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Meds, Mind, Body & Benefits => Mental Health & HIV => Topic started by: mecch on March 21, 2009, 07:04:36 pm
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I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me!
Cheesey aspects of self-help aside, three audio books that I have found helpful are:
Dalai Lama - The Art of Happiness
Pema Chodron- Getting Unstuck
Eckhart Tolle - The Power of Now
Anyone have a fav to recommend?
Thanks, Stuart Smalley
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I love pema. Never read "unstuck" though. My therapist has me reading THE FOUR AGREEMENTS. But I tend to like the buddhists. Charlotte Joko Beck EVERDAY ZEN is good. And I also like RADICAL ACCEPTANCE by Tara Brach.
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http://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Blackmail-People-Obligation-Manipulate/dp/0060928972
Emotional Blackmail - When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You was very useful in getting out of a bad relationship. Things I accepted as normal were not at all, and this book literally opened my eyes to certain things for the first time.
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The Men Who Hate Women, and the Women Who Love Them
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http://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Blackmail-People-Obligation-Manipulate/dp/0060928972
Emotional Blackmail - When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You was very useful in getting out of a bad relationship. Things I accepted as normal were not at all, and this book literally opened my eyes to certain things for the first time.
I'm 99.9999999999% certain my mother wrote this book. Wonder where the royalties went? She probably didn't share them because the whole family (dys)dynamic was of course, the fault of yours truly who, according to Mommy Dearest, should never have been born.
Ann
(who hates emotional blackmail with a passion)
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Eckhart Tolle? really? a total homophobe.
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Where and when has Tolle said anti-homo stuff? I'll be interested in more info on that.
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I will look up the info for you. Pretty much he believes that being gay or acting on homosexual desires is a stage that one needs to move beyond.
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Anything by Eckhart Tolle, not only The Power of Now but also his other two books, A New Earth and Stillness Speaks.
The ten-part webcast that Eckhart did with Oprah for A New Earth is great and highly recommended, available for free:
http://www.oprah.com/article/oprahsbookclub/anewearth/pkganewearthwebcast/20080130_obc_webcast_archive
Eckhart Tolle also has many audio CDs that are both inspiring and calming. It can get expensive to buy them all, my local library has many of them available so I've imported them into my ipod and listen to them every morning. Listening to Eckhart is an incomparable experience. I recommend them all but especially:
Even The Sun Will Die
Through The Open Door
Also, as I mentioned in another of your threads, Byron Katie is truly inspirational, the real deal.
Eckhart Tolle is not at all a homophobe. In fact, in A New Earth he specifically addresses gays and lesbians and says some interesting things, not in any way homophobic. I gave my copy of it to a friend so I can't look it up right now. He's the opposite of a homophobe, in fact a few of the reviewers on the Amazon page for the book took offense to what they perceive as "pro-gay" comments from him.
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I liked 'the joy of living' Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche,
it s about basic meditation, without hocus pocus, a technique that I found useful.
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A different venue...not a book...but Dr. Joy Browne...a daily radio psychology call-in show available via free podcast (the latter having had the commercials deleted.)
http://www.wor710.com/The-Dr--Joy-Browne-Show/3600223
She broadcasts three hours each weekday (37 minutes per hour without commercials) and takes calls on all variety of topics...people asking about solutions to their problems and challenges. I download her podcasts...in you don't have an i-pod you can listen to the broadcasts on her website listed above. It's not only interesting, but I have found her comments very useful in dealing with my own life. (Don't confuse her with Dr. Laura who is somewhat anti-gay. Dr. Browne is very gay-friendly.)
Gary
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The Healthy Mind, Healthy Body Handbook by David S. Sobel MD, and Robert Ornstein, PhD
http://xnet.kp.org/permanentejournal/winter01/book1.html
I found it really helpful
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Wow! I'm really glad I pull this book out to see the authors name for the last post and thumbing through it I'm seeing why I recommended it. It really has tons of information on hundreds of issues. I can't recommend you pick up a copy enough! pick up a copy. If it's the last book you ever buy. get one!
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Hardcore Zen by Brad Warner, audio tapes by Jack Kornfield, homemade pasta sauce ala mom and recipes by Lidia Bastianich, guilty pl;easure movie watching and my beagle snoring :-)
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Anything by the late Leo Buscaglia, PhD
Does anyone need a hug? :)
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"Creative Visualization" by Shakti Gawain.
http://www.amazon.com/Creative-Visualization-Imagination-Create-Gawain/dp/1577312295/ref=ntt_at_ep_dpi_1
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"The Miracle of Mindfullness" by Thich Nhat Hanh. Taught me to slow down my life.... :)
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I just went to a weekend retreat with Pema Chodron. It was really amazing to be in her presence. I thought it was going to be a large group of 50 or 70 people. Try 550 people. Nevertheless, she was really inspiring. She taught meditation techniques for the Tibetan Buddhist practice of tonglen.
Matt
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"The Miracle of Mindfullness" by Thich Nhat Hanh. Taught me to slow down my life.... :)
Thich Nhat Hanh is a very good author. I read a book of his, titled something like "if Jesus and Buddha Were Brothers." Not sure if that's the exact title, but it's very close. It was pretty inspiring.
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You may be thinking of "Living Buddha, Living Christ"....also a good book.
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You may be thinking of "Living Buddha, Living Christ"....also a good book.
No, I went and looked at what the book title is, (I have the book), and it's "Jesus and Buddha as Brothers."
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I'll have to get that one from amazon....
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I am also interested in taking a look, I think the complete title is:
Going home : Jesus and Buddha as Brothers
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I am also interested in taking a look, I think the complete title is:
Going home : Jesus and Buddha as Brothers
Eureka! Yeah, 'tis it. It's really a good read.
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I like his "True Love - a practice for awakening the heart"
it's a very short big read.
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If you are enjoying Thich then try Joseph Goldstein's Insight Meditation. It is a great overall explanation of meditation and how that gets you to more freedom in your mind.
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My all time favourite is The Power of Now. I'm still waiting for Sharkdiver's 'proof' that Eckhart Tolle is a homophobe?
Nothing I have read by him has reflected that. In fact, in The Power of Now Tolle suggests that gay people could have an advantage to achieving enlightenment because of the obstacles they have to overcome amongst an 'unconscious' majority.
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My all time favourite is The Power of Now. I'm still waiting for Sharkdiver's 'proof' that Eckhart Tolle is a homophobe?
Nothing I have read by him has reflected that. In fact, in The Power of Now Tolle suggests that gay people could have an advantage to achieving enlightenment because of the obstacles they have to overcome amongst an 'unconscious' majority.
I agree wholeheartedly with all of the above. ;)
Not to sound too dramatic but Eckhart Tolle has pretty much saved my life.
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OK I bought eckhart and will start reading him tonight. Saved your life? That sounds like a good review.
Matt
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OK I bought eckhart and will start reading him tonight. Saved your life? That sounds like a good review.
Matt
LOL, it's true, not exaggerating.
I started with A New Earth, then The Power of Now...either order is fine but that worked for me. I also highly recommend you look at the interviews Oprah did with him, they are available online (3-parts, 1/2 hour each). It's a good way to see him, which is part of the whole experience, he exudes a true sense of peace and calm and happiness.
LINK:
feed://www.oprah.com/podcasts/anewearth.xml
She also did a ten-part web series for A New Earth, each part they discussed one chapter, it was great.