Risk after one unusal slip up?

[northandscared]

I am male in my thirties. I have performed oral sex on guys a few times and am always, and I mean always, careful not to with any ulcers/bleeding etc and I always wash my hands etc carefully so that there is no transfer of any fluid before touching myself, eating etc. 

Except one time 3 weeks ago when I tried to receive anal sex.  I performed oral first and whilst the attempt to penetrate me was unsuccessful, the guy was wearing a condom. I had lubed myself inside first using a sex toy and then used the toy again after performing oral sex in order to open up a little before being penetrated.  The problem is, as my hands were dry, for some reason all my care and good practice from before escaped me and I smoothed some of the lube over the sex toy using my unwashed hands, before inserting it in myself. I can't actually believe I did this as I know not to.  However, I did and I am now worried sick that there may have been a transfer of HIV from fluids from penis to mouth/hands and then on the sex toy before putting it inside me.

I am going to abstain from sex and  take a test anyway at the 4-6 week point as I have been sexually active with other men/women over the last 3 years (though always extremely careful and protected).

However, I can't seem to gauge any risk factor as nobody seems to have done this stupid thing in any report I can read online. I am guessing it is the same risk as a shared sex toy

[Jeff G]

You had zero risk in the situation you are concerned with . HIV is not transmitted in that manner due to its fragile nature . No ones has ever been infected the way you are concerned with , so rest assured you will not be either .

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME for this incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!