Please somebody help, am I at risk after protected oral with escort? Diarrhea.

[justinsm]

10 days ago I have done something I could not explain :-(. I visited escort for the first time in my life with the intent to have oral sex. I cannot blame it on being tipsy or drunk... I only touched her and three or more time kissed on the breasts/skin (touched her with my tongue one or two times on the breast nipple). We were not kissing or so. She performed on me PROTECTED oral sex (approx. 4 minutes). I have not checked the condom afterwards, but I do not remember anything unusual about it (like being broken or so) during the condom putt off. I finished on her from the distance (30 centimeters), cleared myself and went away. Next day at home I have noticed tiny but fresh small wound near the finger nail on the hand which I probably used to put off condom (so it might got in contact with saliva on it). I cannot remember whether already existed when I was there.

Now I have read on the forums that oral sex is not zero risk activity (but the docs say the risk is almost zero for practical purposes). The escort looked decent but as far as she told me she is pretty long in what is she doing. Do you have ever heard of somebody being infected via protected oral? Or via contacting fresh saliva with fresh finger nail cut? I am pretty scared, because 5 days after the only risky activity of my life I had mild fever (100) for one-two hours and it went away but was followed immediately with a diarrhea which is (but looks getting better) still persistent today. I know it can be also gastric flu or something (the next day I was on visit to distant family and only later they told me that they suffered gastric flu week or 10 days before my visit).

Do I need to do tests for HIV because of this incident? (I will do tests for other STDs for sure in 20 days or so).

Thank you very much.

[RapidRod]

You never had an exposure.

[Ann]

Justin,

It's insulting in the 21st century, thirty years into this pandemic, that you seem to think that those of us who are hiv positive are walking viruses from whom you can be infected through simple touch. Read the Transmission Lesson and educate yourself before you make a complete fool out of yourself.

And another thing. You state that she "looked decent". Well mate, so do I. I look decent. I wear clean clothes. I wash myself every day. Yet I'm hiv positive. You cannot tell a person's hiv status by looking at them. I look like the nice, middle aged woman next door. Would you be so worked up if you got a blowjob from someone like me? Who wasn't a sex worker? Get a grip.

Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect. You're not going to become infected by getting your dick sucked, with or without a condom. Not one person has ever been infected this way and you are not going to be the first. Saliva is NOT infectious!

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO BE TESTED OVER CONTACT WITH SALIVA, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann

[justinsm]

Thank you Ann and RapidRod for your answers. Ann - both points taken. I have read a lot about HIV transmission routes recently, but finished quite confused regarding penile-oral transmission with opinions ranging from zero risk to "small" risk. And than diarrhea showed up, which is quite unusual for me (last time I had one was aprox. 7 years ago) - and instantly I started to make worries....

Ann, in your post I have found my lost confidence and soon after reading your lines, I am back on track with my next actions in life. One of it is to go and test for other STDs just to be sure, that I can safely resume my sexual life.

(Sorry for writing this bit late, but this is my third attempt for answer to your post, the other two were not saved for some reason - one my mistake and the other because of timeout of the form).

Keep up the good work and I wish you all the best!

Justin

[Ann]

Justin,

Good plan. Any sexually active adult should have a complete sexual health check-up at least once a year. Think of it like your yearly check-ups at the dentist. You might not have a toothache, but you go anyway.

Ann

[justinsm]

Ok I am back with some updates, finally (after 3 weeks) my stds panel  returned - everything negative. I was not tested for hiv, as I was suggested here its unwarranted. Doc said that the transmission in my situation is possible, but less likely. I do not want to start discussion, I respect your expertise here, I just report the status how patients like me are informed in central Europe. I am closing the case here and wish you all the best. You were very helpful with your answers and with this site as a whole. Stay well. Justin

[Andy Velez]

Always good to get those negative results, Justin. Be happy that HIV is not your problem and if you consistently use condoms for intercourse it won't be. At least not in terms of sexual risk.

Cheers.