different families from very different economic and social backgrounds. I wonder if they ever looked at sexuality in these studies and if they did, what were the outcomes? Something to google in my spare time.

I have read about this a long time ago, and indeed, if one of the twins were gay, the other was much more likely to be gay as well, even if he were raised in a different environment. So it proves sexuality cannot be entirely based on the environment.
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« Reply #31 on: September 23, 2011, 07:00:42 pm »
I will gladly take you shopping anytime you like  :-* .

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« Reply #32 on: September 23, 2011, 07:06:19 pm »
Great!!! Can I get Designer Labels at Wal-Mart?... :D

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No ... you have to get the designer labels at another store and sew them in yourself  ;)
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« Reply #33 on: September 23, 2011, 08:54:45 pm »
Bullshit!! I don't buy the deep down traits either.

This is my theory - The guy had an accident and he thought that he could have died or say then he realizes life is too short to hide or suffer so he becomes what he always was. “ GAY”. He probably was some sort of "pre in-denial" which is a theory (made up) when people don't even know they are gay before the denial stage but others know he/she is gay. I don't think he even was bi sexual may be 10%-20% otherwise he would still be attracted to girls. He did not want to hurt his family so he is blaming the stroke for him being gay using that as an excuse.

My conspiracy theory - Anything could happen. like the lady who have completely changed her accent (well for that I thought there were some changes on the vocal cord or something or whatever ). As for conspiracy theory- it hardly ever exists.

I wish I had 'that' stroke 7 years ago! Damn newspaper even selling this story, I am reading it and writing it about. There you go. Attention! yaa that's a drama queen needs. Perfect for being gay ;D

**Edited to change the wording about the conspiracy theory from never to hardly ever ;)
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« Reply #34 on: September 24, 2011, 03:13:56 am »

 He probably was some sort of "pre in-denial" which is a theory (made up) when people don't even know they are gay before the denial stage but others know he/she is gay.

"Pre in-denial"? That's quite dramatic too. lol

How can anyone not know what they're attracted to??! You always know, the fact that you avoid it, evade it, suppress it, conceal it and deny it is another matter.

Are there people who are in in denial about preferring chocolate ice cream over vanilla ? 

You either prefer chocolate or vanilla or like both. Simples.
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« Reply #35 on: September 24, 2011, 03:55:23 am »
Wow I've missed a lot.

I think being gay is combination nature and nuture first off.  Where most gay men always say they knew they were gay from a very early age that was not my experience.  I actually was very much interested in women until about 14 or 15 at which point I became fascinated with men.  As a previous poster pointed out they were having wet dreams about men I distinctly remember having wet dreams about women.

As for twins, I know that Leslie Stahl did a segment for 60 minutes in which she interviewed a pair of twins raised together who were heterosexual/homosexual.  She also pointed out that there is an increasing chance of homosexual occuring in sequentially born male right-handed children.  It's been documented in a lot of research on the subject.  Funny enough left handed male children do not have anything aside from the typical 2% chance to be born gay.  I find this odd because I know a LOT of left handed men who are gay which I suppose is coincidence.

Back to the original subject matter do you really think this guy was just waiting on his chance and then had a traumatic accident and stroke meanwhile plotting the whole time to come back as gay?  They basically said this was an immediate change once he recovered consciousness.  I really doubt anyone is thinking about their chance to come out of the closet as a result of a horrific incident.

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« Reply #36 on: September 24, 2011, 05:10:59 am »
I understand that not everyone knows they were gay right from the start but I really do think that a person’s ‘true’ & ‘original’ sexual desire (strict interpretation of that term) is intrinsic and innate to that person and is biologically fixed. Prior to puberty, the pendulum may swing little bit to the left or right end of the spectrum but once one matures into an adult things solidify. It’s similar to how a lot of children are ambidextrous but later become either left or right handed. I am convinced that just because sexual feelings manifests for some people slightly later does not in any way mean that something in their upbringing etc. had something to do with it. Prior to puberty kids are curious in every sense and discovering one’s sexuality is just a part of that and doesn’t mean anything more than that. One sees very effeminate gay men having very butch straight brothers and they had a similar childhoods.

Nurture, however, can have a very profound effect on how people perceive themselves and if and how much they act on those desires once they are adults.  Not everyone is born a 100% rigid homo or hetero. I also think that every gay person has a little bit of a straight side and every straight person has a little bit of a gay side but that doesn’t change that they are primarily on one side of the fence or the other (with the exception of pure bisexuals which are very rare according to research, especially in men).

I was in a relationship with a girl for over a year and did really like her a lot. I did enjoy our sexual relationship for a long time, but after a while I realised that I couldn’t continue like that forever, something felt a bit wrong. Had I never explored my gay side at all and just swept my feelings under the carpet, I reckon I could have convinced myself that I was much more straight than I actually am. At a purely sexual level, I think I am predominantly gay but a little more than incidentally hetero.

I like to compare it to the chocolate and vanilla example. Say someone prefers chocolate to vanilla, he can’t help that he does, but he does. But say for some reason there is no chocolate available and he doesn’t care at that point because he is having a craving for ice-cream, any ice cream. So he settles for vanilla. It’s not chocolate but it’s still an ice cream. After having vanilla for a long while, he realises- well this isn’t so bad after all. In time he even learns to like it. Over a longer time he thinks well I am beginning to like it almost as much as chocolate. He stops missing chocolate. But somewhere deep down the craving for chocolate is still lingers.

The mind is very powerful and can trick you into something you’re not, even subconsciously, but that doesn’t mitigate the fact that he was born to eat chocolate and not vanilla.

I think, this sort of thing explains situations where gay men (particularly in non-western cultures) who previously slept around a lot with other men end up marrying women due to family pressures and seem pretty happy, at least on the face of it.

But having said all of that, I also do think that sexuality when viewed on a much wider canvass is quite complex. I know of some people who are genuinely not very sexual, and do place much more weight on the ‘person’ than the sex of that person. So even though such people may be intrinsically gay (if sexuality is viewed narrowly like I said above), they are capable of falling in love with someone from the opposite sex because of the personality that they find so attractive. Things like that person’s smile and laughter become much more arousing than whether they have a cock or cunt.

Moral of the story: There is no right or wrong answer and I have way too much time on my hands to have typed all this out!!  Fuck. LOL
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« Reply #37 on: September 24, 2011, 07:30:02 am »
I was 50/50 until New Wave music. Kajagoogoo, Spandau Ballet, Culture Club, Bronski Beat, and company waged a ferocious mascara'd and sequined battle with the horny, testosteroned Rock and Punk to tip the balance rather permanently toward gay.  Boy George did it.
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« Reply #38 on: September 24, 2011, 11:39:36 am »
Not everyone knows he/she is gay that's why we use the term bi, gay, curious etc. I did not know I was gay till very late. Well, I am a late bloomer. God, I didn't even know how to masturbate till I was 14/15! I did not know I was gay till I came to USA, which was late teen/very early twenties, and I waited to have sex for the first time in my life when I was 23! And, then sex was way too easy :)

So, some people know they are gay when they are very young and some people really don't' know (due to deeply suppressed traits which I like to call as 'pre in – denial’ stage). Nothing is so dramatic about it. Some people just don't know till they know and then they try to deny it and then accept it or keep denying it or hiding it. It all depends. I do believe that people are born gay/bi/straight. Some just know and/or act on it sooner than others. Some just keep denying it for the entire lifetime. Some just would never know (it happens in very very deeply suppressed culture). I know while I was growing up some were called  ‘confirmed bachelors’ and society accepts them, never question them if they are gay as I recall in some society they don't even accept the term ‘gay’. Remember the president of Iran came to USA and said they never have gay people in Iran! Funny thing was that year the Mr. Gay Canada was from Iran who was studying in Canada.

So, whatever reasons it may be, some people go through phases (like Hellraiser was saying he did not know if he was till 14/15 and myself I honestly did not know if I was gay till freshman year in college. I knew I liked dick and I liked to watch porn or whatever but I thought I always gonna get married like the rest of the people I knew). Then, I knew I was gay and acted on it and went through my ‘denial phase’ and now working on terms to accept it ‘fully’. So, we can't pin point a single line. Everyone is different and everyone goes through different stages. It's pretty shallow to say people know if they are gay when they are 5 just looking at your own example. I would try to think everyone is different and everyone goes through different phases (some just don't go through phases and it could happen) and everyone is going to handle it differently. I, do, however, believe that people are born gay/straight/bi whether they act/accept or deny the fact.
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« Reply #39 on: September 24, 2011, 12:26:34 pm »
I do believe there's some genetic factor at play, but the environment is also very important. Remember, in Ancient Greece, gay sex was commonplace. If gay sex were accepted as completely normal by society today, many more guys would do it. Humans are very sexual creatures, we get aroused with lots of things. So I believe we are intrinsically and potentially bisexual, but some genetic and especially environmental factors "forces" us to take sides. If I didn't like women so much, I would have to accept I'm gay, because If I got a dime every time I heard someone saying bisexuals didn't exist...

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« Reply #40 on: September 24, 2011, 01:13:22 pm »
Just joking about New Wave and the coming out timing.
I was fascinated by Bowie in the 70's.  I had crushes alternately on boys and girls from elementary school on.  It never occurred to me in Jr. HS or HS I could actually have sex with boys.  I was happy to have girlfriends and fool around with them.  I guess 18 is "adult" for a lot of American guys of my generation so I just figured at 18 I had better start pursuing the boys.  Then I transferred to a college where it was very trendy to be bi so it was pretty easy and figured out soon enough I preferred guys and was basically gay and had been "performing" being hetero, because for me it hetero relations were pleasant enough and the path of least resistance.

I have heard all sorts of realisations stories so I think we can accept anything is possible, though not common.  Even a knock on the head.

I had a professor of human development in college who claimed his life long research led him to suspect men on men sex was quite related to the sense of smell and hormones role in physical attraction. (Thanks, Madonna.)  He didn't know about female homosexuality.  And "homosexual" or "gay" are social constructs, ways to act, not genetic "sexual orientation" which does not exist.  The genetic just makes queer boys either really want, or be ok, with doing other boys.   

As many of us know the "identity" of gay or "homosexual" is not universal or the same in all cultures.  But there is male-male sex in all cultures.


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« Reply #41 on: September 24, 2011, 02:36:37 pm »
Since2005- I am saying the same thing as you are, that people are 'born' with whatever sexual preferences they have. I never said I knew I was gay at 5 or that anyone does, I said I knew I was a little different from other boys and the reason for that became clear later in life. I am of the view that a person's sexuality is as unique as your finger print and you are 'born' with it.

And about 'pre-indenial' maybe we misunderstand each other cos I am saying the same thing as you. One always knows deep down inside whom they are attracted to but they may convince themselves otherwise due to external pressures which in turn create internal conflicts so deep that it can colour their perception of what they find attractive- especially in sexually repressive cultures.

And I totally agree with the ancient greece example that if being gay wasn't viewed as being 'less of a man' as it is in many cultures and had society's stamp of approval you'd see a lot more bi-curious etc guys acting on their desires. Conversely, a lot of guys (especially in smaller towns and villages) of India, Pakistan, etc who would be labelled as 'gay' in the West cannot ever imagine themselves being 'romantically involved' with other men (or so they like to project) although they enjoy sex with them. They see nothing wrong with separating homosexual desire from their role of a man in society- which is to marry a woman and have a family.

'Gay' as a sexual identity in the western sense is a fairly alien term outside of the big cities in South Asia. Like Mecch said there are many non-westernized concepts of male sexuality- which usually try to draw a boundary between romantic attraction and physical attraction for the same sex. It facilitates a 'sitting on the fence' type mentality which seems to suit everyone, - that is until western notions of 'sexual identity' and 'gay identiy' start finding appeal and popularity through globalistation. ;)

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« Reply #42 on: September 24, 2011, 02:57:08 pm »
And "homosexual" or "gay" are social constructs, ways to act, not genetic "sexual orientation" which does not exist.  The genetic just makes queer boys either really want, or be ok, with doing other boys.   

I think that "sexual orientation" is a misnomer -- it is more about "affectional orientation".  Yes, I am attracted to men sexually, but, to me, being gay is about who you are attracted to and who you are "wired" to fall in love with -- for me that is other men.  It always raises the hair on my neck when I see others constantly equate being gay to the sexual side of it.  Could I have sex with women?  Sure -- I could and I have -- but I have never been "in love" with a woman -- only with men.

So -- my genetics don't make me "ok" with doing other men -- it has wired me to be attracted to other men -- sex being just one part of that attraction.

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« Reply #43 on: September 24, 2011, 03:34:10 pm »
I think that "sexual orientation" is a misnomer -- it is more about "affectional orientation".  Yes, I am attracted to men sexually, but, to me, being gay is about who you are attracted to and who you are "wired" to fall in love with -- for me that is other men.  It always raises the hair on my neck when I see others constantly equate being gay to the sexual side of it.  Could I have sex with women?  Sure -- I could and I have -- but I have never been "in love" with a woman -- only with men.

So -- my genetics don't make me "ok" with doing other men -- it has wired me to be attracted to other men -- sex being just one part of that attraction.

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From this perspective, then I'm straight. Cool.  :D

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« Reply #44 on: September 24, 2011, 03:41:10 pm »
I am the similar to LM, being gay for me has always been much more a raw sexual, physical thing than an emotional thing- but the two are obviously not mutually exclusive- they are linked and do interplay.

If you take the sex out and reduce it to cuddling it defeats the purpose of being gay according to me. Sex is the best part.  ;)

According to me, or at least for me, homosexuality is first and foremost about sexual attraction and the affectional orientation part is  a logical consequence of that.
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« Reply #45 on: September 24, 2011, 04:28:59 pm »
And about 'pre-in denial' maybe we misunderstand each other cos I am saying the same thing as you. One always knows deep down inside whom they are attracted to but they may convince themselves otherwise due to external pressures, which in turn create internal conflicts so deep that it can colour their perception of what they find attractive- especially in sexually repressive cultures.

We have and we are still... See, we are still talking about two different things. having sex with men and being married with a women one thing and that would fall into 'denial stage' because at this point the person has already known the fact that he is gay ( sorry lesbians I am referring from a male perspective ;)). That I have gone through that in my denial stage as I thought its not biggie to have sex with men and I will eventually get married with a women when times comes. However, be sure to get this point. I have had stage when it NEVER occurred to me to have sex with men. At this point, I was feeling nothing about men. I didn’t know what to think about sex with men ( its very possible due to suppressed cultural issues or it may not). I would like to use Meech example for this –
I had crushes alternately on boys and girls from elementary school on.  It never occurred to me in Jr. HS or HS I could actually have sex with boys.
It never “ occurred” to me either to have sex with men (hey I was made believe to not have sex with women before marriage forget about men). So, I know I had a stage ( may be kinda like the guy in the article that we are talking about possible deeply suppressed traits). Growing up, I was never attracted to my friends because they were my friends. Everyone acts/reacts to things differently that’s the point that I am making and it may or may not be due to cultural issues. So, after my ‘Pre in –denial’ stage, I entered into ‘denial stage’ and at this point I knew I was gay and that’s where I used ‘the cultural dilemma’ for not being able to accept it.

Pre – denial stage – Nobody to blame cuz you are not even aware of the fact that you are gay but other may notices. Hey I always wondered about the few actors if they are in their ‘pre in denial’ stage ;D

Brad Pitt
George Clooney
Tom Cruise and many others..

Denial Stage – You are aware of the fact that you are gay and at this stage you are denying it.

Could I have sex with women?  Sure -- I could and I have -- but I have never been "in love" with a woman -- only with men.
Mike
Mike you are so gay  :)  But, honestly, I cannot have sex with women. It never works for me. That’s the whole point, we all are different and ‘wired out’ differently.

If gay sex were accepted as completely normal by society today, many more guys would do it.
– I agree and I think we would have seen more ‘bi curious’ guys around!

I wondered about this – if someone is not able to be attracted to male emotionally but sexually ‘not gay’ or ‘in denial’ or ‘pre in denial’ where you don’t even know you are denying it, something that one needs to work out with some professional help and then figure it out. I know I got through some of my stuff by just taking with my shrink and things started to make more sense when I was dealing with my ‘in denial’ stage.

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« Reply #46 on: September 24, 2011, 04:34:41 pm »
From this perspective, then I'm straight. Cool.  :D

I was thinking about that too:).. Well, you could be 'not gay not straight' someone who have sex with men and use them as an object like a lots guys would do  :)..... about you,  I am joking... :)

Though, I do believe, that the way you are feeling that has anything to do with your way of looking at it. Because if you just say you are attracted to men sexually not emotionally then what would make you? and why not? May be then you are more straight and less gay and according to Mike you are straight. but wonder why is that 'cool' being straight? --- I am kidding.. or Am I? lol..

LM, I am actually kidding. I really don't know. I had a bi friend in college who had a son when he was young and he always told me that he is never attracted to male emotionally but is very attracted to them sexually, I have always wondered why and why not and I believe these issues one always needs to figure out himself or herself.

Again we all are different like your fingerprints (as Space mentioned) and there is no set rule or guidelines that we need to follow to stereotype anyone, that's the way I see it.
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« Reply #47 on: September 24, 2011, 06:45:54 pm »
– I agree and I think we would have seen more ‘bi curious’ guys around!

That's why I agree with Kinsey's findings. In the 1950s, he found that around 50% of married men had had at least one sexual act with another man. That's a LOT. And in prison, gay sex is everywhere. I think society makes us more resistant toward that, so many guys would enjoy sex with another man, but they block out the idea because of cultural reasons. I mean, it's ridiculous a guy saying "two men kissing are disgusting". If he were any comfortable with his sexuality, it shouldn't bother him at all. But that's living in society and its rules.

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Though, I do believe, that the way you are feeling that has anything to do with your way of looking at it. Because if you just say you are attracted to men sexually not emotionally then what would make you? and why not? May be then you are more straight and less gay and according to Mike you are straight. but wonder why is that 'cool' being straight? --- I am kidding.. or Am I? lol..

That's why I say being a bisexual male is very complicated. Gay men usually treat it as if it was just the same, but it's very different. But I thought it was funny that, after having sex with plenty of men, that I would be straight in someone's eyes.

Anyway, I agree that it may have to do with my way of looking at it. I do believe the ideal match is a man and a woman. Not for everyone, but I think that our differences makes us even, if you get what I mean. So I may block that idea of having an emotional attraction for another guy because of that, though it's not intentional. I have liked some guys, but nowhere near anything you would call love. And I've fallen in love with a few women. And many, if not most bisexual men feel the same way, for many reasons, I believe. That is also why so many (most, actually) are in the closet.

It is very complicated. Although I like many aspects of enjoying both men and women, I wish I were just straight, or even just gay. Life would be much simpler.

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« Reply #48 on: September 24, 2011, 08:30:12 pm »
I have to say -- this "pre - in - denial" crap is ridiculous.  If you aren't aware you're gay (or bi, or str8) then you are simply unaware.  If you are suppressing or pretending to be something you aren't -- that is denial.  I just don't get where this idiotic made up term comes from.
Personally, I don't get how anyone could be unaware of their orientation -- but that is me and I'm very open to NOT being the model for all others.

Also -- for all you folk who equate being gay with the physical/sexual side, what happens to you if you become impotent?  Are you no longer gay?  What are you then??  The point I was trying to make, is that being gay is MORE than sex.  If I had my balls cut-off tomorrow -- I'm pretty damned sure that it would not end my feelings toward my partner.  I love him and would still love him even without sex.  After 21+ years, we have more than just sex that binds us together.

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« Reply #49 on: September 24, 2011, 09:04:10 pm »
Also -- for all you folk who equate being gay with the physical/sexual side, what happens to you if you become impotent?  Are you no longer gay?  What are you then??  The point I was trying to make, is that being gay is MORE than sex.  
– Is someone having enough sex? I wonder why would he be crabby otherwise  ;D please follow below -

I have to say -- this "pre - in - denial" crap is ridiculous.  If you aren't aware you're gay (or bi, or str8) then you are simply unaware.  If you are suppressing or pretending to be something you aren't -- that is denial.  I just don't get where this idiotic made up term comes from.
Personally, I don't get how anyone could be unaware of their orientation -- but that is me and I'm very open to NOT being the model for all others.
Good to hear - Some people are unaware of their sexuality what can I say. Stupid made up terms are supposed to be idiotic. Me and my friend used to play this game to classify some 'straight/straight acting individuals' and it was funny. Hmm.. this one is 'in-denial'.. that one is ' pre in-denial' , this one is straight acting etc. However, I have to say watch your tone and  especially that’s coming form someone who is a Grandfather of 5! Glad you said you are not to be model for others especially can't write with good manners at times! "Crap", "Idiotic", guess one word for you what a "....." (there are 5 dots in here please fill in the gap. I wish I could have spelled out the whole word). If I could make myself clear, usage of these types words/tones doesn’t go too far with me. Stay the F... away.

That's why I say being a bisexual male is very complicated. Gay men usually treat it as if it was just the same, but it's very different. But I thought it was funny that, after having sex with plenty of men, that I would be straight in someone's eyes.
ROFL -Its funny! Based on someone's definition you are straight! When I read it I laughed my ass off! Opps ;)

Not for everyone, but I think that our differences makes us even, if you get what I mean. So I may block that idea of having an emotional attraction for another guy because of that, though it's not intentional. I have liked some guys, but nowhere near anything you would call love. And I've fallen in love with a few women. And many, if not most bisexual men feel the same way, ..
It is very complicated. Although I like many aspects of enjoying both men and women, I wish I were just straight, or even just gay. Life would be much simpler.
You are right! It may be hard for me to get as I cannot put myself in someone else’s shoes. I just wondered is all. About love, I don’t think I could ever fall in love with anyone. Its actually sad. I want to but either I haven't met the right person or I am too selfish. I was never in love with anyone. So, I have always wondered how is that feeling of being loved or to love someone. Hey, at least , you are lucky that you have been able to fall in love with some people regardless of the gender. I could understand a bit though why bisexuality could be harder than being gay or straight.
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