eventually it will simply be a place wherethe newly diagnosed rehash their stories of denial
Wow. Seriously. Wow. Another member singled out Matty and Benji, who responded, and it appears that the ones initially attacked are villified.
Wow. I certainly hope that the influx of older members is not a temporary one. But so long as errant nationalism and bullying, of ever-so-thinly disguised denialism and personal attacks are rewarded, I submit that none of us with actual souls will be here for long.
Could matty havbe laid off the rhetoric? Sure. But surely even the most biased mods can see how, in this thread, who came out swinging.
Personally, I think the likes of Matty and Benji and yeah, even Val add to the flavor of these forums. Otherwise, well, eventually it will simply be a place wherethe newly diagnosed rehash their stories of denial, and the very sick remain silent, AIDS, apparently, is a character flaw these days.
I'm often mistaken. I hope this is not one of theose times.
Damn, the Queen takes ill and all hell breaks loose, wtf? ;D I'll admit the topic with Matty and Benj's name totally caught my attention because I enjoy reading their posts. I love both their sarcasm and wit. The real topic was lost on me because I do not follow such things but the difference of opinions kept me reading.
I would think by now, this being a forum and all that people would not become heated by a difference of opinion. And since we are all adults here, I would think a little name calling could be ignored....sticks and stones people..Or maybe I'm a bit delirious due to fever. Oh well...
Peter~~
I have to agree with the others about banning Matty, it would be wrong considering he did not start this and was called out by the title alone. If someone has to be punished, it should be the one who started it. I'm quite sure Matty used up all his time outs a long time ago but in this instance, he be given a pass or whatever. I'll even offer up a few of mine if that makes a difference..The Queen only needs warnings from time to time. ;) So, I gladly offer up mine....
The problem, of course, is how that money is being distributed to the population by the Serbian Government... I will not comment on that.
Haha. Agreed. If there is warning trading going about I don't need any of mine. I'm a perfect angel.Trying to be perfect requires too much energy and effort. I only have one life to live. As long as I'm not out here chopping up bodies or going postal, I'm doing righteous. You're an angel for now but just wait......we'll see a damn cemetary in your closet in no time...j/k......love yas..
;D
"Hey guys, when do we draw the line. A bland dish created in the kitchen is the same as a full and rich one, except for the addition of the correct spices. It is very clear that Matty and others here, bring spice to the dish. They enrich the taste of the content. When the spices are shunned and removed, blandness takes over, and the dish becomes hurtfully boring. I choose not to have a boring experience in life. I choose that full taste of a dish with a taste that lingers on the tongue long after one has swallowed.
Excellent analogy. Of course we know what happens to a dish when too many spices are added or you add the wrong spice. Spice should always be added in moderation.
Not that it matters but this seems a very arbitrary way to handle this situation. I do find it ironic that Ann can take off her moderator's hat and engage Matty with her rapier wit when she chooses.
Okay, so let me get this right..
MTD gets a free pass for calling other forums members stupid, as long as he uses a touch of wit each time he does it? It doesn't matter how often folks send us moderator reports complaining about his posts, right? He's a longtime member, so we should ignore all the moderator reports? He gets more reports than almost any other member, but his spice factor should negate this fact, right?
That is entirely Peter's perogative and I have no quibble with it. It would be a pointless endeavour in any event. Ultimately somebody has to run this show.
Just don't tell anyone I can be nice. It'll totally ruin my reputation with the rest of the Damned. ;)
So I guess you have a lot of hard evidence about how people who haven't even joined the site are being "potentially" scared off (as a matter of fact).
So everybody gets censored because somebody might potentially get offended or scared off?
Jeez, lighten up, sistah.
ajm (as a matter of fact!) lol
One thing (and there are many good things) I will say about Matty, is that he calls it like he sees it, and he is also very consistent. I have seen him come to the defense of many people who have been bullied on this website when the moderators have turned a blind eye (or so it seems).
I have seen other people be a lot harsher than Matty, and do it far less intelligently, much more blatantly....But I will not name any names, cus that has gotten me in plenty of hot water before.
Each time I have taken it upon myself to cross the line it has been to call someone on outrageous crap or just to say leave me the fuck alone. Now when I singled someone out, my thread was immediately locked and I was told what a flame baiter I was. Maybe I was, who knows.... I didn't see the same consequences for Val when he mentioned Benj and Matty members directly in the title of his thread.
One thing I have learned from being on these threads in a short time, is that I clearly have to develop a tough skin. That is just the reality. Because noone ever came to my rescue. Now it would be nice to be swimming with goldfish instead of sharks, but that ain't gonna happen. And sometime we all like to take a dip in barracuda infested waters to test our endurance, or maybe just for the thrill of it.
Now, I have still to see anyone who stays out of it be attacked by Matty. Meaning they were just minding their own business with a mindless thread, when all of a suden Matty came and decimated them (as other forum members tend to do). He does not do that. However if you plan to state an opinion and say something substantial that you believe in, be ready to defend it, debate it and beat it to death until the moderators come and close the thread. Admit it, you like it, who's your daddy? It might just Matty.
rob
That said, I would dispute Peter and Ann on one point. I do not accept for a single moment that I am in anyway a bully. That is to my mind incorrect. You both labour under a misapprehension on that point. I'm not offended by Peter and Ann's erroneous characterisation of me, I've been thought less of by people who opinion of me as a person I have more respect for. Again, that's not meant to be slap, merely how I see things. You may think I'm a bully and I can live with it.
Nevertheless it is entirely up to you to form that judgement and act upon it as you see fit.
Now I'm not saying that I don't have control over that aspect of my style. I do and there's no doubt that I can take the venom out. If there are people who have been deeply wounded by things I have said to them in the past, well then I can see how that is to be viewed as regrettable.
Matty, you are a verbal bully. In my mind, comments like "whilst you chatter on like the resident parrot in the pet shop" only make you a smarter-sounding version of the bully that calls someone "stupid faggot."
I also must say I get tired of a few of the perpetual Polly Anna types on some personal spiritual quest to impress everyone with their decades of "wisdom" and find many of them are equally offensive and disruptive.