Should I be worried?

[goblman]

The pre story: I am a chronic pot smoker and recently had a sexual experience a few weeks ago with a stranger. The experience took place about a week after I had the flu/cold.

What happened: We meet on the internet. He was a student at the Univ of Kentucky. I sucked him off for a bit and then he sucked me off. He did leak some precum while I sucked. After I sucked him, I let him screw me in the butt for about 15-30 seconds (30 is the absolute max, more like 20) and he did not wear a condom. After that we 69ed until I came. He never came because we were interrupted. The anal sex was my first time, but it did not hurt and he was not very big. Plus, I think I have a naturally loose buthole.

The after story: About a week later I came down with a fever for 1.5 days. No swollen lympnodes and the fever was mild. The doctor gave me an antibiotic and treated me for a respiratory infection. I believe I did have a respiratory infection because of all the mucus that I spit out after I got the medicine, but I can't be sure. I had a sore throat for about a week after the initial fever. I had no other symptoms. In total, the worst of the illness lasted 2 days at most.  About 40 days latter I noticed several pimple like blemishes on my chest and arms. They went away after a week but these little red dots (bursted blood vessals) that look like petechiae have now appeared in small #s around my body. I have no other symptoms and feel great.

Should I be worried about an HIV infection?

[goblman]

Oh, the guy did not say he was HIV pos and didn't look like he had any other STDS. He was about 20. He did say he had receptive anal sex with a condom a few months before.

[ACinKC]

You had unprotected sex and need to test 13 weeks post exposure.  That being said, with what you have described the odds are mostly in your favor that you will test negative.  HIV is actually very difficult to transmit.

So, keep in mind that symptoms don't tell you your status only a test at the appropriate time can conclusively tell you your status.  

Please remember to use condoms from here on out until you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you both have tested negative together.

[goblman]

If you had to put odds to it, how safe am I? I will still get tested. I am just preparing myself.

[ACinKC]

Oh, the guy did not say he was HIV pos and didn't look like he had any other STDS. He was about 20. He did say he had receptive anal sex with a condom a few months before.

You also cant tell people's status by looking at them.  If you knew me you'd never know.  And they can lie to you about their "behavior".

We do not play the odds game here.  HIV is nothing to guess about.

[goblman]

I meant based on the sex act, not the person. I see your point though.

[thunter34]

Seriously, it really would be meaningless to try to give you some random number for that sort of thing.  You can only know for certain by testing.  That said, I think you can probably guage your odds by reviewing your own post.  Only a few seconds of penetration....he didn't come...etc.

Still....to test is the only way to know for certain.  I wouldn't worry to much about it, though.  Just learn from it.

[Ann]

gob,

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Unprotected anal intercourse where you are the recipient is the riskiest thing you can do in terms of hiv transmission. You really do need to learn from this - and let's hope it's not a lesson learned the hard way.

Your risk may be lessened by the brevity and the fact that he didn't cum, but pre-cum is infectious. Make sure you test.

Ann