Help! I'm driving myself nuts!

[boeing767]

Hi everyone...i'd like to get some advice from you guys regarding something I did. A couple nights ago, I performed unprotected oral sex on a man and then we had protected anal sex. Everything was fine, except about 2 hours later, I noticed in the mirror that I had a small scab on my lower lip, you know, in the area where you put chapstick on(I tend to bite the dead skin off my lips). There were no other noticeable cuts/sores in my mouth at the time nor was there any noticeable precum when I was giving him the bj, but I started worrying that maybe there was indeed precum and it got in  the area on my lip I had been biting. What if the there was no scab yet when I was sucking? What do you guys think? I'm not worried about the anal sex because he was only in me for like two minutes and he came in the condom while pulling out. The blowjob does scare me though, especially because I also got a case of gingivitis and swelling of the roof of my mouth a day later, but I think that could have been due to the fact that I didn't brush my teeth till the next morning because I heard not to brush right after or right before oral sex. (I've had gingivitis/swelling of the hard palate ever since I was a child though). I'm always safe and I get tested yearly, but what do you think my risk of catching anything, especially HIV, is from this incident? Thanks so much for all your help!

[Matty the Damned]

The chances of you contracting HIV from this incident are, in real terms, zero. The scab on your lip is nothing to fret about. You used condoms for anal and that's a great thing.

Other STD's such as chlamydia and gonorrhoea are much more contagious than HIV and can be transmitted via oral sex. You may wish to consider being screened for these.

Take care and read our Welcome Thread.

MtD

[boeing767]

thanks matty. i guess i just needed the reassurement. you know how crazy the mind can be sometimes. i know the risk of getting hiv from oral is low, even with cuts and stuff, but i tend to be very obsessive over tiny details, just like the scab i described above!

[lydgate]

As Matty said: practically zero. If you're obsessive about these things though... well, post again, and I'll reply again.

Gingivitis is treatable (mostly). I have a great dentist, shop around for one.

What? He came in two minutes?! Dude (assuming you're a dude), that was either seriously hot sex or seriously bad sex. Keep us posted.

Jay

[boeing767]

To be honest, it was probably ONE minute. Yeah, VERY, VERY bad! Thanks for the reply!

[Ann]

boeing,

Just to add to the excellent advice you've already received, I like to reccomend to people that they should be having complete sexual health care check-ups at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs. As long as you use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to come back with negative results. Don't forget to get screened for all the other STIs as well, because they're all much more easily transmitted than hiv. Regular testing is the adult, responsible thing to do when you're sexually active.

If you aren't already having routine checks, now is the time to start. As long as you always make sure condoms are being used, you can fully expect your hiv test to return with negative results.

Use condoms and avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

Ann

[boeing767]

Thanks Anne, and to all the rest of you who answered. I think I've come to terms with the fact that giving a bj is very low risk for hiv, even if I had the cut/scab on my lip. i will always be careful no matter what, and i'll make sure to get regular check-ups. I think I can let this go now and stop worrying while always remaining safe.

[Ann]

Boeing,

Glad we could help.

When you have those regular check-ups, if giving blowjobs is your thing, make sure you are getting your throat swabbed as well. While hiv transmission isn't a big concern orally, things like gonorrhea and syphilis can be.

Keep using condoms and you will avoid hiv infection.

Ann