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Off Topic Forums => Off Topic Forum => Topic started by: Basquo on September 09, 2006, 12:47:32 am
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Okay, everyone is giving me grief about this: I have a date with a 19-year-old tomorrow evening.
He contacted me first, and I think he's lonely and I feel for him as I went to the same university when I was his age. We've specified that we are looking for friends, not hookups.
I turn 40 at the end of this month, and this is, frankly, flattering. I hope I can give him some support and guidance. We're going to a hookah bar (since obviously he can't get into a regular bar.)
So, let it fly, folks! I'll get you started: He sent me a text message on my cell phone today, and my office mate said " Oh, is he at recess now?"
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So will you be picking him straight up from Scouts?
MtD ;D
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Scouts Theatre Camp, from what I understand, darling. Or perhaps marching band practice. If it's nap time , then I'll know he's *this many*!!!
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Actually, he contacted me on Manhunt, so I doubt it'll be a 'straight' pickup.
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Well on the upside it'll be rewarding to help him with his english homework. ;)
MtD
(Who has a million of 'em) ;D
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well when u pick him up at school, no one will think anything of it if he calls you "daddy". ;D
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When I was 21 I dated a 40-year-old man for about a year. We got along fine but our friends didn't mix too well. I broke it off when he started getting serious and talking about a future. I heard from friends that he was very upset when I broke it off but as naive as I was at 21 I knew I wasn't ready for a commitment. Now that I'm 40 I can't imagine dating a 21-year-old. Frankly I don't find guys that young even sexually attractive. Obviously I didn't want to date 21-year-olds even when I was that age!
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If it's just for friendship and support then who cares. Actually who cares regardless of what it is, since he can legally consent (check the license, girl). And as long as you two enjoy each others company, then so be it.
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You're office mate sounds very amusing. It's just a date, could be fun. What kinda support does he need? Anything beyond the date or some playtime could be tedious. Dealing with needy teenagers is my job. Dating one isn't my cup of tea. Go and enjoy - and you must tell us the details after!
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Creighton, you seem like a man of integrity (based on our PM's) .....I really don't have anything else to add other than that
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"This one time, at band camp..."
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At that age there is a big range of maturity. I've had some great conversations with college gays that were years ahead of their age in responsibility, maturity, and frankly intelligence. On the other hand, I've been at parties where some of the "twenty something crowd" was stupid, silly, immature, and downright annoying. So I'd say go for it, and have a nice time.
Oh...and if it doesn't work out, remember I'm just up Interstate 35 <blush>
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Be sure to take a few sparkly things to amuse him during a lull in the conversation. ;D
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Well, had the date. We met and he reminded me of my nephew. Took him to dinner, then we walked around the town square, then we went to the hookah lounge and smoked. He startd patting my thigh and getting a little touchy, and I kind of wigged out a little bit. I was very up front with him, tho, and told him I wasn't handling the age-difference thing as well as he was. I gave him some homework; I told him to research the haunted places in town, and if he could come up with a haunted tour I would drive back, take him to dinner again, and then he could take me on the tour.
I think I really disappointed him when I turned down an offer to go back to his dorm and cuddle. :-\
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Basquo,
If you are attracted to him, don't let the age thing stand in the way. I am 44 and my baby is 25 next week. Besides him having to tuck me in at 11 while he stays up for hours still, things are not too bad. lol
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. . . . and think of all the free fries he can bring home from work! ;)
MtD
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"Let's go back to my dorm and cuddle"... I just could not handle that. My days of sex in the frat house are a fond and distant memory, but not one I would like to repeat.
But if you like him, go for it "Daddy". ;)
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And, Basquo, it was preferable going home alone, with (hopefully) a hard-on? Jerking off alone? Why is going into a dorm to cuddle such a big deterrent deal?! More of a lecture coming later. Jay
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Back to the DORM???????? oh no noo noooo. Get a motel room if necessary but NOT the dorm.
I was 14 and sucking cock, so I know from experience that age is a very sore subject. After I hit 30 I went for younger guys,....and now that I am 62 almost everyone IS younger lol.!!!!! My partner is 12 yrs younger than me.
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I don't know the big deal is, sheesh. :D When I was 19, a 36 year old woman "broke" me in about sex, and what she taught me sure helped me with "girls" my age when I decided I had to go (well, she was married at the time, and her son was a couple of years younger than me, lol :D ).