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Main Forums => Pre-HAART Long-Term Survivors => Topic started by: aztecan on January 15, 2013, 12:43:59 am
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It seems I never post anything positive.
Well, this is no exception.
My mother's condition is deteriorating much more rapidly than I anticipated. As some may know, my mother, who is 89, was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer last September.
My sister and I have been trying to take care of things, but it has reached a point where we cannot.
So, tomorrow, my sister and mother are meeting with an agency that provides hospice care. It is time. Neither I nor my sister can provide the ongoing care my mother needs.
I find myself just going through the motions or, in the alternative, in a wildly emotional state. The latter is uncommon for me, and I am having trouble adjusting to it.
The bottom line is I may not be posting here as much as I would otherwise. The main reason is, in my current state of emotional flux, I find myself posting things that I shouldn't.
I am managing to keep it together when I am at work, but that is taking a lot more will power than I anticipated.
Please wish me luck with this.
HUGS,
Mark
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My thoughts are with you at this difficult time.Please be proud of yourselves for making the right decision....that to me shows courage and love.
Please take care of yourself too.
britchickx
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Im sorry. i've just noticed I've replied in the lts forum..oops....but still thinking of you.
Britchickx
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Mark , I'm saddened to hear what you , your family and mom are up against , my heart and thoughts are with you . I admire you very much and hope you take the time to care for yourself , be well . Hugs , Jeff .
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Mark, I'm so sorry to read this and that you and your family find yourselves in this position. I will be thinking of you a lot.
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Went thru the same with my dad a few years ago, pancreatic cancer. Hospice was wonderful, making a difficult time easier. They were there for the whole family.
Your family will be in our prayers.
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So sorry buddy. Seems there are no appropriate words to convey my heartfelt thoughts for you. My father passed a couple of years ago and we had been hesitant to place him in a home or contact hospice. Ultimately, hospice was the greatest option we could have arrived at. Not only was he well taken care, he enjoyed the care and attention that was provided.
hugs and luvs
Wolfie
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Dear Mark I am close to My Mom and am trying to help Her as She gets older. I thought I would be gone by before now. It is wonderful that You are still around to help Her thru this horrible time. I don't. Know You but included You in My prayers.
Hugs Bobby
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Mark
I can relate to what you say. My Mom died in 2007 and I am still experiencing anxiety and stress.
Take care of yourself.
Peace.
Joel
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Mark,
Sorry to hear it has gotten to this point.
My partner's mom had bone cancer and was put in hospice care.
They entire family was greatful for having the support.
I have been thinking of you since you first told us what you have been going through.
Please take care of yourself!
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Mark,
Please know that I'll be thinking of you, even if you're not posting here. I'm sorry you are having to go through this difficult time with your mother.
Hugs,
Henry
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Mark,
Our hearts goes out to you, your sister and mother. We will keep all three of you in our thoughts. Over the past 12 years, Ed and I, have dealt with loosing our parents, my sister, Ed's brother. It is so emotionally and physically draining, so please take some time out for yourselves, during this difficult period.
Please take care/ Stay strong-----Ray and ( Ed)
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Mark,
I am so sorry to read about your mother. Of course your mind and emotions will take flight during this trying time and posting here will likely, at times, be the last thing you may want to do.
Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Best.
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Mark, damn. So sorry to read this sad news. Both my parents died within the past 5 years so I know how emotional the process is.
Hospice is wonderful. I helped take care of my parents in their last days, with Hospice also involved. They keep the patient's comfort at the forefront which is really the ultimate goal.
I will certainly be thinking about you, your sister and mother. Please take care.
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Mark , such a hard thing to admit you cant do it all any more...the Hospice folks took really good care of my Mom, two Brothers in law and My younger sister over the past 3 years.... you need to be sure to take care of yourself..... I will be thinking of you and hope you allow yourself some slack for not being able to do it all .....happy to chat anytime
Nick
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Oh Mark, I am so sorry....
my experiences with hospice have all pretty much been positive, and I hope yours will also.
Wishing you strength and fortitude, and praying for a peaceful and merciful transition for your Mom.
Love, Alan :'(
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Mark,
Sorry to hear the news about your mother. Several members of my extended family have had to make the same decision. I hope you don't feel like you've failed in anyway. It's hard enough dealing with the situation as it is without adding weight that shouldn't be on your shoulders.
Take your time. We'll still be here...
Dean