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Title: Rough year for my wife's Family
Post by: clarke on August 08, 2006, 04:50:59 pm
Her Dad died of Lung Cancer this past March.  His younger brother died weeks afterward of Cirrohsis of the Liver.  Her Uncle (on her Mom's side) has Cancer of the Colon.  They removed about half of it today, and while doing so, found one of the tumors/lesions on his Liver had been open for sometime.  We're waiting to see how bad that is, and how long he may have left.  Her older sister is also dying of Ovarian Cancer, she's been in hospice for about a month, and is getting less lucid by the day, and eating less each day.

We're also waiting for news on my younger brother (he's 51).  They found lesions on his Liver, and found them to be an extremely aggressive type of cancer (I have the name of it somewhere.  Apparently it was something that spread from somewhere else, one of his kidneys we think.  He's had health problems most of his life, many emtional kinds (ADHD, Deppression,anxiety etc).  He's on a huge amount of high powered meds.  He's also 6' 7" tall and almost 400 lbs. so his ankles and knees have been messed up for years.

Title: Re: Rough year for my wife's Family
Post by: Teresa on August 08, 2006, 06:07:08 pm
You guys have had a rough time of it.

My condolences and know that I will keep you, your wife and all your family in my prayers.

Hugs
Teresa
Title: Re: Rough year for my wife's Family
Post by: Christine on August 08, 2006, 06:15:45 pm
Your family has had a difficult year. I am so sorry. I will say a prayer, and send good thoughts that peace will come your way.
Christine
Title: Re: Rough year for my wife's Family
Post by: allopathicholistic on August 08, 2006, 07:53:15 pm
Hi Clarke. For you and your wife I wish you strength and love

Look to Heaven, the place of peace and no suffering  :-*

Alex
Title: Re: Rough year for my wife's Family
Post by: Val on August 09, 2006, 04:35:34 am
Clarke,
Wish I could have all the right words that sooth the soul in moments like these, but I find it laboriously enigmatic how we are left with so little choices --- and words and feelings --- when faced with our own destinies! Still, I hope you and your wife find the disposition and fortitude to go on. 

"I'm past the age when a man dies with his sweetheart's name on his lips and leaves his best friend a lock of hair (pomaded or otherwise). When I think of possible, imminent death, I think only of myself. Some people don't even do that. To hell with friends who'll forget me in a day or, worse, tell a lot of fantastic lies about me.  The turmoil of life has left me with a few ideas, but no feelings. I weigh and analyse my emotions and actions with strict attention, but complete detachment. There are two men within me --- one lives in the full sense of the word, the other reflects and judges him. In an hour's time the first may be leaving you and the world for ever , and the second...who knows?" 
Mikhail Lermontov

Peace to you and your wife.

Val
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Title: Re: Rough year for my wife's Family
Post by: clarke on August 09, 2006, 10:46:26 am
Jane just wishes we could fast-forward the year, and kind of get "it over with".

We had "survivors guilt" when many of our friends we acquired in Memphis and Jackson had died of AIDS related complications between late 1994 and 2000.

Now we're kind of in the same "mode" as these were/are family members that were/are good people.  We had fully expected to not be alive for this long, and now we're in fairly "decent" health considering, and family members are dropping all around us it seems.

Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers.
Title: Re: Rough year for my wife's Family
Post by: jkinatl2 on August 09, 2006, 09:38:37 pm
Clarke, I hope and and your family sail into calmer waters soon.