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HIV Prevention and Testing => Do I Have HIV? => Topic started by: mak841109 on December 06, 2013, 03:50:12 pm

Title: PLEASE , IF YPU COULD HELP ME , I WOULD REALLY APRECIATE
Post by: mak841109 on December 06, 2013, 03:50:12 pm
HI

I AM NEW TO THIS FORUM , SO HERE IS THE THING ,I AM A MALE , I AM MARRIED , TO  A WOMAN , BUT FOR SOME REASON , I HAD THE NEED TO EXPERIMENT WITH ANOTHER MAN, IT WAS STUPID, BECAUSE IT WAS CHEATTIING ON MY WIFE , BUT ANY WAY , I MET WITH THIS GUY , DONT KNOW HIS STATS, OR ANYTHING ABOT HIM , RIGHT FROM THE START HE PUT ON A CONDOM , BECAUSE I REFUSED TO TOUCH HIM , IF HE DIDNT PUT A CONDOM  , ANYWAY , HE PUT IT , EAVEN WITH OUT ME ASKING , THEN I DID THE SAME THING TO MY SELF , NO CONTACT TILL THAT PART , AFTER THAT , HE ASKED ME TO SUCK HIS DICK , WITCH I DID FOR ABOUT 1 MINUTE TOPS, I DONT THINK I DAMEGE THE CONDOM WITH MY TEETH , AFTER THAT, HE SUCKED MY DICK TOO , I ALREADY HAD A CONDOM , HE DID IT FOR ABOUT A MINUTE , I DONT THINK HE DAMEGE THE CONDOM OR ANYTHING , AFTER THAT I SUCKED HIM AGAIN FOR ABOUT A MINUTE , DIDNT NOTICE CUM OR PRE CUM IN MY SELF OR THE OTHER GUY, AFTER THAT WITH THE CONDOMS ON WE MASTURBATE IT EACH OTHER UNTILL WE BOOTH CAME, DIDNT SEE THE CONDOMS DAMEGE OR ANYTHING.

I DONT THINK THERE WAS SKIN CONTACT IN ANY CASE, BUT BECAUSE I AM MARRIED  I DONT WANT TO TAKE ANY CHANCE WITH MY WIFE OR MY KID, I CANT TALK TO MY WIFE ABOUT IT , BECAUSE I DONT SEE THE CASE SINCE I KNOW NOW I AM NOT GAY OR BISEXUAL, BUT I REALLY CAN BARE TO LIVE WITH MY SELF IF THERES A SLIGHT CHANCE I COULD HAVE GOTTEN ANY STD OR HIV AND PASSIT ON TO MY WIFE.

SO PLEASE CAN YOU HELP ME , SHOULD I GET TESTED FOR ANYTHING , THERE WAS ALWAYS A CONDOM PRESENT IN BOOTH CASES RIGHT FORM THE SECOND HE TOOK HIS PANTS OFF AND MY SELF.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOURE HELP

GOD BLESS YOU
Title: Re: PLEASE , IF YPU COULD HELP ME , I WOULD REALLY APRECIATE
Post by: RapidRod on December 06, 2013, 04:00:49 pm
 You never had an exposure to HIV even if you had not used a condom.
Title: Re: PLEASE , IF YPU COULD HELP ME , I WOULD REALLY APRECIATE
Post by: Jeff G on December 06, 2013, 04:38:23 pm
Rod is correct, you never had a risk .

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME for this incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than HIV. Some of the other STDs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid HIV infection. It really is that simple!
Title: Re: PLEASE , IF YPU COULD HELP ME , I WOULD REALLY APRECIATE
Post by: mak841109 on December 11, 2013, 01:34:43 pm
thank you very much for your help and advice, i know my questions are stupid, i know i suffer from aidsphobia , i was in treatment with a psiquiatris or i don't know how to wright it in english, i was put on sertalin and rivotril , and was almost hospitalized from trying to commit suicide due to fears , i simply didn't want it to keep on suffering this much , after four years of treatment , i was told that i was o to continue with my life , but i can clearly see , that i am not , i have irrational fear , spatially to all the what ifs, what iff the condom was not good quality , and a lot of things that drive me cray , i know i have not contracted hiv , maybe if i wasn't married , i wouldn't be in such anxiety and fear, but i know , i have to seek medical help again , because i cannot control my self and my mind on my own , i know i am hiv negative because in te past 4 years  did 56 hiv test , including , pcr , western blots and hiv test , but i know my problem is metal and i learned to never cheat on my wife again , not only because is wrong , but because i just can t handle any type of physical conduct with another human being.

i thank you all for the work you do , and god bless you.

the only thing i can say , its that i will go back to take anxiety and depression medication , because , its not worth living like this , you can't spend 20 hours a day worring  and suffering.
Title: Re: PLEASE , IF YPU COULD HELP ME , I WOULD REALLY APRECIATE
Post by: Jeff G on December 11, 2013, 01:41:03 pm
Thank you for being honest about you phobia . Please print this thread out and share it with your doctor . I'm wishing you the best of luck and mental health .
Title: Re: PLEASE , IF YPU COULD HELP ME , I WOULD REALLY APRECIATE
Post by: mak841109 on December 11, 2013, 01:48:15 pm
thank you and everyone in the forum, i would certainly print it and discuss it with the dr.