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Title: IM SACARED THAT I MIGHT BE INFECTED
Post by: sosofresh87 on September 19, 2009, 07:12:19 am
On october of 2008 i had a exposer,me and this gurl didnt actualy have sex but she gave me head,and we was doin alot of kissing,and she got on top of me and started to grind on the top of my penis(i had no condom) but i wasnt inside of her tho,a coupleof weeks after i started to get these weird lessions in my mouth,on my cheek theres this whitish raised line,and on the side of my toungue it was the same thing but it would be a whiteline then it would go away for a while the lil white patches would show,then then white line would show again.


I had other symptoms 2 like swollen lymph nodes,mussle aches i still have em on my neck,and red bumps on my tongue but that was like after ars would have came so i dnt kno if it was stress or what,so 60 days after exposer i took a EIA test it was negative,then i took a rapid test at 5 months andit was negative,and i took another EIA test 6 1/2 months i was 4 days away from it being 7 months and it was negative,so my question is is there a chance that i seroconverted late and im scared cause now im started to get these rashes on my chest,stomach,back,arms,thighs,shoulders ,and they appear in blotches and lines,and i had 2 lil rasied dots on my arm but they come and go,but the weird thing about these rashes is that they would appear and in 15 min they would dissapear and they itch sometimes they dont and most of the time they do and it's been like that for 3 months now,mind you i havent had sex since october,so my question is there a chance that i could be having chronic hiv? and i still have swollen lymph nodes in my groin and a couple of other places, are thses rashes the sign of hiv?plzzzzz help






Title: Re: IM SACARED THAT I MIGHT BE INFECTED
Post by: Ann on September 19, 2009, 08:31:00 am
soso,

It's no surprise that you tested negative - you weren't at risk for hiv infection in the situation you describe. Sexually speaking, hiv is transmitted during unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse where the virus never leaves the confines of the two bodies.

Neither kissing nor getting a blowjob are risks for hiv infection. Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen diffferent proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect. Not one person has ever been infected through being kissed or blown and you won't be the first.

Frottage is also not a risk. Frottage is the word used to describe what happened when she was grinding on top of you, with no penetration. No risk.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED FURTHER TESTING AT THIS TIME anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

To recap, nothing you did or had done to you was a risk for hiv infection. You are conclusively hiv negative and you do not need further testing. If you feel unwell or are worried about rashes, see your doctor. Whatever is going on has nothing to do with hiv. You have conclusively ruled hiv out of the picture.

Ann
Title: Re: IM SACARED THAT I MIGHT BE INFECTED
Post by: sosofresh87 on September 20, 2009, 06:59:33 am


  Thanx ann i really appreciate you writing me back,it's just hard because some people say it can take longer than 6 months to get a accurate results,but i have a cuuple more questions to ask and i promise i'll move on,can you get hiv rash 8 1/2 post exposer?  and is there any chance tha i could of seroconverted late?i also have lymph node swelling in my groin and in a couple other places so thats really creeping me out cause they say if u have swollen lymph nodes all over ya body its due to hiv,
Title: Re: IM SACARED THAT I MIGHT BE INFECTED
Post by: Ann on September 20, 2009, 07:08:09 am
soso,

"Some people" are WRONG. The window period for hiv testing is three months and it has been three months for years now.

NO to the rash thing. When a person has actually been infected, if they get the ARS rash (not everyone does), it happens two to three weeks after infection has taken place.

YOU DID NOT HAVE A RISK and so you're not going to get an ARS rash because of this incident. There is no chance that you will seroconvert from this incident late, early, or ever.

It really is high time you moved on with your life. If you cannot accept your negative status, that's something to discuss with a mental health care provider. If you feel unwell, that's something to discuss with your doctor. Whatever is going on has nothing to do with hiv. Not only did you NOT have a risk, but you also tested hiv negative far outside the window period.

Keep posting about this NO RISK incident and you'll be quickly given a time out. If you read the Welcome Thread (http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=220.0) before posting like you're supposed to, you will have read the following posting guideline:

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Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.



Ann
Title: Re: IM SACARED THAT I MIGHT BE INFECTED
Post by: sosofresh87 on September 20, 2009, 09:45:15 pm

 Ok ann thank you for your respond and ur wisdom on the situation,ima try to stop thinkin about it and seek a theropist,but is it true that u can get it from breast milk cu i for goy to leave out that i suck on her nipples and at the time her kid was 1 so i dont kno if she was lactating or not.
Title: Re: IM SACARED THAT I MIGHT BE INFECTED
Post by: RapidRod on September 20, 2009, 09:53:10 pm
Adults cannot contract HIV from breast milk.
Title: Re: IM SACARED THAT I MIGHT BE INFECTED
Post by: Andy Velez on September 21, 2009, 08:37:42 am
It is only an infant who can become infected through breastfeeding. Unlike adults, an infant's immune system hasn't kicked in yet and that makes them vulnerable to infection.

As Rod has told you, sucking on her nipples did not put you at risk.
Title: Re: IM SACARED THAT I MIGHT BE INFECTED
Post by: sosofresh87 on September 26, 2009, 02:18:32 am
what about the fact that i have swollen lymph nodes all over body,cause ppl say if u have that its a good chance that you could be infected.
Title: Re: IM SACARED THAT I MIGHT BE INFECTED
Post by: RapidRod on September 26, 2009, 02:26:20 am
Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.
Title: Re: IM SACARED THAT I MIGHT BE INFECTED
Post by: Andy Velez on September 26, 2009, 08:11:52 am
Swollen lymph nodes are not an HIV specific occurrence. That happens for all sorts of reasons. Keep your hands off of them and see your doctor about the problem.

If you continue to return with your latest fears and what you've "heard" somewhere about a non-risk situation, you're going to get yourself a 28 day Time Out. Consider yourself warned.  We're not here to hold your hand everytime you have another doubt.

You had no risk. Period.
Title: Re: IM SACARED THAT I MIGHT BE INFECTED
Post by: Ann on September 26, 2009, 08:14:08 am
soso,

Swollen lymph can be an indication of ANY infection in the body. It can also be an indication that the person has been touching, feeling and rubbing them all the time to see if they're swollen. Yes, touching them all the time can make them swell. If you are concerned about yours, GO SEE YOUR DOCTOR.

Whatever is going on has NOTHING to do with hiv. Not only did you NOT have a risk, but you've also tested conclusively hiv negative. YOU DO NOT HAVE HIV!!!

Continue to post about this NO RISK, CONCLUSIVE NEGATIVE situation and you WILL be given that time out. This is your last warning.

Ann