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Title: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: naftalim on November 27, 2006, 01:30:52 pm
Hi all,

Can you recommend some good sites for online dating, other than the ones where extic Russian beauties just desperately want to meet someone with HIV?

Thanks,

Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: Beatz4me on November 27, 2006, 02:02:35 pm
Hi there,

Pozmatch.com is a good start

Michael
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: Longislander on November 27, 2006, 02:34:57 pm
pozmatch.com, tho those women are there, too-lol
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: spicy1 on November 27, 2006, 02:47:56 pm
Hi

Pozmatch.com has been the best site so far that ive come across with serious people.

Spiced
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: Longislander on November 27, 2006, 02:49:25 pm
oh yes, I forgot. I did get a date or 2 out of pozmatch.
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: Eldon on November 27, 2006, 06:16:22 pm
Hey,

www.pozmatch.com (http://www.pozmatch.com)


Make the BEST of each Day!
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: naftalim on November 27, 2006, 07:05:36 pm
Well, this is going to be tough, there are 14 women with photos in Canada on pozmatch, and 2 in British Columbia, one of whom I know. I took a look at Washington State which is the closest to me here. I am sure that I am not telling many of you anything new that this is the most difficult issue.

Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: Eldon on November 27, 2006, 07:08:58 pm
Hey Naftalim,

I DO understand that it is tough. Keep up with your search and you are bound to find what you are looking for.



Make the BEST of each Day!
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: Longislander on November 27, 2006, 10:53:04 pm
well, at least you saw a REAL person! lol

Good luck buddy.
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: AtomicA on November 28, 2006, 01:43:08 am
Hey Naftalim - it's hard hey? just for hoots (I have somehow managed to develop me a boyfriend... I don't know how that happened. he's negative) I looked up guys in my area around my age. Not a single one. I think we need to move to new york or LA or something!
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: NightmareHall on November 28, 2006, 10:23:11 am
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Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: poet on November 28, 2006, 08:12:29 pm
That's so nice for Boston.   ::) It would be nice if one or two or a half of one decided to venture down to the Cape listings where we sit as though in a museum because with all those Boston listings, why would we down here be able to get the attention?   :P Win
Title: List of HIV+ Dating Sites
Post by: DanKenny on November 29, 2006, 10:30:12 am
Here is a compendium of + online sites:

http://www.whispy.com/hiv-positive-singles-dating.html

All the best
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: lydgate on January 01, 2007, 10:08:39 pm
I got a date from poz.com personals. It was a disaster.  :( Jay
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: thunter34 on January 02, 2007, 12:14:11 am
I just browsed pozmatch and found about 3 pages.

Most of them haven't been to the site in more than a year.


Great!  Now all I need is a Time Machine and - LOOK OUT !!


(Then again, if I can find the Time Machine, I'll probably dial up a good year pre-poz.  Love you guys longtime, but...)
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: Longislander on January 02, 2007, 12:23:28 am
Tim, that means all the pozzies in Atlanta are hooking up and getting married! ;)
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: Queen Tokelove on January 02, 2007, 12:35:22 am
Agrees with Thunter about the expiration date on the ads. I guess they got frustrated too and said the hell with it. I know I have because I can never seem to find anyone close to me.
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: Buckmark on January 02, 2007, 02:52:37 pm
I commented on personals ads in one of the "Dating" threads, but feel compelled to add my
2 cents here as well.  Two big issues I have with personals ads are:  (1) It is too easy to screen
out people, or be screened out, based on just a tiny bit of information (e.g. I like the mountains,
but you like the ocean -- OMG it will never work!).  (2)  People really don't seem to read someone's
ad before contacting them (e.g. I just can't date a smoker or drug user).  I realize these two
seem to be at odds, so maybe it is important to state what is a preference, versus what is a
"deal-breaker".  It'd be nice to find a way to structure a personals web site to promote more
interaction.

Here's a 3rd issue:  It's just too darn easy for people to lie about themselves.  I think we've all
encountered that.

I'm learning that I do better at meeting folks in person, e.g., through social organizations, clubs,
etc.  So I've been trying to do more of that over the past year -- at least it gets me out of the
house more! 

Cheers,

Henry
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: lydgate on January 03, 2007, 10:59:51 am
Checked email this morning to find I had a message from someone on PositiveSingles. The man wasn't attractive but never mind that; he was more than two decades older but never mind that; he has HPV but never mind that. What really "got" me was the line: "I have anal warts and I'm looking for a guy who's really into them."  ???

Jay
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: Buckmark on January 03, 2007, 11:46:28 am
Jay,

I can only hope that this guy is looking to meet someone who is a colorectal surgeon.   :o

This is the kind of experience that really makes me hate using personal ads to meet people.

Henry
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: thunter34 on January 03, 2007, 11:55:51 am
Agrees with Thunter about the expiration date on the ads. I guess they got frustrated too and said the hell with it. I know I have because I can never seem to find anyone close to me.


Exactly!!  I am just ALL THE RAGE with any guy that lives at least 500 miles away! 
To those guys, I range somewhere between:   :o     to      ;)      to      :P

Closer than that, I apparently garner something closer to:     :(      to      :-[     to       :'(    , with some   ::)  thrown in for good measure.  I guess cuz I'm kinda goofy.  *sigh*

All of this makes me feel like:    >:(


A big, fat PHOOEY to that !!

~tim
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: poet on January 03, 2007, 12:02:49 pm
 :D Ok, I will admit that I have lifted right from the page a number of personals to see what I could do by slightly adjusting their meter toward poem creation... and have published the results for (their) pleasure.  So perhaps we can take the stress out of personals by posting here (meaning in the forums) the 'best' of the bunch or your latest replies?  I mean what can you do exact laugh when you get a reply like Jay's?  Win
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: bravebuddharich on January 03, 2007, 07:56:02 pm
I'll ckeck out pozmatch.com - I havent' liked poz.com personals at all; I liked (probably because I met some nice guys I liked, it just never worked out as a longterm thing) the old positivepersonals.com, which is now defunct. And I did much better with the old style, where you had to write letters, but then again I was much younger and physically quite attractive, so it was just easier to meet guys anyway (42 is considered ancient in Boston! esp. for other 42 year olds!) (;

I'd much rather meet guys out in the world, but where? I can't seem to find anything that works for me here these days...

Rich from Boston
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: Iggy on January 03, 2007, 08:48:29 pm
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Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: thunter34 on January 03, 2007, 08:55:41 pm
I think this site has turned into one to be honest. 


really?  who here has met up and dated someone else from this site?  i'd like to know.
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: Razorbill on January 03, 2007, 08:56:55 pm
I've just joined poz personals thru here.  I have gotten some initial interesting contacts and communications.  Too early to tell - but I was surprised to find more than one potentially suitable guy in my area.
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: Razorbill on January 03, 2007, 08:59:00 pm
I don't know about this site but the AMG 06 was a real goldmine..... ;D
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: poet on January 04, 2007, 06:30:01 am
Tim, I have 'met' someone via the forums.  As I have posted, we found ourselves replying to each other's posts with everyone else silent, so moved things to p.m.'s within aidsmeds.com and then direct emails and phone calls.  While the forums are not the personals, I think and hope that anyone reading our comments is getting a sense of the real person, far realer and more personal than personals often are and so, like meeting someone at the gym, via an a.s.o. or somewhere else in the 'real' world, as long as you let readers know enough, such as where you live, your relationship status, there is every reason to expect that someone might 'hit' on you here. :)  Best, Win
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: Oceanbeach on January 06, 2007, 07:33:32 pm
I have never been on pozmatch but, I did meet a few men on Planet-out-to-lunch.  Each of these people got a lot older in real life than in their photos.  One of them aged 20 years and added 50 lbs in 24 hours!   ;D  Things are not what they seem in cyber date world.

Someone I knew once found a "perfect" match for me on gaysonoma.  He wasn't the perfect match but is still a great friend.  After 3 years on 3 sites, he did finally find his perfect match and is planning to move to Atlanta this year.  Have the best day
Michael
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: lydgate on January 06, 2007, 07:41:19 pm
I've had GREAT cybersex and phone sex with someone from these forums and we might take a trip together soon. But I'm not telling.  :P
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: wishihadacat on January 07, 2007, 04:55:49 pm
I don't know how well Pozmatch works for gay men, but for those of us who prefer our parters without penises its a mixed bag, as Pozmatch tends to bring every Nigerian scammer and would-be Russian bride out of the woodwork. Needless to say, be appropriately cautious. Hivnet.com seems to have a smaller user base right now, but its worth a shot. Positivesingles.com is a great looking site, but most of the women have herpes or other STDs than HIV.  I wouldn't waste too much time on any other sites right now, although for sheer entertainment, nothing beats Adultfriendfinder, which is a hoot. God only knows how many of the men and woman on that site are the kind who don't disclose that they are actually infected with multiple strains of exotic bugs. Watch where you put your tongue!
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: allopathicholistic on January 07, 2007, 05:03:36 pm
although for sheer entertainment, nothing beats Adultfriendfinder, which is a hoot.

LOL wishi - For awhile my clueless female friend was looking for a boyfriend and possible husband on Adultfriendfinder. She met about 5 guys from there and let all of them fuck her. When it was over, still no BF. I did try to explain it to her - yknow- the ADULT part .....  :-\

Did I mention she's clueless?
Title: Re: best dating sites online for HIV?
Post by: wishihadacat on January 07, 2007, 06:50:47 pm
Five guys? Send her over! lol