Lost my virginity and worried sick now

[Tripstar]

Hello,

I am a 20 year old male. I lost my virginity to a one night stand with an exchange student a week ago. I don't know her HIV status but she did seem rather promiscuous. I had sex with her with a condom on twice and it didn't break (I even dug up the condoms the day after to confirm it) either of those times but she did give me a blowjob without a condom on and we did make out heavily and I fingered her. I keep wondering whether she might've had any cuts or bruises so I could've accidentally swallowed her blood and gotten it or for her saliva or blood to go into my penis tip.

God, I am worried sick I have HIV now after googling about it for the past nights and reading all those stories.

How big is my risk of having HIV because of that night? I really regret not having a condom on for the blowjob...

[RapidRod]

You never had an exposure. You had protected vaginal sex and HIV is not transmitted by oral sex.

[Ann]

Trip,

Getting a blowjob, with or without a condom, is not a risk for hiv infection.

Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect.

Stop worrying about blood in her mouth. Unless you're in the habit of repeatedly punching a person in the mouth before you kiss them or they blow you, there could not possibly be enough blood present to cause concern.

Fingering is also not a risk for hiv infection, regardless of cuts or whatever on your fingers. Hiv can only infect a very few, very specific types of cells, cells that are not found on the surface of the skin nor in shallow cuts.

Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is primarily transmitted INSIDE the human body, as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse where the virus never leaves the confines of the two bodies.

Once outside the body, small changes in temperature, and pH and moisture levels all quickly damage the virus and render it unable to infect. You did the right thing and used a condom for intercourse - you were protected.

Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection. There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

As you were a virgin prior to this one incident, you do not need to test at this time over this one-night-stand of protected intercourse, blowjobs or fingering.

However, for future reference, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

You need to start having regular check-ups once you are regularly sexually active.  As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann