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hand job variation question...
« on: June 06, 2006, 11:16:49 am »
 :) :) :)Hi everyone! I just recieved my 5th consecutive negative test at the 20 week mark. I'm beginning to feel well again. I'm still having some GI disturbances and seeing a gastric motility specialist at a major teaching city hospital. Thanx to all on this site who have listened to my incoherent ramblings. Rockman

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« Reply #1 on: June 06, 2006, 11:49:51 am »
wow five tests

Thats a lot of tests- but a great result

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« Reply #2 on: June 06, 2006, 02:59:26 pm »
Once you tested negative at 13 weeks there wasn't any need for further testing. And there's certainly no need for further testing at this point.

You are HIV negative. Period. End of story.

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« Reply #3 on: June 08, 2006, 05:31:09 am »
Thank you kind sir!

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back with a new question...
« Reply #4 on: January 08, 2007, 11:57:18 am »
Hello. My question is. After months of intense flirting, a co-worker of mine and I engaged in some serious deep and passionate french-kissing for about 20 min. I'm unaware of her sex history. I'm married and don't feel very good about this. Can anything be exchanged this way? For the records, I tested neg at 3,6,9 months. I had to get one at 10 months for life insurance policy(also neg.) Thanx for answering my question. Rockman. All the testing was prior to this encounter(not confuse.)

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« Reply #5 on: January 08, 2007, 12:03:20 pm »
You were not at risk for french kissing that gal. If you are going to worry yourself everytime you stepout on your wife, DON'T DO IT or GET A DIVORICE.

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« Reply #6 on: January 08, 2007, 04:52:25 pm »
Before you go smooching again or whatever, how about reading the lesson on Transmission which is on this site. There's a link to it in the Welcome thread which opens this session.

It covers all the basics that you need to know and pay attention to in relation to HIV.

Guilt is a whole other matter and it's no tribute to your character or your marriage for you to beat yourself about going sniffing around other places. You're a dog like the rest of us. Generally speaking it is a good idea to avoid behavior which is going to make you feel like s**t afterwards.

This is NOT an HIV situation. Period. End of story.

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condom slippage?
« Reply #7 on: February 13, 2007, 08:57:37 am »
 I engaged in sexual intercourse with a co-worker of mine. I had a condom on. After climaxing, I pulled out. Unfortunately, the condom must have slipped off at this time. She went into the bathroon and pulled it out. She said the condom was intact and that cum was inside it and contained. It(the condom) must have slipped off as I was coming out. I've worked with her for 12 months. She's caring,open,honest and a good nurse. She stated to me that she doesn't have Hiv or STD's. She stated that she always uses condoms.  Did my actions put me at any risk? Do I need to test? I am married to another woman and I know what I did was wrong. Thanx for answering my question.

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« Reply #8 on: February 13, 2007, 09:04:54 am »
Rock,

As the condom came off as you withdrew, you were not at risk during this incident. You were protected while you were inside of her, which is the important thing. No risk.

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« Reply #9 on: February 13, 2007, 09:05:14 am »
No you weren't at risk, but you do need to know how to withdraw correctly to prevent this from happening.

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PS - read through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

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« Reply #11 on: February 13, 2007, 09:46:02 am »
 As I mentioned, I was unaware as to when the condom came off. However; due to the fact that cum was inside it and contained, I'm assuming it was at the end of the act as I was withdrawing(should have used a hand down there to keep it on.) So you feel no testing is indicated? I feel like such a piece of shit. You think I would have learned something from my past expereince.  Hopefully,this will do it for me.

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« Reply #12 on: February 13, 2007, 09:48:46 am »
When I first withdrew I looked down and saw no condom. It just scared the shit out of me. I really F'd up again.

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« Reply #13 on: February 13, 2007, 10:37:20 am »
Rock.  It sounds like you feel guilty and that is what is leading to your anxiety.  Your a dog just like the rest of us and you strayed a little.  It happens. 

Listen to the others on this, you were protected but do use a hand down there to withdraw from now on.
LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safely
in a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,
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« Reply #14 on: February 13, 2007, 11:46:02 am »
Question. I see this nurse every week and talk/text her several times each week as well(you could say I have feelings for her.). Would it be incorrect to ask her to get a test for Hiv? I know I'm negative from my testing past. Of course, I would continue using condoms(correctly) however; it would give me some satisfaction knowing her status definetively. You guys F'N rock! Thank You!

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« Reply #15 on: February 13, 2007, 12:01:08 pm »
You could ask, but if your asking us how she would take it you never no. Just keep using the condoms and you won't have to worry about it.

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« Reply #16 on: February 13, 2007, 12:18:55 pm »
 :)Thanx Rod. You are the man!

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« Reply #17 on: February 13, 2007, 12:25:55 pm »
It is your health and your responsibility.  You were not at risk according to what you have told us.  I would say it would be rude to ask someone you are having an affair with to provide you with the security you seek, it is not her responsibility to make you feel better.  Just my opinion.  It really wouldnt matter what her results were anyway as you didnt have a risk!
LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safely
in a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,
thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT A
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« Reply #18 on: February 13, 2007, 12:28:10 pm »
Rock,

Her hiv status is irrelevant. You weren't at risk even if she is hiv positive. Besides, if she tested today, it would only accurately tell you her status three months ago.

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« Reply #19 on: February 13, 2007, 07:32:18 pm »
    I did mention that I'm married. My co-worker wants to get together again. We are very sexually compatible together. I'm conflicted. I read up on proper use of condoms and feel I would be prepared. Nonetheless, I feel it's the wrong thing to do. I know this isn't the forum for this kind of question but why the struggle with this? At least if I give in to my weakness I will be protected. 

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« Reply #20 on: February 13, 2007, 07:35:07 pm »
We dont give or deny permission to cheat on this site.  Youre an adult, make up your own mind.  we are here for HIV risk assesment ONLY.
LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safely
in a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,
thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT A
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« Reply #21 on: February 18, 2007, 08:58:26 am »
Hi! I have a question about transmission. I know Hiv is in semen. Can Hiv be transmitted via pre-cum? Are the concentrations high enough to infect someone? I don't feel as if I've put myself at a risk(condom came off as I removed myself from girlfriend).I mentioned I don't know her Hiv status. However; I do obsess over things and that isn't good(maybe I shouldn't do those things.) I use condoms all the time(even wife ((doesn't like the pill.)) After her cycle, we may not use condoms for a few days as it's not likely to get pregnant at this time. I don't feel like I'm at a risk ,but will test just to make sure(in my head.) I want to do what is safe for everyone in addition to keeping my relationship with spouse intact.

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« Reply #22 on: February 18, 2007, 09:04:06 am »
Not with a condom on. If you want to keep your relationship with your spouse, then don't cheat on her.

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« Reply #23 on: February 18, 2007, 09:48:52 am »
Thank You. Is pre-cum infective as semen? Can Hiv be transmitted thru pre-cum? Thanx.

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« Reply #24 on: February 18, 2007, 10:01:35 am »
My bad, as I know this site is about Hiv transmission/infection. Thanx for all who have answered my questions about this topic. However; I'm really stuck with wanting my marriage to work(have a young child) and at the same time having this affair with my co-worker safely(girlfriend.) Maybe I can have both, more than likely I'm just kidding myself and in serious denial(not the river in Egypt.) I know you can't comment on these issues as it's not in the nature of what you do here.

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« Reply #25 on: February 18, 2007, 10:36:08 am »
Yes, pre-cum can contain HIV. As long as you consistently use a condom you are not risking infection sexually. You can't pass a virus you don't have.

Guilt is a whole other matter. You will have to decide what works for you in your life in the situation you have described. And if you feel you need help with that then see a therapist or other professional to sort things out.

 
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« Reply #26 on: February 18, 2007, 02:54:26 pm »
Hi there I have a quick question for the pros. As I stated prior the condom slipped off as I pulled out. Possibly the head of my member may have had contact with her vaginal wall for a second(don't know for sure.). My genitals didn't appear to have anything(secretions on them.)  :)How easy is the virus passed? Thanx!   Rockman

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« Reply #27 on: February 18, 2007, 03:08:12 pm »
It's not easy to transmit form a woman to a man as it sounds. You were protected until you incorrectly withdrew. It doesn't matter if you got some juice on the head of your penis. It was not forcefully introduced into your urethra. Make sure you keep ahold of the condom on withdraw.

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« Reply #28 on: February 18, 2007, 07:20:25 pm »
 :)Mr. Rapid Rod(as a sign of respect I use Mr.)  Thanx for answering my question. You are without a doubt  the"man" and I appreciate your thoughtful and intelligent responses. Rockman

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« Reply #29 on: February 18, 2007, 07:24:11 pm »
Keep using those condoms Rock and keep a hold of them when withdrawing or changing positions. You'll be fine.

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« Reply #30 on: February 25, 2007, 06:39:04 am »
Good Day! I've read your welcome thread and lessons on transmission. My question is about cunnilingus. From time to time I get a small ulcer on the roof of my mouth. My doc has seen it and said it's an ulcer from stress. Would performing cunnilingus put me at a risk contracting Hiv if I had that small ulcer at the time? What about other kinds of Std's? Thanx!

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« Reply #31 on: February 25, 2007, 09:02:34 am »
Rock,

Going down on a woman is not a risk for hiv infection. However, you will have to decide where your own comfort level lies when you have a mouth ulcer. There are other STIs you can get from cunnilingus, such as gonorrhea, herpes or syphilis, but having an ulcer won't necessarily increase this risk.

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« Reply #32 on: February 25, 2007, 09:39:04 am »
"You will have to decide where your own comfort level lies."  :) So you are saying that even with a very small ulcer(not wheeping,oozing or anything like that, basically a small crack on roof of mouth) performing cunnilingus will not put me at risk for contracting Hiv? I have been having a sexual relationship with her(using condoms) and she assures me that she doesn't have Hiv or STD's. I don't want to put myself into a risk situation.  Thanx again and keep up the good work!   Rockman :)

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« Reply #33 on: February 25, 2007, 10:27:07 am »
Rock,

We're into the realms of the theoretical here. In real life, no, a small ulcer isn't going to put you at risk when you go down on a woman. Put it this way, my partner is still hiv negative after nearly eight years and we have a full sex life. Not one proven, documented case has ever occured this way and you won't be the first.

Keep using those condoms, correctly and consistently, and you'll be fine. Make sure you check out the condom and lube links in my signature line. A correctly used condom rarely breaks.

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« Reply #34 on: March 01, 2007, 01:11:05 pm »
I went to get a massage today at one of those Asian places(stressed out about breaking up with girlfriend.) The girl was very attractive(23 y/o.) After some massage, she lubed me up with baby oil and proceeded to due her thing(with her hand.) That was the extent of contact. I don't think I did anything to expose myself to anything(did I?)  :'( At this point, I realize I need serious help. I'm not a good person.  I'm tired of living my life being driven by my genitals(really sucks.) Hopefully, I can finally end this destructive behavior and be grateful for what I have today(wife and son.)

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« Reply #35 on: March 01, 2007, 01:16:38 pm »
Take the time and read the "Welcome" thread and follow the link to transmissions.

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« Reply #36 on: March 01, 2007, 01:20:49 pm »
No risk.  And seek help for your guilt. 
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« Reply #37 on: March 02, 2007, 03:44:20 pm »
 :)Good day. My question is this. I've read the Welcome thread in addition to gleaning information from the educators here on-line(thanx.) Regarding cunnilingus, why is there such a discrepency between many in this field? EXAMPLE: My local state Hiv hotline says that cunnilingus is a definite risk and requires testing. I'm just trying to get the best information out there to protect myself and family(make the best choice.) Some say documented cases exist,others only in theory. Thanx again. :) Rock

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« Reply #38 on: March 18, 2007, 07:17:34 pm »
 My co-worker who I've been having this affair with is black. I love all races. However; does her being black put me at a greater risk for hiv? I've read several places that hiv is much more prevelant right now among blacks in our country(and with new documented cases.)  Thanx guys. Be well!  Rockster :)

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« Reply #39 on: March 18, 2007, 07:35:07 pm »
Rock, we can't account for the differences and (mis)information you may find on other sites. What we tell you here is well grounded in HIV science.

The basics of transmission that you need to know are all in our lesson on this site.

No, having an affair with someone who is black does not put you at greater risk for HIV transmission. Unfortunately it is true the infection rate is high in the black community due to the lack of condom use for intercourse. There is of course a raging HIV epidemic in sub-Saharan Africa. As long as you consistently use latex condoms for vaginal or anal intercourse the race or HIV status of your partner(s) is totally irrelevant. Condoms provide very effective protection no matter whom you are with. And of course using condoms everytime also protects your partner as well.
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« Reply #40 on: April 19, 2007, 07:28:59 am »
Hi. I had an episode where a young lady used her hands on my member while sucking gently on my balls. Is there a reason to test for hiv in this case? I had no visible cuts on my scrotum. I didn't see any blood in her mouth or on my scrotal sack. I'm concerned about the possibility of micro tears and micro blood(too small to be seen.) That was the extent of the contact. Thanx for answering my question. Rockman

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« Reply #41 on: April 19, 2007, 07:32:25 am »
Rock,

You should know the answer to this by now! Kissing, even if it is your balls that are being kissed or sucked, is NOT a risk for hiv infection. Neither is a handjob. Getting a blowjob is also not a risk for hiv infection.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

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« Reply #42 on: April 19, 2007, 10:14:33 am »
Ann, yes I do know the answer. However; I was kind of paranoid due to the fact that the girl is a paid pro. Again I know the phrase"no risky people, just risky behavior." I know this is an Hiv webpage. Could you help at all with addiction?  I've been faithful thru 10 years of marriage but the last 18 months have been hell(all my fault.) I've been having these affairs and fooling around.  I've been wracked by guilt,panic-stricken and in much pain however; I seem to have trouble stopping. I can't keep living this way as it's destroying my life and at some point will wreck all the good things in my life. I'm desperate to be well. Any suggestions? Please.

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« Reply #43 on: April 19, 2007, 10:26:02 am »
You admit that you have a problem, then since it is bothering you, seek out the help of a mental help professional.

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« Reply #44 on: April 19, 2007, 02:52:55 pm »
Thanx for the advice. It's something I have to do(get better.) I've been obsessed with women,porn and sex since an early age. It's no way to live your life(really sucks.)   Rock

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« Reply #45 on: May 11, 2007, 09:33:27 am »
I have a question for the experts. I'm a few weeks short of my 13th week to test for a questionable low-risk exposure(condom slipped off.) The last few weeks I've had this itchy red rash(arms or legs.) It comes every few days. It lasts for an hour or 2 then fades away. I'm going to get it checked. I've read alot about Hiv and skin related conditions(rashes etc.) Hiv related? Would someone have these conditions a few months post exposure? Thank you for answering my questions. I appreciate it!                        Rockman

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« Reply #46 on: May 11, 2007, 10:09:37 am »
Come on, man! You already know the answers to this kind of stuff.

Are we talking about hand holding here during your waiting period or what!

Get yourself productively busy in your daily life and you won't have the time or energy to torture yourself with this kind of totally irrelevant stuff. Really.
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Re: follow-up...
« Reply #47 on: May 20, 2007, 09:45:34 am »
Hi. I have a question for the experts. I had a possible exposure with a condom slipping off. I believe it was on withdrawl. The condom was intact and semen was inside it(not in her)when she removed it. I went for an Ora-Quick test and it came back negative. I thought that I had waited 13 weeks but after looking at my calender I realized I had tested at 88 days(not 91.) I'm inclined to go with this as a conclusive test. Do you agree or feel I need additional testing. Thanx again for answering my question. You provide a valuable resource.                   

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« Reply #48 on: May 20, 2007, 09:59:38 am »
Just to clarify from above question I'm not IV drug user,not on chemo or any drug for that matter, not a transplant patient(something that would inhibit my immune response.) :)

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« Reply #49 on: May 20, 2007, 10:08:40 am »
You did not have a risk from loosing the condom during withdraw. No you didn't need to test the first time, nor you you to retest.

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« Reply #50 on: July 12, 2007, 12:43:39 am »
A question for the pros: Is a 6 week test a fair indicator? I had mentioned some exposure with a young lady(unknown status) placing her mouth on my testcicles(no other contact except her hand on my shaft.) My local hotline said "low risk" and reccomended testing. 13 week test is still 2 weeks out. 6 week negative. Thanx for answeing this question.

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« Reply #51 on: July 12, 2007, 03:37:20 am »
Given that most people will are going to test positive will do so by 6 weeks, we can say that 6 weeks is a fair indicator.

But there's more.

In your case a 6 week test will be a rock solid indicator because you didn't have a risk in the first place. Are you with me here, kid?

Whatever is driving your fear about HIV, it's not something we can help you with. You need to seek the assistance of a mental health professional.

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Re: follow-up...
« Reply #52 on: August 05, 2007, 03:35:43 pm »
Good day. A question for the pro's: I recieved a neg hiv test 5 months condom slippage and 3 months for oral exposure(girl sucking scrotum.) I've recently come down with low grade temp,nasal congetion,pain in ears,sore throat for 3-4 days. Is there a latent conversion? Pardon my question if it's stupid however; it was the first thing I thought about and have found myself to be obsessing. Thanx for your answer.              Rockman

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« Reply #53 on: August 05, 2007, 03:43:32 pm »
You have a conclusive negative on top of you didn't have a risk and you find it necessary to come back and ask an irrelevant question about HIV.  By now you know you should seek help with a mental heath professional to see why you continue to have "HIV Phobia." You are out of the scope of help that you can be provided from this forum.

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Re: follow-up...(second opinion please Ann!)
« Reply #54 on: August 10, 2007, 04:48:53 pm »
I mean no disrespect. Could I have a second opinion? The incident in question is mouth to scrotum contact. I had a possible diagnosis of herpes years ago by doc but nothing definitive. I had no visible cuts,open sores,wounds on my balls at the time in question. I don't know her status(paid pro.) 13 week test is negative. Still with anxiety. I saw my doc today and was given ativan and he said take it easy. Thanx for answering my question. I appreciate it.  Rockman

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« Reply #55 on: August 10, 2007, 06:34:53 pm »
Getting your dick or your balls sucked either gently or roughly doesn't matter. Neither of those activities are ones which put you at risk for HIV transmission.

You've been hanging around here long enough to know that so I have to wonder what's stopping you from "getting it" about what's risky and what isn't. It's all about unprotected vaginal or anal intercourse. Everything else is strictly theoretical.

Really.

You seem to have some ideas in your head about HIV that have no relevance in terms of HIV science.

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« Reply #56 on: August 10, 2007, 08:21:28 pm »
Thanx Andy, yes I have been hangin out here for a while. I must admit that I know I have this "anxiety." I seem to obsess about the worst care scenarios even though they are perhaps not grounded in the real world. Thanx again for your service. I will work thru these issues and re-claim my health.

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Re: follow-up...question
« Reply #57 on: August 12, 2007, 05:07:25 pm »
Hi. I was teabagged. I have a history of herpes from years ago. I thought at the time of the teabag that the skin was intact(no ulcers,open sores.) Does simply having this history put me at a greater chance of getting hiv this way? Again I thought the skin was intact. It's been weeks/months prior to and after this incident that skin has had no break outs. I'm concerned about poss micro-ulcerations? Is this a real concern or not? Thank you. I've read having std's makes ti easier to get hiv. Is this teabag incident different?

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« Reply #58 on: August 12, 2007, 05:10:29 pm »
No Rock, teabagging is absolutely not a risk for HIV transmission, herpes or otherwise.

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« Reply #59 on: October 04, 2007, 05:57:11 pm »
Good evening to the educated people who provide a valuable resource to the general public. I've been around for a while and asked my share of questions. I do have another I can't seem to find in the literature. While at a strip club I recieved a lap/couch dance. At some point the girl leaned into me and licked and sucked my neck. I had shaved earlier in the day. I had no cuts. However; I do get razer burn from sensitive skin. Does this compromise the integrity of my skin?(the first line of defense.) I would like to think that this would not put me at a risk. I'm thinking I would need a significant cut/wound in addition to blood from her mouth(saw nothing.) I'm just seeking your professional expertise and advice. Cheers and thanx for answering my question. Be well.    Rocksteady.

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« Reply #60 on: October 04, 2007, 06:00:31 pm »
Rock,

Getting your neck sucked is not a risk for hiv transmission, razor burn or no razor burn. Saliva is not infectious. Even if her mouth was bleeding, you were not put at risk. No way, no how.

Make sure you are using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Is testing indicated?
« Reply #61 on: November 11, 2007, 11:09:31 am »
 :)Hello there. I have a question to the esteemed pro's from a friend of mine. He shaves all over all the time. He did recieve body licking sans genitals from a massage girl. No breaking of the skin. No hard sucking or bruising. No visible blood seen. 35 days later he comes down with headache,nasal congestion,sore throat,possible low grade temp ,fatigue and some minor sweats at night(not drenching sweats but a film or bead of sweat on chest and arms.) He's in a relationship. Is Hiv testing reccomended for him? I told him probably not(won't listen to me and he's driving me nuts!) Thank you.

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« Reply #62 on: November 11, 2007, 02:12:01 pm »
I've merged your latest thread with your previous ones. Please keep all of your entries in this same thread. Thanks for your cooperation with our rules.

As far as your friend is concerned he could have been licked from head to toe by someone who's HIV+ and it wouldn't have put him at risk for HIV transmission. HIV is absolutely not transmitted in such a manner.

If his symptoms persist he should see his doctor. Whatever is going on has nothing to do with HIV.
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Re: follow-up...
« Reply #63 on: November 15, 2007, 07:01:41 pm »
I have a question for the esteemed pro's for who I have the deepest respect. I'm pretty sure of the answer I just need to double check with you guys. While recieving a handjob the girl briefly touched her vagina for 10 seconds(not the hand stimulating me.) She then placed her hand on my upper thigh/lower back. She never used this hand to stimulate me. The skin was/is intact.  I'm thinkin no risk here. Am I corrrect? Thanx and be well!

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« Reply #64 on: December 09, 2007, 10:43:14 am »
I work in healthcare. The night of the Holiday party I wound up having vaginal sex with a nurse(RN BSN works in dialysis unit.) She lowered herself on me unprotected.I mentioned something about a condom.  She said she's only had one partner(her husband) and I had nothing to be concerned about. She claims not to have had sex for a year as her husband is in the Philipines. The sex lasted about 5 minutes and I foolishly went along until I climaxed. I'm really dissapointed in myself for putting myself at risk. What level of risk is this? I know I'll need a test in 13 weeks no matter what she said.

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« Reply #65 on: December 09, 2007, 02:20:47 pm »
Rock,

You know the deal - test at three months.

However, don't expect to be allowed to use this site between then and now to tell us how you imagine every twinge you feel is seroconversion. You're most likely to test negative.

Stop playing roulette with your health and start using condoms.

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« Reply #66 on: December 12, 2007, 12:00:25 pm »
Thank you Ann! I won't be using this forum every time I get a headache,sniffle,cold,fever,bodyaches etc.etc. I've been around here for a while. I'm very hopeful that this can be my last lesson. God knows that I've made my share of mistakes along the way! I've done some immoral things(I'm a dog) but I'm not really a bad person(just trying to find my way.)

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« Reply #67 on: January 26, 2008, 05:36:55 am »
 :) Hi I have a question for the pro's. I stupidly put myself at risk by having unprotected vaginal sex with a co-worker(RN) who stated that she had nothing. My question is this. I've been experiencing this rash about a month out. It appears as hives and has raised itchy welts. It comes and goes all over my body.. It can last less than an hour and then vanish. It can stay as long as a few hours. No fever,aches,pains,sweats. No fatigue.Does this sound like ARS rash? I do have an appointment to see my doc. I will get testing at the right times. Thanx.

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Rock,

What you describe is NOTHING like the rash sometimes associated with
ARS. See your doctor about it.

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« Reply #69 on: February 02, 2008, 10:10:26 am »
ARS rash? I had unprotected sex 5 weeks ago. I've had these hive-like rashes for a few weeks now. They come and go rather frequently and do itch and burn at times. No fever,fatigue,joint pain,swollen glands. They come and go all over:back,shoulders,legs etc.etc.  I've had 3 negative tests to date: 2weeks,3weeks and 31 days. I know 3months is the definitive test. Does this sound like an ARS rash?  Thanx.   Rockman

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« Reply #70 on: February 02, 2008, 10:26:01 am »
Rock,

I've already told you your rash does not sound anything like the rash that sometimes accompanies seroconversion. The ARS rash does not come and go nor does it itch or burn.

Go see your doctor. It's nothing to do with hiv.

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« Reply #71 on: February 02, 2008, 11:02:09 am »
Sorry for the double post. I will get it checked out by MD.

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Re: follow-up...
« Reply #72 on: February 24, 2008, 09:11:54 am »
Hi. I've seen my primary doc and a dermatologist about recurring daily hives for a little over 5 weeks now. 8.5 weeks since unprotected vaginal. They mentioned hives aren't related to hiv(still freaked at times.). I did read one on-line posting saying that it is . Just curious,how long does ars last? I've had nothing else: flu-like symptons,aches,fever,weight loss,permanent rash,night sweat. Thank you.

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« Reply #73 on: February 24, 2008, 09:21:08 am »
I'm not willing to indulge you any further in discussing the minutae of your rash other than to say neither in description nor in length of endurance does it fit what the ARS rash is like. OK, that's a flat one and lasts for a week or two and then is gone.

What's really more to the point is that after hanging around here long enough to know about using condoms when you have intercourse, you go ahead an do it without protection. Rockman, are the rocks in your head? Although HIV is fragile virus and not easy to transmit, especially from female to maile, low risk is not the same as no risk.

You need to know that everytime you have unprotected intercourse you are putting your life at risk. It's as stark and as simple as that. You can have all the sex you like. Just do it the safer way, which means using a condom everytime without exception.

Get tested at 13 weeks and hopefully collect a negative result. And learn from this experience by practicing safer sex consistently. And quit all of this drama about rashes.   
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« Reply #74 on: February 24, 2008, 07:55:37 pm »
Thanx for your answer. I have been coming to this site on and off for 2 years. It's kind of pathetic I have haven't learned yet. What will it take: testing pos,having my wife find out about some indescretion?  This has been the most difficult thing to go thru as I had all the info and facts and fucked up again(why?). You'd think after my past mistakes I would have learned something at this point. I know something is wrong with me and I have to find a way to fix it,be at peace with it or I'll be dead. It's just that simple. I'm not asking for pity. I know this web site is not set-up for this kind of thing. I can only hope to test negative in 4.5 weeks and finally open my eyes and learn something.  Rockman

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« Reply #75 on: February 24, 2008, 08:03:21 pm »
You seem to want to wish or think your problems away. In my experience that doesn't work. If you really think you have recurring problems, then my suggestion is to get yourself some professional help to sort things out before you get yourself into greater difficulties. Don't try to "fix things" alone. It just doesn't work, at least not for long.
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« Reply #76 on: February 29, 2008, 04:33:35 pm »
Greetings esteemed healthcare-pros. I recieved  a negative hiv test at 9 weeks. I'll go back at 13 weeks to test again. I would assume the 9 week test while not conclusive is a good sign. Would you guys be in agreement with that?  I have started therapy so I can stop making shitty choices. I wanted Andy to know. I appreciated all the work that's being done here. Thank you.            Rockman

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« Reply #77 on: February 29, 2008, 08:38:22 pm »
Rock, fyi the average time to seroconversion is 22 days. All but the smallest number of those who are going to seroconvert will do so within 4-6 weeks after a genuine risk. Your negative at 9 weeks more than encouraging. It's extremely unlikely you will get anything other than a confirmation of that with another negative at 13 weeks.

It's good to read that you're in therapy. Good luck with sorting things out.

 
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« Reply #78 on: March 31, 2008, 02:54:12 pm »
 :) hi guys i have a question for the pro's. i recieved another negative hiv test today at 13 weeks plus 4 days. i'm considering that conclusive. my question is this. i've been taking a medrol dose pack(steroids) for a couple days given to me by my doc to treat these chronic hives i've had for the last 9-10 weeks. would a couple days on a medrol dose pack(steroids) interfer with an accurate reading. the man at the test site said no it wouldn't. i just wanted your opinion. thanx. tell Andy therapy is coming along. he's been a very patient man and a life-saver for me(thanx.)

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« Reply #79 on: March 31, 2008, 03:39:44 pm »
You are conclusively HIV negative. Medrol will not affect the validity of the test results. Continue with your therapy.

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« Reply #80 on: April 29, 2008, 07:51:31 pm »
Greetings. I recieved a handjob. While i was on my stomache i felt some moisture on her hands as she massaged my balls and the opening of my anus. I asked her if she was using oil,cream or saliva. She said she wasn't using anything. It's possible as I showered a few minutes prior. I was concerned that she may have licked her fingers then massaged my balls and very close to the opening of my anus. This was never done before and kind of freaked me out(so close to my anus.) Is this any kind of risk? I know a normal handjob isn't a risk for hiv. Do I need to test for Hiv for this encounter? Thank you.

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« Reply #81 on: April 29, 2008, 08:04:04 pm »
I have been coming to this site on and off for 2 years. It's kind of pathetic I have haven't learned yet.

Rock,

I certainly agree with you. It is pathetic. Not only have you not learned the first thing about hiv prevention and transmission, but you have also not learned how to abide by our forum posting guidelines. You know, like the one about NOT STARTING NEW THREADS? I've merged your threads yet again. Get with the program already.

You've already been told that saliva isn't a risk for hiv infection, so why should it be any different in this case? You didn't have a risk, no matter what the liquid might have been, if there even was any.

You're very close to being given a time out. Please do not go on and on about this handjob incident because if you do, you WILL be timed out.

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« Reply #82 on: April 29, 2008, 08:29:51 pm »
 :) Thanx Ann! Sorry for accidently starting a new thread(my bad!)  I've actually learned alot here. Maybe I just needed to hear it to confirm what I already know(my OCD.) If that's pathetic, so be it.

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« Reply #83 on: April 30, 2008, 08:38:56 am »
Rock,

This forum is not the appropriate place for you to work through your OCD issues. For that, you need to seek out professional advice from a therapist trained in helping people with OCD.

I'm afraid that if continue to use this forum inappropriately, we will have to ban you in order to encourage you to get the help you need. Please consider yourself warned.

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« Reply #84 on: May 22, 2008, 01:50:49 pm »
Hello. I know that cunnilingus doesn't transmit hiv. My question is this. I did perform cunnilingus on my new girlfriend. I may have had a small crack on the roof of my mouth due small ulcers I get on occassion from stress or spicy foods( i had this checked by my doctor.) Would having a small crack on the roof of mouth put me at any risk by performing cunnilingus on her. I actually just licked/sucked her clitoris. I didn't stick my tongue inside her. Any amount of secretions would have been limited as I never even tasted her.  Thanx!

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« Reply #85 on: May 22, 2008, 03:21:15 pm »
Rock,

You've answered your own question. Your details don't change the fact that going down on a woman is not a risk for hiv infection. You didn't have a risk.

We're not here to hold your hand every time you have a sexual experience. I've giving you that time out you've been warned about. I suggest you seek counseling.

Do not attempt to create a new account to get around your time out because if you do, you will be permanently banned.

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