how to find her ?

[diced]

Hey all,
Recently i was in Thailand for the full moon party on koh phanagen had the best night of my life , I met a nice french girl we hooked up went home and had unprotected sex all day basically. Then when it came time for her to go home she left then it hit me i only new her first name , age , job and what area in franch shes from roughly. Now im waiting on a blood test atm if i do come back hiv + how the hell can i find her coz she needs to no that shes also hiv positive before she passes it on any further ?? ive tryed facebook no luck its fuked !
Thanks everyone

[Andy Velez]

Your Frenchwoman is an adult and is responsible for her own health. As are you.

HIV is harder to transmit from woman to man than it is to transmit from man to woman. And this was a single incident. Those are factors in your favor against becoming infected from this incident.

You need to test at 3 months for a conclusive negative result. You can test initially at 6 weeks. If you get a negative at that point then it is likely you will continue to test negative.

It's important that you learn from this experience. You can have all the intercourse you want to and with anyone regardless of their HIV status. But you need to always do it the safer way. That means using a condom everytime. No exceptions.

Never mind about looking for the woman. You were both behaving irresponsibily to be having intercourse without a condom.

Good luck with your test results.

[diced]

i agree, what exactly are my chances . given that my penis has no cuts on it , she obviously is sexually active shes 23 . im hiv - before this 100% got tested b4 i left . im only concerned coz she never mentioned a condom once nor did she seem to care meaning she could very well b like this all the time !

[diced]

NO IDEA what her status is obviously but she made it clear she loves sex , its been 10 days now and i feel like shit

[jkinatl2]

Not sure what to tell you here. Neither symptoms nor lack of symptoms can indicate your HIV status. Only time would allow your body to produce antibodies.

A test at six weeks after the incident will be a terrific indicator, but a three month test result remains the "gold standard."

Just gotta find a way to hang in there.

[Ann]

Diced,

You're far more likely to end up with something like chlamydia, gonorrhea, or herpes from this wild afternoon than you are hiv - even if she IS hiv positive. Go get yourself checked out for those (and syphilis too) even if you don't have any symptoms.

Chlamydia is the most common STI in your age demographic, both where you live and in France too. It's much more prevalent all over the world, and that's partly because people often don't have symptoms, and because it's VERY easy to transmit, they unwittingly pass it on. Get checked out.

You can test for most other STIs ten days to two weeks following a risky incident, but syphilis shares a three month testing window with hiv for a conclusive result.

You need to learn from this and stop having unprotected intercourse, no matter where in the world you are when you have it. That includes where you live.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann