Author Topic: Losing a Dear Friend (Read 14157 times)

AlanBama · « **on:** January 27, 2008, 03:06:13 pm »

After a long and valiant struggle with AIDS, my friend Kevin succumbed at 5:45 pm yesterday. He had been in CCU since Wednesday, with no hope for improvement.

I am thankful I got to be with him, at the end. I whispered in his ear that I loved him, and that it was o.k. to let go. He died 30 minutes later.

Funeral arrangements are pending.

I am full of grief, and also anger; AIDS has taken something else from me: A close and dear friend. Anyone who thinks that this disease isn't still killing people is sadly mistaken.

Alan

bear60 · « **Reply #1 on:** January 27, 2008, 03:14:20 pm »

I am sending my condolences to you Alan. You are indeed a good friend to be with him at the end.

Nadine · « **Reply #2 on:** January 27, 2008, 03:20:49 pm »

Alan...I'm so very sorry to hear this

Sending you lots of Love & ((((HUGS))))

You are a genuine awesome person !!!

LOVE YOU!!!

pozguy75 · « **Reply #3 on:** January 27, 2008, 03:25:02 pm »

Oh, Alan!

I am so sorry...I know there are no words that can bring him back or take away your pain, but know that I am send the purest of thoughts to you!

I love you!!

Iggy · « **Reply #4 on:** January 27, 2008, 03:28:05 pm »

You are the definition of what it means to be a good friend.

I'm sorry to know what Kevin went through, and what you must now go through emotionally.

You are in my and Jeromy's thoughts.

Love,

Mark

water duck · « **Reply #5 on:** January 27, 2008, 03:29:17 pm »

Dear Alan,

All i could think of is just reach out my hands and hold yours in mine and in that silence share some verses from a valuable book called : The Healing Runes by Ralph Blum and Susan Loughan.

Rare indeed is the life that has not been touched by Grief.
Without the experience of grieving, you may never move beyond that which has caused you so much sadness, so much pain..........feel your grief and embrace it.
For it is in the depths of Grief that we come to know and value life.

................here is hoping that YOU look to the care of your heart.

Sending you lots of warm regards

Wd

Cheetara74 · « **Reply #6 on:** January 27, 2008, 03:42:52 pm »

Dear Alan,
I know you don't know me but I want to say how sorry I am for your lost. Good friends are hard to find and to lose one to this deadly disease is horrible. I'm glad that you were with your friend in the end. I bet that meant a lot to him.

I extend hugs to you. Again, I'm sorry for your loss.

Matty the Damned · « **Reply #7 on:** January 27, 2008, 03:55:26 pm »

Vale Kevin.

MtD

Cliff · « **Reply #8 on:** January 27, 2008, 03:59:44 pm »

Alan,

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm glad your friend was able to be with those that love him in his final hours.

Cliff

Dachshund · « **Reply #9 on:** January 27, 2008, 04:00:21 pm »

My condolences Alan.

Hal

anniebc · « **Reply #10 on:** January 27, 2008, 04:12:00 pm »

Dearest Alan

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of Kevin, I'm glad you were able to be there for him in his final hour.

Love and prayers to you and to Kevins family.

Hugs
Jan

bryonut · « **Reply #11 on:** January 27, 2008, 04:16:04 pm »

So sorry for the loss of your friend.

My thoughts are with you.

bry

emeraldize · « **Reply #12 on:** January 27, 2008, 04:18:11 pm »

Hi Alan

Thinking of you.

Em

minismom · « **Reply #13 on:** January 27, 2008, 04:28:19 pm »

So very sorry for your loss, Alan. My thoughts and prayers are with you and Kevin's family.

Mum

Andy Velez · « **Reply #14 on:** January 27, 2008, 04:31:12 pm »

My condolences to you, Alan. I'm glad you were able to be with hiim at the end, for both your sakes. It must have been very comforting for him to have your loving there with him.

Big long hugs to you, buddy.

Miss Philicia · « **Reply #15 on:** January 27, 2008, 04:46:58 pm »

I'm so sorry to hear this Alan. My thoughts are with you.

David

lonewolf · « **Reply #16 on:** January 27, 2008, 04:51:26 pm »

Dearest Allen,
You have touched so many hearts since I have gotten to know you. It was a real blessing for Kevin for you to be with him as he passed.
I am hurting for you as well as Kevin and his loved ones.
Just know, during this tough time, you as well as Kevin are in the hearts and minds of many people.
My prayers, tears, and love to you.
Bruce

Snowangel · « **Reply #17 on:** January 27, 2008, 05:05:18 pm »

My heart and my prayers go out to you, Alanbama!
Snow

aztecan · « **Reply #18 on:** January 27, 2008, 05:38:16 pm »

Alan,

My deepest condolences on Kevin's passing.

Rest in peace, Kevin.

HUGS,

Mark

sweetasmeli · « **Reply #19 on:** January 27, 2008, 05:51:01 pm »

Oh Alan, I’m so sorry for your sad loss. My condolences to you and Kevin’s loved ones. I wish I could be there to give you a hug right now. Please know that you’re in my thoughts often and especially tonight.

With much love
Debra xxx

BT65 · « **Reply #20 on:** January 27, 2008, 06:01:49 pm »

Oh Alan, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I'm sure your presence brought your friend Kevin peace at the end of his journey. Huge giant {{hugs}} to you, my friend.
Peace~
Betty

PeteNYNJ · « **Reply #21 on:** January 27, 2008, 06:06:08 pm »

I am sorry for your loss Alan...feel free to PM me if you need to chat.

Pete

pozniceguy · « **Reply #22 on:** January 27, 2008, 06:14:03 pm »

Alan good friends are a rare commodity...you are certainly a good friend and I am so sorry you lost a good friend..... we all share your sadness...

Nick

heartforyou · « **Reply #23 on:** January 27, 2008, 06:54:38 pm »

O Alan.. may he finally find peace.

I know you know how it feels to loose friends.. we oth have lost so many... damed .. this is a day i hate this fucking disease; not only for what it did to Kevin, but for what it did to you by taking him away.
Love

Herman

J.R.E. · « **Reply #24 on:** January 27, 2008, 07:01:18 pm »

Dear Alan,

My deepest thoughts and condolences, go out to you and Kevins family... Having been at the bedside of those friends that have passed, I know and understand how painful this is. Be strong...

Ray

RapidRod · « **Reply #25 on:** January 27, 2008, 07:14:36 pm »

My condolences go out to you Alan.

Rodney

lucas clay · « **Reply #26 on:** January 27, 2008, 07:33:42 pm »

Alan
My deepest condolences go out to you and Kevins family, along with prayers for strength for you and the family.
He will always be with you.

Lucas

Jody · « **Reply #27 on:** January 27, 2008, 07:52:08 pm »

Dear Alan...I'm saddened to read about Kevin's passing, you are such a good friend to have been there for him in his final hours.

Take care of yourself and be well.

Jody

jabez · « **Reply #28 on:** January 27, 2008, 08:03:06 pm »

I am so sorry to hear this. I will say a prayer for Kevin's spirit. I hate AIDS. I'm glad that you were there for him at the end.

MOONLIGHT1114 · « **Reply #29 on:** January 27, 2008, 08:15:36 pm »

Hi Alan~

I am so sorry to hear about Kevin. My prayers are for you tonight.

Much love,

~ Cindy

komnaes · « **Reply #30 on:** January 27, 2008, 11:02:42 pm »

I am so sorry to hear the news Alan, but don't forget to take care of yourself and don't let the grief takes over.

Big hugs to you, Shaun

joemutt · « **Reply #31 on:** January 27, 2008, 11:21:43 pm »

I am sorry for your loss Alan, and I salute the good friend you are.

sharkdiver · « **Reply #32 on:** January 27, 2008, 11:41:47 pm »

Bless you Alan for being there for him.

Tonight my prayers are with you and your dear friend Kevin.
May he live in your heart forever.

Sharkie

BrooklynGuy · « **Reply #33 on:** January 28, 2008, 08:32:28 am »

Alan,

My sincerest condolences go out to you.

I hope that I have a friend like you with me when it's my end.

Peter6836 · « **Reply #34 on:** January 28, 2008, 09:43:25 am »

Alan,
My thoughts are with you.
Thank you for being with your friend and being able to express that he was loved. I hope that some day I am blessed to have a friend with me like you.
Also thank you for the reminder that this disease is killing many of us out there we need to take it seriously.
With Love
Peter

Dan J. · « **Reply #35 on:** January 28, 2008, 09:52:04 am »

Alan,

My thoughts are with you.

Love,

Dan

AlanBama · « **Reply #36 on:** January 28, 2008, 10:30:14 am »

Thank you so much, everyone, for the condolences and the outpouring of love. It really helps.

Kevin's funeral will be tomorrow at 2pm. His mother asked me to be a pallbearer. That's going to be tough, considering that we were such good friends; but how do you say no in a time like that? I will manage to get through it.

Some of you may recall that I have posted briefly about Kevin over the past few years, with regard to the fact that I felt some guilt that I was doing so well on my meds, and he was not. He was the most compliant person I have ever known with his drug schedule...but it just wasn't enough. He had been on the verge of kidney failure for quite awhile now, and he did not want to face dialysis. I am thankful that now he won't have to.

Thanks again for the love and support, and for your prayers.

Alan

BT65 · « **Reply #37 on:** January 28, 2008, 10:32:16 am »

Dear Alan, I will be thinking of you tomorrow afternoon and sending lots of good thoughts your way.
Luv you-
Betty

tendai · « **Reply #38 on:** January 28, 2008, 10:41:51 am »

i'm so sorry for your loss Alan

randym431 · « **Reply #39 on:** January 28, 2008, 01:35:51 pm »

So sorry to hear this.
Many still have a very hard time, despite advancements in medicine.
So many other things can come into play.
He is at peace now, in a pleasant place along with so many others we have known.
I wish you peace of mind knowing you were a friend up to the very end.
He knew that. Thats what it is all about.

David_CA · « **Reply #40 on:** January 28, 2008, 02:07:09 pm »

Alan,
I'm sorry to hear of your loss; it just doesn't seem to stop. Kevin was fortunate to have you there at the end. Your in our thoughts. Take care.

David

gemini20 · « **Reply #41 on:** January 28, 2008, 02:14:01 pm »

Dear Alan,

Words always seem so hopelessly inadequate at times like this and yet that's all I can offer to support you at this most difficult of times.

Cherish the shared memories you have created together and that way he will continue to be a presence in your life forever.

My thoughts and prayers are with you Alan and for Kevin's family and his other friends as you deal with his death and prepare for the funeral tomorrow.

Take care,

Emma

allanq · « **Reply #42 on:** January 28, 2008, 02:32:54 pm »

Alan,

That Kevin was a dear friend of yours tells me that he was a very fine person. My condolences to you and to his family.

Allan

DanielMark · « **Reply #43 on:** January 28, 2008, 02:39:45 pm »

My condolences to you, Alan.

Daniel

englishgirl · « **Reply #44 on:** January 28, 2008, 03:13:31 pm »

dearest alan
im thinking of you at this difficult time and send you lots of love
im sure that having you there helped him and his family greatly
i will keep you in my thoughts tomorrow especially
with much love
xxxx

water duck · « **Reply #45 on:** January 28, 2008, 05:33:10 pm »

...................i am sure he would like you to stand tall for him......................
I am sure you would, my thoughts are with you tomorrow when you ............................

Wd

NLEWLAD · « **Reply #46 on:** January 28, 2008, 05:53:22 pm »

As a new pozzie your post makes my infection even more real, i totaly and utterly send out my condolancies to you. At the moment i dont have many friends and my parents dont know i hope that i meet someone like you to be with me at my end

i am so sorry for your loss.

simon

water duck · « **Reply #47 on:** January 28, 2008, 06:00:17 pm »

NLEWLAD,

it may be best that you start a new thead so encouragement can be attribute to your needs.

NLEWLAD · « **Reply #48 on:** January 28, 2008, 06:08:25 pm »

water duck - thank you for your comments

i am dealing with the infection fine at the moment, this thread brought a few truths home to me, but again i am feeling the reality i wanted to let the poster know i was sorry for his greif.

pm me if yo liike.

thank you btw

water duck · « **Reply #49 on:** January 28, 2008, 06:42:20 pm »

...............do not mixed coming to terms with infection and GRIEF.........................
Like yin and yang , one cannot exist without the other....................

Sorry , i am being selfish, this is about Alan's grief, i am posting because of that .............
.................otherwise , believe me i would not have bothered.

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