What is my risk?

[helpisneeded]

I am a bisexual man, about 12 days ago. I was feeling frisky and hooked up with a guy. I had in the past; normally we would just do oral but this time he wanted to be penetrated we put on a condom (being honest) we used lubrication but in retrospect, we could have done a better job. We proceeded to have intercourse with me on top. The condom broke, and i stopped immediately I pulled out BUT noticed feces on the head of my penis. I was going out of town and didn't think much about it until I started having  a severe cough with lots of mucus 2 days afterwards. Now on day 10 I am feeling extremely weak (have no fever) yet still have a cough with mucus. This is starting to concern me that I may have contracted HIV from this encounter. I asked the gentleman about his status he says " I am negative as of 2 months ago; but was unable to cough up proof." What is the likelihood that I am now positive and will have disclose to my wife my fuck-up?

[Jim Allen]

Hiya

The symptoms that started 2 days after the incident are not HIV related from this encounter and the rest is not HIV specific, see your regular doctor and treat whatever is making you feel unwell and I hope you feel better soon.

Regarding the HIV risk from the broken condom incident, it is an HIV risk although the good news is that until the condom broke it would have been protecting you, also as you were the insertive partner it would be less risky than being the receiving partner as an example.

Now as it still was an HIV risk you should test at 6 weeks post-incident with a blood-drawn approved antibodies test a negative result at that time will rarely ever change although, if you wish you can confirm these result at 3 months post-encounter. Also remember to test for far easier to acquire STI's whilst you are at it.

" I am negative as of 2 months ago; but was unable to cough up proof."

Even if he tested this morning it would be irrelevant due to the window period. The only way to know your HIV status is by testing yourself at the appropriate time

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP going forward as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as safe in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other easier to transmit STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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[helpisneeded]

Thank you for your fast response. I decided to make an appointment and requested an HIV RNA test to ease my mind. Prayers up this, according to the provider this is the best they can do until the next 3 weeks.

[Jim Allen]

Sure, if it gives you some peace of mind. 

Just test with the antibodies test when due to confirm, in the meantime, try to relax and live your life as normal.

Best, Jim

[helpisneeded]

Test completed.