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Main Forums => Someone I Care About Has HIV => Topic started by: angelsman on April 07, 2010, 05:19:38 am

Title: introducing myself
Post by: angelsman on April 07, 2010, 05:19:38 am
let me introduce myself-- im andy -- rons hubby -- and im proud of him as my hiv pos lover-- yes there have been issues-- glad that we agreed that i would join this website as a hiv neg guy that also wants to live a normal life with a great guy-- to all of u that have read posts about me going through his cell -- yes i did and was hurt to see some numbers on the phone that had been previously deleted and im glad that ron didnt tell all waht i found on his cell as i was trying to find out more about this wonderfull guy-- yes he has been hurt and has walls around him and i had no clue as to how i could break through these walls -- so i did a bad thing and went through his cell--    my baddie-- yet at this point we have sat down and made boundries-- wow i so never knew that i had not included him in so many aspects of my life-- the night we sat down and tlked about our issues -- i sat with my jaw on the floor -- only to realise that by going through his cell and checking his lap top is not the way to get to know this man..  my life was filled with dishonesty with my x-- --   yet now i see that the only way to find out about your lover is to comunicate and talk about issues-- even the small things that upset u-- ron went out of his way to google info on how to improve our relationship and yes we both had to make changes --  guys thanks for all your care and advice for ron -- he is my angel at heart -- please please we need all your support and i want to be there to -- oh ps we have agreed that we wont take anyones emails or cell no s from websites as we are working on a great thing here--- ron thanks for including me in this part of your life
andy
Title: Re: introducing myself
Post by: leese43 on April 07, 2010, 09:04:49 am
Hi Andy, welcome to the forums. Great to hear that you're working things through with Ron.

I've also been guilty of checking a cell in the past, think we both know now that all it does is cause needless upset. You're now doing the right thing by setting bounderies and talking honestly.

Good luck

Leese
Title: Re: introducing myself
Post by: Angel-Ronnie on April 08, 2010, 03:47:06 am
leese,

i'm glad that he is on here, it will give him an idea of what we do here, the help we provide to others. I am just at a stage in my life where I have stopped questioning someone else and takes each day as it comes with the punches. Together yes i think we will make it work Andy means the world to me and has been there since the day my father passed away, this last week was just amazing what we have achieved and the understanding that we have even after all the little issues, it is always something that can be sorted if we allow it.