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HIV Prevention and Testing => Do I Have HIV? => Topic started by: tensed2much on July 14, 2013, 08:12:51 am
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Hello,
I am 21 year old student and this was the first time in my life, I had sex. I was in amsterdam red light district 29 days back and I had vaginal sex with a window girl. She put a condom on my penis and gave me blowjob for 6-7 mins with condom and vaginal sex for 10 mins with condom. But still I am very afraid because I am not sure about the quality of condom, if the condom broke or tear apart and if she was HIV+. There was semen collected at the bottom of my penis and my semen was sliding from inside wall of condom, at the end of sex.
But I am really worried and afraid :( :(. What are the chances that i get HIV if the condom teared or broke and the girl had HIV ??????? :(
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tensed,
You have NOT had a risk for hiv infection.
Getting a blowjob, with or without a condom, is NOT a risk for hiv infection.
If the condom broke, you WOULD have known as a broken condom is VERY obvious.
Sex workers use condoms to protect themselves, not you, so your worries that she used an inferior condom are unfounded.
Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection. There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.
Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.
To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.
Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.
ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY FOLLOWING A BLOWJOB OR PROTECTED INTERCOURSE, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.
If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.
Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!
Ann
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I am really thankful to you for your reply but I am worried, because I couldn't recognise if the condom was torn at some point or if it bursted because it was my first time in life. Do Sex workers in amsterdam use lubes to prevent tearing or friction ? If the condom breaks or tears during intercourse, what are chances of transmission of hiv ? if condom bursts does the women gets to know about the burst and she can stop the intercourse immediately because don't know how it feels when condom bursts ??
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tensed,
As I said, a broken condom is VERY obvious. It's not about small holes, it's about huge rips.
If the condom had broken, you can bet the sex worker would have said something - remember, they use condoms to protect THEMSELVES, not you. Sex workers in Amsterdam have to have regular check ups and if they are found to have a treatable STI, they cannot go back to work until the STI is completely treated, and they can no longer work if they test hiv positive.
Concerning the risk for hiv for the insertive partner (that's you) when a condom breaks, it's very, very low. In twelve years of answering risk assessment questions on this forum, I have yet to see the insertive partner end up hiv positive following a condom break.
Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus and it's more difficult to transmit from a woman (the receptive partner) to a man (the insertive partner).
Your condom did not break. You had no risk. Not low risk, NO RISK.
It sounds like this is all about your anxiety over having sex for the first time. Don't let it take you down a slippery slope that ends in irrational hiv phobia. You did the right thing and wore a condom - that's all you needed to do to avoid hiv infection. Please re-read your entire thread until it sinks in.
If you cannot bring yourself to believe me, go test, collect your negative result and move on with your life.
Ann
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Could you please tell me which other STI should i get tested for ?
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tensed,
Gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, and herpes are the main ones. You should be able to go to a doctor or sexual health clinic and ask for a full panel of STI testing. They'll know what to do and what tests should be run.
You need to know that syphilis shares a three month testing window with hiv for a conclusive negative result. The other STIs can normally be picked up on tests within ten days to two weeks following a possible exposure.
You are very unlikely to become infected with any STI from a licensed sex worker in Amsterdam - and the ones who operate out of the windows are licensed, which means they are regularly tested for STIs.
However, any sexually active adult should be having a full sexual check up at least once a year, so if you haven't had a check up in the past year, now is the time to do it.
Ann