Author Topic: Not Pain Yet, Just Numb (Read 11499 times)

bear60 · « **on:** November 03, 2008, 09:49:43 am »

I dont even know where to post this as I am still processing this news. Chris wasnt a close friend but he was the lover of a close friend and was someone I shared many dinners with, and evenings out on the town. Now he is gone. I am just so sad. I didnt learn of his death until I read the Obituary in PGN this weekend.
http://epgn.p2ionline.com/Flip/Sitebase/data/editions/151410/img/large/2084801.htm

Alain · « **Reply #1 on:** November 03, 2008, 09:52:58 am »

{{{Joel}}},

You are having more then your share of bad news lately.

I am sorry that you have to go through theses times and I really feel for you.

Sad

as well.

Take care, Alain

dixieman · « **Reply #2 on:** November 03, 2008, 10:10:38 am »

I'm sorry to hear about your loss of a friend. Suicide is a very difficult situtation to deal with... its always What If? only if I spoke to them? Maybe if we could have talked? its an emotional roller-coaster... unfortunately I've been in the same situation many times ...sincerely, John

AlanBama · « **Reply #3 on:** November 03, 2008, 10:22:06 am »

Sorry for the loss of your friend Joel. It never gets any easier, does it?

hugs,

Alan

leatherman · « **Reply #4 on:** November 03, 2008, 11:03:50 am »

that is very sad news, Joel, and I am so sorry to hear about another loss in your life. Sometimes it's not easy being an LTS when you keep losing friends or family, is it? You have my deepest sympathies my friend. Hang in there, buddy.

denb45 · « **Reply #5 on:** November 03, 2008, 11:15:17 am »

39, so young, and handsome, what a waste...........

he looks like he could have made someone very happy, so sad, that this young man didn't think so, and that his life didn't mean anything to him......what a shame

Miss Philicia · « **Reply #6 on:** November 03, 2008, 12:06:06 pm »

Joel, I'm very sorry to hear that you've been touched by something like this. Take care.

Texan38 · « **Reply #7 on:** November 03, 2008, 03:17:02 pm »

**HUGS**

rondrond · « **Reply #8 on:** November 03, 2008, 09:52:05 pm »

Joel,

I'm so sorry for another loss.

A very touching and thoughtful Obit. He was very much loved my family and friends.

BT65 · « **Reply #9 on:** November 03, 2008, 11:32:27 pm »

Joel, please accept my condolences on such a tragic loss. {{JOEL}}

bear60 · « **Reply #10 on:** November 04, 2008, 10:51:11 am »

Thanks for the HUG Betty. What I find so incredible is that even his closest friends did not know he was so depressed. I dont believe he sought help. See, if he had just called someone.....oh well.
Thanks Ron. He was such a sweet guy. And such a hugable BEAR! He gave the best hugs ever.
David, thanks. Its not the first time someone I know has committed suicide. Actually there have been four including him. I'll get through it but I am really sad right now.

sharkdiver · « **Reply #11 on:** November 04, 2008, 07:00:57 pm »

I'm sorry to here about this Joel.

bug hugs,
Sharkie

aztecan · « **Reply #12 on:** November 05, 2008, 08:26:45 pm »

Hey Joel,

I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. Losing someone never gets easier.

(((((HUGS)))))

Mark

AndyArrow · « **Reply #13 on:** November 07, 2008, 06:19:38 am »

I'm very sorry for your loss.

Saturday, 22 November 2008 is National Survivors of Suicide Day. There conferences all over the US and some International locations. Info is available at http://www.afsp.org/

AA

emeraldize · « **Reply #14 on:** November 07, 2008, 09:23:42 am »

Hi Joel,

Although the obit is no longer attached to the link, I want to express my condolences to you. Suicide brings with it an odd collection of introspective thoughts, ruminating about the person's motivations. Unlike other deaths, we don't think about what chemo we could have administered, or could we have removed the ice on the road that caused the wreck. But suicide? The inner chatter early on can be unceasing...What did I miss, would they have listened to me, why such talent gone so young, what did I say, did I do anything and on and on.

I'm going to check out the link AA offered... perhaps there's something going on in my city.

Em

Moffie65 · « **Reply #15 on:** November 07, 2008, 09:57:25 am »

From one bear to another, loss is never easy, but we must remember that now he is in peace, and no longer fighting the demons of this life.

My thoughts are with you, and please understand, I do know how it feels. Sure do miss those hugs...........

bear60 · « **Reply #16 on:** November 07, 2008, 12:19:07 pm »

Thanks Moffie. There's going to be a party in his honor on the 22nd.

Joe K · « **Reply #17 on:** November 07, 2008, 03:43:04 pm »

Dear Joel,

My deepest condolences on the loss of your friend.

As someone who has battled depression, I can tell you there was nothing anyone could have done, if your friend did not ask for help. The power of depression is frightening and its ability to mask its existence, can make it very hard for others to see. Suicide is sometimes the answer, for someone who is so deeply mired in depression, that they have stopped all feeling. At this point, death can seem to be so tempting, because then the depression ends. Above all, there is nothing you could have done to prevent his death, if he really wanted to die. And since he was such a special person, I would think that he would not want you and your friends, to be blaming yourself for his actions.

Your friend knew he could ask for help, but he was unable because of his depression.

purpledragonfly · « **Reply #18 on:** November 07, 2008, 04:47:44 pm »

Joel,
I am so sorry for your loss. I do know how you feel, this last Aug. my 30 yr. young nephew hung himself. We have been trying to get thru it but it is hard. I just wished he would have called one of us, maybe it would have stopped him. We will miss him but we do get to watch him thru his daughters. They are so beautiful.
Remebering the good times does help.That plus talking that har really helped.

Wendy

bear60 · « **Reply #19 on:** November 27, 2008, 03:46:35 pm »

This is the final update:
Fred died yesterday.
He was peaceful.
He is at rest.

BT65 · « **Reply #20 on:** November 27, 2008, 05:21:58 pm »

Oh, Joel, I am so so sorry. At least Fred was peaceful during his final moments. {{JOEL}}

AlanBama · « **Reply #21 on:** November 27, 2008, 09:33:49 pm »

I'm sorry about your friend Joel. Big hugs to you, my bear friend.

anniebc · « **Reply #22 on:** November 27, 2008, 09:52:25 pm »

I'm so sorry Joel.

{{{Bear Hugs}}}

Jan

aztecan · « **Reply #23 on:** November 28, 2008, 07:49:17 am »

I'm terribly sorry Joel.

My thoughts are with you.

HUGS,

Mark

Peter Staley · « **Reply #24 on:** November 29, 2008, 12:30:46 pm »

Joel -- I'm so sorry for your loss.

xoxo

Peter

J.R.E. · « **Reply #25 on:** November 29, 2008, 04:23:26 pm »

Joel,

My deepest sympathies go out to you.

Ray

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