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Offline wishful

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Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« on: November 23, 2007, 09:48:53 am »
Are there any here?? I dcided to post this question here as well..as i am looking for male feedback as well as women..
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Offline Movingon

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #1 on: November 23, 2007, 10:41:03 am »
yep, there is one here mate ! i am fairly new to this but feel free to Private message me if there is anything i can help you with. At the very least i will be able to give you a straight, married perspective on things

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #2 on: November 23, 2007, 02:03:34 pm »

Yeah, we're around.

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #3 on: November 23, 2007, 04:48:47 pm »
Wishful, I'm very new to our condition so my feedback will be minimal, but I consider myself 'straight'. 

I have no idea if it would interest anyone, but to clarify while I have had a few experiences with other males I'm quite convinced I contracted the virus through heterosexual sex.  In my case this was unprotected sex with female 'sex workers', perhaps an atypical route to infection among posters on this board, though not such an unusual one worldwide. 

I suppose the main issue with being heterosexual and male is the lack of compatriots in the same situation, but I'm so private about it that I don't think it would make any difference.  Another is that one's girlfriend or wife might be less prepared to deal with the development than a gay man's partner.

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #4 on: November 23, 2007, 09:17:37 pm »
Hi Bern,

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I suppose the main issue with being heterosexual and male is the lack of compatriots in the same situation, but I'm so private about it that I don't think it would make any difference.

I think you've gotten to the crux of the issue here. I suspect it isn't so much a case of lack in the compatriot department as it is  hiding from the world - and by default, each other.

I'm not criticising; I'm commiserating. It's one of those 'rock and hard place' moments.

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Offline Henritx

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #5 on: November 24, 2007, 01:50:48 am »
Hi Wishful,

Looks like I make #4.

Ann: Dont know about the hiding from the world part. But would agree that there is a differnece in how problems are processed and dealt with. Perhaps more toward: "I can handle this myself" then it is "runaway and hide".

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Offline Esquare

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #6 on: November 24, 2007, 05:26:27 am »
I'm a straight dude that is poz. Always available to talk through PM if you want. I usually check the site several times per week. There are quite a few straight guys here.

Offline Esquare

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #7 on: November 24, 2007, 05:29:00 am »
Another is that one's girlfriend or wife might be less prepared to deal with the development than a gay man's partner.



That sure is the truth.

Offline lucas clay

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #8 on: November 24, 2007, 07:00:43 am »
  Another is that one's girlfriend or wife might be less prepared to deal with the development than a gay man's partner.



amen to that brother

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #9 on: November 24, 2007, 10:13:12 am »
There are quite a few of us around, but the shame and stigma associated with being HIV+ (a topic that is often discussed in this forum and elsewhere) keeps us well closeted. Unfortunately it is still assumed by most of America that any man with HIV is either very gay or an addict.

It may also be that men are generally not as communicative as woman are, and as we all know "real men don't cry." The "dating" thread over in the women's section (yes, girls, we're watching you!) is a hoot, but I don't think most of us are particularly eager to discuss the women we've dated, or to quote Erica Jong, "our stars, our scars, our choice of scotch in bars."

I suppose we could be more creative: "Topic: Prostrated by my prostate" or "Levitra levity".   
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Offline Henritx

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #10 on: November 24, 2007, 11:40:54 am »
Gotta agree with Mr wishihadacat.
I shoulda mentioned some of the stigma. That shuts me up quite well thank you.

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Ive lurked the womens thread as well. Bet all the guys have. A Hoot is right...What an insight!!!
Very entertaining.

Prostrated by my prostate" or "Levitra levity"....
Hmmmm,
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Offline LordBerners

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #11 on: November 24, 2007, 12:10:15 pm »
Though I posted this generalization:
...one's girlfriend or wife might be less prepared to deal with the development than a gay man's partner.
, I have to say that I'm lucky to have an incredibly supportive girlfriend, and we weren't even all THAT serious before we found out. 

As for the question of disclosure, I do wish to avoid it, more for employment reasons than anything.  My biggest fear is that treatment will lead to all-too-obvious alterations in my physiognomy, making it impossible to keep the secret.
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Offline gardner

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #12 on: November 24, 2007, 12:31:28 pm »
Wishful.  Am I #8?

I'm sure there are more of us but as Ann put it, we're "hiding from the world".

Offline Sdgirl

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #13 on: November 24, 2007, 08:36:56 pm »
Okay, I had to chime in here.

Soooooooooo are any of you straight men in the vicinity of California?

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Offline next2u

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #14 on: November 25, 2007, 02:15:02 am »
there is one lone straight man in my men's support group. it's funny, cause there he is surrounded by 20 or so catty fags and manages to navigate the social waters quite nicely. to make things more interesting, he's kinda hot and all the guys totally hit on him, albeit in a loving and teasing sort of way. so, he's welcome and a great friend. oh, and i have seen some other poz guys at the mixed group as well. hmm, ill tell them about this site next time i go there. ill keep an eye out for straight poz men for my straight poz sisters out there.

we are in so cal btw.
midapr07 - seroconversion
sept07 - tested poz
oct07 cd4 1013; vl 13,900; cd4% 41
feb08 cd4  694;  vl 16,160; cd4% 50.1
may08 cd4 546; vl 91,480; cd4% 32
aug08 cd4 576; vl 48,190; cd4% 40.7
dec08 cd4 559; vl 63,020; cd4% 29.4
feb09 cd4 464; vl 11,000; cd4% 26
may09 cd4 544; vl 29,710; cd4% 27.2
oct09 cd4 ...; vl 23,350; cd4% 31.6
mar10 cd4 408; vl 59,050; cd4% 31.4
aug10 cd4 328; vl 80,000; cd4% 19.3 STARTED ATRIPLA
oct10 cd4 423; vl 410 ;); cd4% 30.2
jun11 cd4 439; vl <20 ;); cd4% 33.8 <-Undetectable!
mar12 cd4 695; vl ud; cd4% 38.6
jan13 cd4 738; vl ud; cd4% 36.8
aug13 cd4 930; vl ud; cd4% 44.3
jan14 cd4 813; vl ud; cd4% 42.8
may14 cd4 783; vl *; cd4%43.5
sept14 cd4 990; vl ud; cd4% *
jun15 cd4 1152; vl ud; cd4% *
july15 - STRIBILD
oct15 cd4 583; vl 146; cd4% 42
mar16 cd4 860; vl 20; 44

Offline Matthew

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #15 on: November 25, 2007, 03:15:10 pm »
Hi,
I am straight and married w/ children. I have been married 8 years, and did not find out until a life insurance exam 2 years ago about my status. Luckily, my wife and children had not been infected.
I have a very supportive wife, but other than her and a few close friends, it is not something that straight men get to talk about much. I have been reading on this site that last couple of years, and have now decided to start posting.

Thanks.
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Offline Poz Brit

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #16 on: November 26, 2007, 07:22:17 am »
Straight, Poz, English, and in a serodiscordant relationship.

Offline wishful

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #17 on: November 26, 2007, 12:13:48 pm »
Wow there u guys are..i was wondering!!!!..Thanks everyone for your responses...Here in nj where i live i dont meet anyone my within my age group who is poz, let alone any straight single men..I mean even at the doc i go to its all older people, and my town isnt that small that i wouldnt run into 2 or 3 people like me..i know with my kids dad..he was in denial a long long time..and i think he is just now starting to come around but im not sure. Like i have said before he just "feels" ok and thats enuff for him to ignore it..But im working on him..i joined a dating site but there is never anyone on there.. i have tried poz personals yet bcus my job computer blocks it..but im gonna get me one for xmas...
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #18 on: November 26, 2007, 02:13:41 pm »
I was not present in the forums for some time ( domestic problems ,depression, , familly worries , medical issues and some researches on my own) , but just to say that I`m still around..........if you wanna know a litlle bit more about me read my posts ( if that does not bore you to the death  ;D ).......and feel free to answer  to me by a PM if you want so.............
Thanks to all members of this forum..............
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Offline 9941_K

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #19 on: November 26, 2007, 08:09:00 pm »
Wishful

Thanks so much for posting. Obviously we have more feedback here than on positive women page  ;)

I'm new to the community, checking the forum for a week or so and this is my first post  ;D

Just wanna say I share exactly the same concern as you... Where are the straight poz guys?? 
25 Jul 07 - worst day in my life :( :( :(
27 Jul - CD4 143 (13.00%); T4/T8 0.22; VL 26,000
9 Oct - CD4 202 (12.63%); T4/T8 0.13; VL n/a
5 Nov - CD4 162 (11.57%); T4/T8 0.18; VL 64,000
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Offline next2u

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #20 on: November 26, 2007, 09:35:04 pm »
how about poz bi men? will that work for y'all?
midapr07 - seroconversion
sept07 - tested poz
oct07 cd4 1013; vl 13,900; cd4% 41
feb08 cd4  694;  vl 16,160; cd4% 50.1
may08 cd4 546; vl 91,480; cd4% 32
aug08 cd4 576; vl 48,190; cd4% 40.7
dec08 cd4 559; vl 63,020; cd4% 29.4
feb09 cd4 464; vl 11,000; cd4% 26
may09 cd4 544; vl 29,710; cd4% 27.2
oct09 cd4 ...; vl 23,350; cd4% 31.6
mar10 cd4 408; vl 59,050; cd4% 31.4
aug10 cd4 328; vl 80,000; cd4% 19.3 STARTED ATRIPLA
oct10 cd4 423; vl 410 ;); cd4% 30.2
jun11 cd4 439; vl <20 ;); cd4% 33.8 <-Undetectable!
mar12 cd4 695; vl ud; cd4% 38.6
jan13 cd4 738; vl ud; cd4% 36.8
aug13 cd4 930; vl ud; cd4% 44.3
jan14 cd4 813; vl ud; cd4% 42.8
may14 cd4 783; vl *; cd4%43.5
sept14 cd4 990; vl ud; cd4% *
jun15 cd4 1152; vl ud; cd4% *
july15 - STRIBILD
oct15 cd4 583; vl 146; cd4% 42
mar16 cd4 860; vl 20; 44

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #21 on: November 26, 2007, 10:43:57 pm »
Uh yeah NO.  Bi men are just men who really want to be booty bouncin' but don't want to call themselves gay.  Just my opinion though.
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #22 on: November 26, 2007, 10:50:40 pm »
I have found no luck on the poz dating sites.  It seems like it's full of "god fearing" women who want "god fearing" men so they can treat them like the "queen" they see themselves as.  Either that or they're scammers.  Oh and the other option is that some of these ladies are really overweight.  I'm not saying that overweight ladies can't be attractive, just that I like my women slim to athletic but definitely more on the petite size.  Kind of like how many women don't like short men, I don't want to date a girl who weighs more than I do.
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #23 on: November 26, 2007, 11:00:24 pm »
Right there with you sdgirl! :) I have been posting in the women's dating site except that I am not dating right now but I would love to. I was just diagnosed in May of this year.

Sd-what part of CA are you in? (are you in San Diego?) I am in Orange County.

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #24 on: November 26, 2007, 11:15:35 pm »
okay, so maybe a lot of bi men are fags in denial. what about the hot beefy men that aren't, like vin diesel. (grrrr). i've thought about crossing over many times. i decide to do all womankind a favour and keep my fickle, indecisive, noncleaning, noncooking & lazy ass on this side of the border. you all can thank me later : )

midapr07 - seroconversion
sept07 - tested poz
oct07 cd4 1013; vl 13,900; cd4% 41
feb08 cd4  694;  vl 16,160; cd4% 50.1
may08 cd4 546; vl 91,480; cd4% 32
aug08 cd4 576; vl 48,190; cd4% 40.7
dec08 cd4 559; vl 63,020; cd4% 29.4
feb09 cd4 464; vl 11,000; cd4% 26
may09 cd4 544; vl 29,710; cd4% 27.2
oct09 cd4 ...; vl 23,350; cd4% 31.6
mar10 cd4 408; vl 59,050; cd4% 31.4
aug10 cd4 328; vl 80,000; cd4% 19.3 STARTED ATRIPLA
oct10 cd4 423; vl 410 ;); cd4% 30.2
jun11 cd4 439; vl <20 ;); cd4% 33.8 <-Undetectable!
mar12 cd4 695; vl ud; cd4% 38.6
jan13 cd4 738; vl ud; cd4% 36.8
aug13 cd4 930; vl ud; cd4% 44.3
jan14 cd4 813; vl ud; cd4% 42.8
may14 cd4 783; vl *; cd4%43.5
sept14 cd4 990; vl ud; cd4% *
jun15 cd4 1152; vl ud; cd4% *
july15 - STRIBILD
oct15 cd4 583; vl 146; cd4% 42
mar16 cd4 860; vl 20; 44

Offline wishful

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #25 on: November 27, 2007, 09:01:38 am »
Next u are too funny!..and cute too  ;)
yeah i subscribed to hivnet.com and its soooo lame..never more than 3 peopl on at a time and that includes me! My friend said she meets alot of guys but they all want sex still even after being diagnosed, Sex is still their main focus..dont get me wrong i definitely need a lil love err now n then but ultimately we are lookin for someone like ourselves that can understand where we are coming from but sometimes i think i want a negative person who just falls in love with me...and not worry about my condition..
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Offline wishful

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #26 on: November 27, 2007, 09:03:55 am »
oh yeah..and NO NO NO to bi men..cus it will always be in my mind that im not pleasing him..and i am the ULTIMATE pleaser..but that would be somthing i just couldnt give him..(naturally)..lmao!
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Offline Denver Toad

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #27 on: November 27, 2007, 09:11:14 am »
Lifts rock.... peers around... says RIGHT HERE.... goes back under rock.

It's a mixed STD (HEP/HIV) site, met some really decent people over at pozsingles.... Including my current sweety. Give it a look.
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #28 on: November 27, 2007, 01:29:32 pm »
Now hold up!!!!! As long as I have been whining about being single and flirting my ass off with the gay guys, all I needed was to start a damn thread.....Who woulda thunk it!!!!! But now I am dating a neg guy all you poz guys wanna come out......Grrrrrrr. I should kick y'all in the ass.....j/k but damn. And for the record, I have nothing against bi guys, I would do one. I just couldn't be in a relationship with one because I don't like sharing... :P But if it was about being friends with benefits well I could work around it. Alway wanted to do a bi guy with a strap on.. ;D

As for the women's dating thread, I hope that is helping you straight guys out and supplying you with a few pointers... ;)
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Offline Winiroo

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #29 on: November 27, 2007, 05:04:39 pm »
I have found no luck on the poz dating sites.  It seems like it's full of "god fearing" women who want "god fearing" men so they can treat them like the "queen" they see themselves as.  Either that or they're scammers.  Oh and the other option is that some of these ladies are really overweight.  I'm not saying that overweight ladies can't be attractive, just that I like my women slim to athletic but definitely more on the petite size.  Kind of like how many women don't like short men, I don't want to date a girl who weighs more than I do.

LOL I likely weigh more than my boyfriend. But I am 3 - 4 inches taller than him. LOL
I'm not as stick thin as I was in my 20's but I sure as heck aint thick. I'm a fairly tall average sized girl.
I'm not a short man chaser. I just happened to really like a man who was shorter than me and unlike the girl I was 20 years ago the height thing doesnt faze me.

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #30 on: November 27, 2007, 05:32:26 pm »
I have found no luck on the poz dating sites.  It seems like it's full of "god fearing" women who want "god fearing" men so they can treat them like the "queen" they see themselves as. 

Wow.  That's totally different from the ''god fearing'' experience I had growing up.  In most of those relationships, the women were treated as anything but queens. 

And gasp!  Is Vin Diesel supposed to be bi or something?

And I have to differ a bit about the bi thing.  I call myself a big old mo, stictly dickly and all that mess...but the bare truth is that I have been in love with females a few times in my life.  Truly, madly, deeply.  And I'm not in denial bout nuthin' from nobody, so believe it or don'ts, people.  I honestly wish I was more truly bisexual than I am (as I am admittedly leaning far, far further on the scale toward penis than va jay jay), and in my perfect vision of the world we'd all be bisexual and all this gender/orientation hoo ha would be moot from the get go.

But enough about all that.  Somebody just tell about Vin Diesel and then you heterosexuals can continue doing whatever it is you do.
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #31 on: November 27, 2007, 06:16:34 pm »
What? Is Vin bi? After seeing The Fast and The Furious, Tokyo Drift and Vin appearing in the last 3 minutes of the movie, he isn't as fine as he was in Pitch Black. But I heard he has a twin..... ;)
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2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #32 on: November 27, 2007, 09:16:33 pm »
Ok...
I think I am still on topic

Ladies, If you've been on a poz dating site, have you included a picture?
I cannot even count how many dont and it leaves one thinking,
why not??


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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #33 on: November 27, 2007, 09:29:36 pm »
Ok...
I think I am still on topic

Ladies, If you've been on a poz dating site, have you included a picture?
I cannot even count how many dont and it leaves one thinking,
why not??

are you planning to post your photo on here?  just curious.
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #34 on: November 27, 2007, 10:02:26 pm »
If I am understanding you correctly I would sat touche'.
But truly, I am not on here to date so I didnt feel compelled to.
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #35 on: November 27, 2007, 11:25:22 pm »
Hell, I had my pic posted on Poz Personals but after almost getting scammed, I took it down. And if it wasn't that then it was people who could barely hold a conversation.
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #36 on: November 28, 2007, 06:29:17 am »
I was diagnosed a few months ago, and have not told my girlfriend my status.  I have also not had sex with her because I do not want to infect her.  Is getting pretty tense.  I am concerned that if I tell her she will label me.  If it goes further, though we could end up together and I was thinking, even if she accepted me, how to I have kids...I feel like I went from having a great life to a freak show now.  What are the alternatives.  Break off and do one night stands (safe) and not disclose but what kind of llife would this be. 
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #37 on: November 28, 2007, 10:57:36 am »
No pic posted but i would email them one if they wanted...some people cruise those sites just to see who is on there and if youre worried about that then..i wouldnt post a pic..

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #38 on: November 28, 2007, 12:05:47 pm »
Somebody just tell about Vin Diesel and then you heterosexuals can continue doing whatever it is you do.

Let's see.  He never is seen with a girl friend and he's stated in an interview that he only has sex when overseas...
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #39 on: November 28, 2007, 12:22:45 pm »
This thread rules....cuz it's kinda like getting to participate in one o' those PW Dating Threads.  And those always just sound oh-so-intriquing.

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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #40 on: November 28, 2007, 02:45:07 pm »
Well, if that is the case, let's keep it going like the ladies dating thread....See what you started, wishful.....

Cityboy---- I wish I could give you advice about when to disclose to your gf but I am in a similiar situation as yourself. I will say this much...You know her better than any of us here...This is your life and you're living it but I feel you do need to tell her but only you will know when the time is right.

Philly----What?!? I missed that interview. When was this?

Wishful---- Oh, why I got to be nasty? I am just trying to be in touch with my inner freak... ;) Well, if he doesn't want a strap on that's fine too..There is always other things... ;)
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #41 on: November 28, 2007, 02:51:42 pm »
Most straight poz people on this site are just in the wrong part of the world.  Sadly in the Western World HIV is something that disproportionately affects the gay community.  If we were all to relocate to South Africa or Russia we'd likely find more straight people for the possiblities of dating or at the very least a dependable booty call...
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #42 on: November 28, 2007, 04:09:11 pm »
Most straight poz people on this site are just in the wrong part of the world.  Sadly in the Western World HIV is something that disproportionately affects the gay community.  If we were all to relocate to South Africa or Russia we'd likely find more straight people for the possiblities of dating or at the very least a dependable booty call...

That's undoubtedly right - not that I would want to move to either place.

It's also hard to find independent straight (or bi) poz women who have maintained a sense of humor about life, but who can blame them?

Now Queen A, on the other hand...   
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #43 on: November 28, 2007, 04:22:44 pm »
I RULE!!!..lmao
what have i started???..lol
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #44 on: November 28, 2007, 05:17:09 pm »
"I’ve slept with enough men to know that I’m not gay"

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« Reply #45 on: November 28, 2007, 05:19:37 pm »
I RULE!!!..lmao
what have i started???..lol
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« Reply #46 on: November 28, 2007, 05:28:56 pm »
wishful comes across as the kinda woman who'd be pretty fun in the sack and Queen as a freak!  Not that there's anything wrong with freaks...
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #47 on: November 28, 2007, 09:42:42 pm »
Vin Diesel?! Interesting...he is soooo hot, but he doesn't hold a candle to The Rock. That is my secret crush.... ;D

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« Reply #48 on: November 28, 2007, 11:24:24 pm »
404error:     Ohh how I long for the days of dependable booty calls. I think i am actually becoming ambidextrous from all the self medication!
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Re: Where are all the POZ straight men at???
« Reply #49 on: November 28, 2007, 11:56:28 pm »
i'm starting to think the bi/vin diesel tangent is hijacking this thread. sorry ladies, you know how we fags are. we're your best friends and always need a lil attention. and we don't want you to forget about our marginalized brethren, they still like the va jay jay!

in defense of bi's - you can totally satisfy them. i was talking to a bi-guy tonight at my men's group. he's had a girl for sometime now. and my ex roommate's ex boy of 3 years has had a girl for the last 2 (and i think they're gonna get married). and don't forget about those msm's. all i'm saying is don't discriminate against a man that loves the poontang, even if he likes the schtick too :)~

okay, my hijacking is over. anymore of this bi talk will have to be in another thread. and ya ladies betta come. hmm, oh, if it's any consolation, yeah, there are a lot of gay pozzies out there, but it's still hard to find a good man.

i like the comment above where girlfriend was talking about hitting up the negg's again. i think it has merit. hmm, world aids day is coming up. we are having multiple events. i will advertise this site to any single men i see. hey, gotta look out for my ladies, y'all always helped me out in high school (margaret cho said some funny shit about how the fag hags always helped us gay guys throughout high school by ushering us through the gay underground railroad- comedy).
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