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Title: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Ann on February 04, 2008, 04:41:58 pm
How's that for a thread title? ;D

Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 04, 2008, 05:59:07 pm
It's about time you jumped in, Ann. I have been waiting. Hell with asking him to marry me, I am already married. It's leap year and I have been married to your sorry ass for going on 7 years. I want a damn divorce!!!! And I will be working on that too. It's leap year, I want a new man and I want to be romanced, damn it!!!  ;D Speaking of romance, I have a date tonight. No nicknames for him, I'll just call him Kevin. We're going out for drinks at 7. It's another hook up from a friend, this time my bff. She knows me pretty well since we have been friends for over 20 years, so maybe this time will be better than Rico. I can only hope. I have never dated a white man before but he seems to prefer a sista, so I figure, why not, I am game. I only know a little bit about him for now. But you know I will keep you all updated on how things progress.

My sorry ass case manager called today. I wonder why? I never did hear back from the Supervisor who I put a complaint in to. She calls and says she heard I was in the hospital..Uh, hello, I have been out almost 2 weeks now. Has the nerve to ask about my hearing aids. If I could've jumped through the phone line she would've been slapped... >:( She still is offering me bus tokens and offered to leave some when I go to the clinic on Wednesday. Then she has the nerve to ask is there anything she can do...WTF? No, bitch, I think I have pretty much done it all myself, thanks for nothing. That's what I wanted to scream at her but I remained civil.

The receptionist from my ASO also called asking me if I did my labs today because when she called, they said they weren't in....What? I explained that I had them done and she said she would call back. Those damn people at the labs had better not have screwed anything up.

I think I am going to try to get a power nap in before my date tonight. See ya later...

Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 04, 2008, 06:31:03 pm
Ann thanks for starting the new thread.  I just with we would hear more from you!

Queen, good luck on your date tonight!  I can't wait to hear about it.  You know, during your absence I was sending tons of good energy your way.  Yep, right towards Pennsylvania.  I had my map out. :D  I am so gald you're back.  I do enjoy reading your posts; you're right-to-the-point, but compassionate at the same time.  You're truly one of a kind.  That case manager sounds like she needs an old fashioned ass kicking.  I can't believe she's so lazy and uncommited!

Anyway, I had a talk with my brother about my dad/sister situation and I'm calmer now.  I studied for my exam again.  About 8:00 tonight, I'll read the other 1/2 of my ethics book and begin on that paper.  It's got to be about capital punishment, and to tell you ladies the truth, I'm not quite sure how I feel about that.  I'm a big civil liberties person.  What are you ladies' opinions?  For it or against it?  Anyway, I'm going to browse around here and try to eat something.  I'm sure I'll check back in later.
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: cjc on February 04, 2008, 08:39:48 pm
Hello ladies. thank you for letting me rant about my job in my last post. Dragonette, the bad thing is , I am already shift-supervisor, I only have  harder  days when my supervisor is there. And I seemed to have a really off  day sunday. It was almost surreal. I have never had a worse day there. I will maybe stay but would like to find a different line of work                                               Poor little Robert is very sick. I picked him up from school at 12. Can't get any medicine for him called in and made him an appointment at 9:30 in the morning. He keeps saying his tummy hurts and coughing and vomited twice.   i have been rubbing tummy and just checking on him. Bed soon as I am tired. Cristy      Ann, Thanks for starting the new thread. I will reply to prior posts next time.   C
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: minismom on February 04, 2008, 10:06:55 pm
Oh, Cristy, I'm sorry to hear about poor young Master Robert. :(  I hate it when wee ones are sick and they can't explain exactly what hurts and why...poor things just know that they hurt all over.  We'll certainly say a prayer for him, and mum, to get some peaceful healing sleep tonight.  i hope this is just a quicky tummy flu thing and by sunrise it'll all be over.  Bless his little heart.

Betty, good luck on your test and paper, hun.  I'm glad you got the "stuff" worked out with your sister/brother/dad.  We're in a similar situation and I've just decided to screen my calls and keep my mouth shut (as best i can).

Since it's leap year and we're supposed to ask him to marry us, but I'm already married, can i tell hubby to take a leap? ;)

Mum
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on February 04, 2008, 10:55:35 pm
Oh goodness, so much to reply to!  Its bedtime for me here already.  The first day of work was very easy, just getting familiar with all of the property accounts.  Funny thing is, I am a whiz on the computer with accounting software and everything I did today was BY HAND.  WTF?!  I mean, I would pull 6 checkbooks at a time and MANUALLY enter deposit amounts, carry balances forward....and then the best part came.  Paying a few invoices that were past due.  Um, you tear the check out of the book that you just recorded a deposit in, walked down the hall to put away and then went back to get.....

....and you type the check on a typewriter.  Oh dear.  I still liked what I was doing, but for having so many accounts you think they'd have some better accounting software that can handle all of them AND print your checks on a printer.  Eee-gads!  Maybe I can talk them into Timberline this summer (accounting for multiple accounts).  :D

I caught up on everything here and what stands out the most is you Betty, and your father.  A few things come to mind.  #1) You need to take care of YOU because you don't have it easy, either.  #2)  You have enough siblings that they can take care of your father more if need be.  #3)  I hate to say this, but I am starting to get this way with my parents....If you don't feel they deserve something, don't feel bad for not helping.  I still remember Em saying we teach people how to treat us. 

On a smaller level, BT, I have been "testing" my mother lately.  She just returned from a 2 week vacation down south with my father.  She gets home and gets sick, dad starts to get sick, too.  I call and leave a voice mail last Wednesday afternoon right after I get the job offer.  My mother didn't call until today.  I kept saying I should call again over the weekend because Mom was sick (Dad, too) and maybe she didn't get the voice mail.  Thing is, Mom never answers the phone, you leave a message and then she calls you bitching that you haven't been in touch.  I say hey, pick up the damn phone and if you can't, then check the damn voice mail later!!!!  It makes me so mad when she does that.

So, I am trying to "teach" my mother that if she needs something, like a message on the voice mail that is there and waiting, then she actually might have to pick up the phone and punch a few buttons.  She is such a drama queen, and she NEVER did apologize for hanging up on me before she went on vacation earlier this month.  I think I mentioned it.....I basically cussed at her and said I was sick of her games, that she knew exactly what she was doing, trying to start an argument, and to knock it off.  She was so surprised she hung up.  Uh-huh, I love the shock factor.

BT, its just a shame that your father needs help and won't/can't get it because he is being stubborn with the smoking.  And if he is literally defacating all over his apartment?  I would leave that for someone else and take myself out of the mix, most definitely.  I know it must be tough, though, but your father is playing all of you.  Goodness, there are enough siblings to give him the attention he needs.  Give yourself a breather and lay low for awhile, it might be a nice break.   I know this all sounds harsh, but you KNOW someone will help him out, so its OK.

Cristy, good luck on your job search.  Look for something fun where its not so exhausting for you.  Or do the shock thing, if you're a supervisor, tell someone else what THEY need to do, and leave it be.  I know it ultimately comes back to you, but what the hell, you can't do it all.

I'm on a roll tonight.  LOL

Cams nice to see you!

Queen good-luck with Kev, behave yourself. LOL  Sorry your case manager is such a dumbass.  I still say you should ask if they are hiring for her position.  ;)

Drag (note to Mum, you crack me up calling her "Dragon", lol), seems like you still have baby on the brain.  Things will happen when they are supposed to, and you will get through it.  I know you're worried about your environment and bringing a little one into the world.  I still say don't rush things, take care of yourself, too!  :)

Ann, I am not asking any man to marry me, lol.  If he wants my heart, he'll have to come get it himself!  Cute title, though, but leap year isn't going to make me do anything crazy!

I told Iceman tonight that I wasn't so gung-ho on going to the Caps hockey game this Friday and to ask someone else.  The day would just be too long for me after work, and I would get exhausted.  I am really trying to make him understand that, and he does for the most part, but I guess I just hate not having the energy to do what I want anymore.

Oh they had trays and trays of Chinese food (enough for an army) and three cakes at work today for lunch.  I didn't have any snacks, no time and had a small plate of food for lunch.  I DID go back and cut a big hunk of carrot cake to take home at the end of the day.  Last check blood sugar was 145!  That's good for me!

I get medical benefits in 30 days!  Good news there. 

Viv, I do my own tax returns.  I wouldn't risk losing $50 - $75 having someone else do them, just to get a quick return.  If you read the fine print, its pretty easy, although tedious, but you can always refer back the following year.  I have always done my own tax returns except for in '96 when my husband died.  I just wanted to make sure I wasn't missing anything then.

OK, time for bed, seriously.

~ Cindy
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: sunseeker on February 05, 2008, 01:23:10 am
Hi Girls

Just a quick note to say hi.  Had my date tonight with the guy that asked me out.  It was OK, no sparks and I put way to much effort into getting ready and it was just OK.  but hey free sushi is never bad.  He was nice just not the Latin Lover.  Getting excited for this weekend.  The Latin Lover and I are going to spend Saturday and Sunday together.  We are going to a fancy party, its a charity event for police officers.  Its a $100.00 a ticket and black tie.  So I get to get all dressed up.  If I take a good picture of the two of us I let you guys see.    Other than that nothing new to report.  Can't wait to hear about Queen's date.  I will write more tomorrow after I go to the doctor.


bye for now
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 05, 2008, 02:13:44 am
I know folks are anxiously awaiting the news about my date. I must say it was nice and I enjoyed myself. We didn't go out for drinks but he got a case of Coronas and went to his house. We started out watching a movie called The Nines which was confusing as hell to me. Thank the Goddess wrestling came on and I didn't have to watch the end of it... ;D I guess it was the usual blind date kind of thing, asking questions about the other and just talking. He has a Toshiba laptop to die for but knows jack about his computer. He thought the thing didn't work so I asked if I could fiddle with it. Come to find out it works fine other than he has a slow wireless connection through Verizon. I told him I would teach what he needed to learn. We smoked a few doobies and watched wrestling which was followed up by a very nice massage... ;) I know what you guys are thinking and no, I did not have sex. I'm not rushing anything this go around. Next time we get together, it will be movie night at his house. I will be bringing all my Resident Evil movies since he has never seen any of them. While I was gone, my son stopped over. My roomie told him I was out on a date. I better get ready for the 3rd degree... :D I got home just a tad after midnight.  I would write more but now I am ready to crash and I plan on sleeping in. Good Night....Zzzzzzzzz
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 05, 2008, 02:53:20 am
Good middle of the night ladies-

I had a very strange evening.  My blood sugar dropped to a dangerous low (42) and I felt comatose.  Luckily I was able to get up and breathe deeply, and ate all the sugar I could get my hands on.  So I was sleeping during most of yesterday evening; well, I was like I said, comatose.  It was actually a little scarey.

Queen, I'm so glad you had a good date.  You deserve it, gf.  I always enjoy reading your posts.  They always put a smile on my face.  You're truly one of a kind and I just love it! ;D

Cin, I'm glad you'll be getting health benefits!  That means no more having to pay Cobra, correct?  And Chinese food for lunch, eh?  You know, the last couple times I went out for Chinese, I wasn't that impressed.  Of course, it's the Americanized version of Chinese.  There's a Japanese steak house here that's pretty good, but it's pricey.  Sorry you're having trouble with your mom.  I wonder if something is in the air.

As for the situation with my dad/oldest sister (the self-proclaimed god of the siblings), things are just really frustrating right now.  My dad refuses to move from his home. Well, ok, but he needs someone there 24/7.  When I was talking with my brother this afternoon, he told me that the last couple of times he's been at my dad's, my dad was smoking with his oxygen on.  There's another indication that he's losing it and needs supervision.  My oldest sister is just a pain in the ass to deal with.   Everything she says is supposed to be taken as word, with no objections or one runs the risk of a moralistic tongue-lashing.  I'm almost to the point where I'm going to say I quit playing.  I think like people are saying, I will just lay low for awhile.  I'm supposed to go to my dad's on Friday.  It seems that my dad's treating my dear mum like a slave has been transferred to me and my brother.  Ugh. 

Anyway, I'm going to browse here for awhile and try to get some sleep.  Have a good one ladies-
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Dragonette on February 05, 2008, 03:40:31 am
It's funny Betty, youré off to bed, I am just up. You didn't upset me about your dad, don't worry. I think about this stuff anyway. it's so tough, I feel bad that you have to go thru this.
Actually now, its almost 9:30 and I am up since 6.00 due to the damn neighbour upstairs. I hate this, the house has such poor insulation. It used to be OK when we had just a single guy upstairs, but now there're 2 sisters and i always here them. i have to say they are being considerate, we asked them not to wear shoes in the house - I mean, the floors are so think I can hear them talk sometimes. But still I'm pissed.

I had a horrible day yesterday. i was so close to smoking. I actually want to a bar, had a couple of pints, and a cigarette on the table. The only thing that stopped me ironically was that there is such a strong small of cigarettes inside bars here, that it already felt like I was smoking anyway. I was with the BF, and then we went to a nice resuarant cos it was too late to go home and cook. It was a clear night, but now the storm is back. Anyway that was not the bad part of the day, that happened after my last post and before I met my BF for drinks. I don't really drink but I really needed it yesterday. It's all about my work and my f***ing bosses, I hate them so much. I feel so used and manipulated by them, and so freakin helpless. I can't write the detials here, but it all has to do with ownership of one's work and ideas.

Anyway this morning after the 6 am "wakeup" I was in the most horrible of moods. Do you ever get so angry that you kind of shout under the blanket? I'm ashamed to say the things I do when I am angry, I am sure I look like a right psycho from the side. When I saw my BF in the shower (we sleep in seperate rooms; we intend to have one bedroom eventually but for now there is no room in this one for 2 beds) I was like "I can't do this, how can I have a baby if I can't manage life". i mean, everything is just so damn difficult. There's been a huge issue with our taxes this year (I have no rights to benefits but I do have to pay taxes, just my employers pay them back, but they try now to pay less than we actually pay the tax office; pluse they have messed up my salary in other ways). I wrote an email to a person in charge and so did a friend I told. But she only replied to him and ignored me. I know this is a small thing, but everything'so damn difficult, and when it adds up to other things. So I said that I can't do it (baby). He just ignored me. After a while I came back and took it back. Childish i know. I'm supposed to be somewhere now, but I feel so demotivated by what goes on at work - and hurt, and furious, and scared - that Im ust sitting here in a housecoat typing, Ao I was like, i don't know what to do (today, & in general). And he said: "do whatever gets us closer to our goal of a house & a good job and kids in Mallorca [gorgeous Spanish island off the coast from Barcellona]". So I will do that... this will be my guiding principle from now on. It was very sweet of him to say that.

He was talking to his parents in Spain last night and they were grilling him about Israel. It's funny, al-Kaida has said things about claiming back Andalucia - southern Spain where he is from, and his dad asked if the Jews have any claims too, since we were kicked out of there in the Columbus era. His parents are so nice, but so traditional. If they knew anything real about me, they would probabaly have a fit.

I'm going to try to write posts to everyone later, I jsut totally exahusted myself. There is a rainy storm outside, I better go sit on that (wet) bike and go where I was s'posed to be. I'll arrive late but better late than never. Catch you later ladies, sleep dreams, exxcept Ann who should be awake - Ann, it's a whole year right, i'll see what happens till December  ;)
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 05, 2008, 08:08:23 am
Good morning ladies:

Drag, honey, if I drank two pints I would most definitely be smoking my ass off! :D  I know about pesky neighbors.  I live in a place which is a house that was converted into three apartments.  Right outside my kitchen window is the middle apartment's door.  There was a guy that used to live there, who would sit on the porch, which is also right outside my front window.  One time I was playing a video on my computer (which is in the kitchen) and he said "I can see that."  He was a real freak.  The neighbors who live there now are a couple.  Every time they come in or go out, they slam their door.  And after a snowfall, if I go out and shovel, I always shovel a path from my apartment clear around to the front.  They only shovel from their door out to their car.  I can't really complain about hearing what goes on in their apartment; though I did hear a fight they were having once with the whiney female yelling "I don't know what you're trying to do to me."  One of my neighbors told me to call the cops and I said "No way, not unless I hear some thuds and her yelling something like 'stop it' or the like."  I do not like to get involved in domestic verbals.  Anyway, I'm glad that you and your bf have seemed to come to some type of agreement.   You appear to have looked at all sides of things. 

OK, today I am going to read the part of the chapter in my ethics book I didn't read, try to write the paper which will be due on Thursday, get some stamps (and mail a special little girl her valentine  ;)), go to the library to see if I can get Gia, and restudy for the test I'll be taking tonight.  I don't expect to do well on it.  I don't know what this teacher expects.  It's always hard trying to get the feel of a new teacher.  So blah, blah, blah, that should keep me busy until class tonight.  Happy to say my blood sugar is back to normal this morning.  That low blood sugar last night had me worried because of how I felt.  I probably need to monitor that more closely.  I am also trying to think of a way to tell the self-proclaimed god of the siblings that my dad really needs to be in a place that can watch him 24/7.  While talking with my brother last night, he told me that the last few times he's been there, my dad has been smoking with the oxygen on.  Yet he refuses to have someone coming into his home, making sure he doesn't blow himself up and possibly start a fire that would cause other people to be in danger, and helping him with the day-to-day things.  Yet he expects us to run over there to manage any emergency which he deems as an emergency, even if that includes finding the damn remote to his t.v.  Very frustrating, but I digress.  Have a good one ladies-
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Dragonette on February 05, 2008, 08:46:14 am
Betty, let the "God" make the descions, they like that, being consulted with rather than told what to do. With what you describe, there is no other option, that's horribly dangerous to everyone.

No my neighbors are OK actually, I've had a collection of a-holes over the years. In this case it's more the building than them, but yeah at 5 a.m I want to shoot them. I guess the downstairs one can hear us as well, but we have laminat (klind of cheap parquette) on top of original floors, the upstairs one have only the awnings - is that a word? Like you would in an attic, very thin floor. It's a rented place. Get this about the Netherlands, when you rent an apartment, you have to buy the floors & installed gas heaters from the pervious tenant, or they must remove them. More often than not, all lightbulbs and sockets will also be removed. I paid 600 Euro (around 1,000$) for all these "gadgets" on top of the rent and commission to the estate angency. Crazy people. I have never heard of buying floors and fixtures till I moved here. Luckily they don't sell you the toilet, sinks and shower. I was very lucky, because my apartment is about 1/2 the price it should be with the prices here. That's probabaly the hardest thing about living here, finding adequate housing, there is just a huge shortage.

Now I feel calmer. Betty, hope the studying will go smoothly for you.

Cind, I am sure your employers will be only too glad to advance with the times. By the "times" I mean, with the 2nd half of the 20th century. A TYPEWRITER?! Good for RSI though, you won't be cramping your neck on that one. I can see you making a whole technological revolution there, like a mini Bill Gates. Show them that computers are the future! You sound so different coming back from this job than from the previous one. Like... alive?  ;D

Queen, glad you had a nice time. I usually try not to be alone with the guy in his/my place, unless I expect something physical to happen. Not that there's anything wrong with physicality, but since you say you wanna take things slow. Just remember you have the wheel so don't let anyone grab it. Now why does everything I write sound like an innuendo?

Sun, nice to see you around. Hope the gala will be a blast.

Cristy, hope Robert feels better asap. You sound like you already know when work's gonna suck. I hate supervisors. I guess if you could have talked to him to get him off your back, you'd already have done that. Restarant work is already stressful and there is no need to add to that by stressing out the workers when they'd just doing their job.

Snow, I read your tri plets story in the other thread. What an amazing gift, to think you were so close to terminating. That's incredible.

Minismom, very belatedly, Happy Birthday!. I told my BF about your "romantic proposal", we had a good laugh. I also told him about your special family. He really liked the idea. I mean, in theory. I don't think I could ever deal with so many kids, but if I do a fraction of what you do, I'd be well pleased with myself.

Lots of love everyone,








Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Ann on February 05, 2008, 11:16:54 am
It's only one day in Leap Year that women are "allowed" ::) to propose to a man - February 29th. If I remember correctly, it's called Sadie Hawkes Day.

I'm in Liverpool at my ASO's drop-in computer. My massage was cancelled due to the therapist being off sick. My clinic appointment this moring was crap - my numbers have gone into what looks to me like free-fall.  >:( I've lost 224 CD4s (went from 525 to 299) and what scares me more is I've dropped from 27% to 22% - bugger. The thing that pisses me off is that I've been feeling better than I have in years. Figures. ::)

The flight over this morning sucked too. I thought I was gonna puke before I got off the damned airplane. My taxi got stuck in traffic and it took nearly an hour for what's normally a 15-20 minute drive. I didn't get to see the doc I wanted to see - although the woman I saw was nice. It's just that we don't know each other and I get so sick of breaking new junior doctors in only to have them bugger off just when I've got to know them and they me. At least my consultant stays constant... but he's off at the conference in Boston this week "being brilliant", as the nursing staff at the clinic say. :D

They took a new blood draw today (six weeks early) because of the big drop in my numbers. (VL is still pretty low, not much change there) Come this May I'll be positive for eleven years, so I guess my med-free days are coming to an end.  :P I hope I get until nearer the end of the year - after summertime, anyway.

And I was soooo looking forward to that massage!  :-\

I cheered myself up a little by shopping for a birthday present for Foxtrot Charlie. I got him some new sheets for his bed (really for me! SHHHHH! ;D ) and a new leather wallet. The one he's using now is really old and tacky and falling apart and I cringe every time he pulls it out of his pocket.

Anyway, thanks for letting me have a rant. I had to do something with the time I should have been getting my massage, or else I may have wandered into the land of WWs and inadvertantly ripped a few heads off. I think I better just log off and go for a walk or something. Wish I could just get into a taxi to get back home instead of having to traipse back to the airport and sit around, hoping the flight is on time - and then hoping my taxi on the other end is on time so I can get my ass home!

Ann
xxx
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: wishful on February 05, 2008, 04:44:15 pm
Hello Friends...Wow i can finally reply...our computers were on the blitz last week here at work so i couldnt post..I hope everyone is doing well...im the same crazy person i always am... Not crazy enuff to ask no MAN to marry me tho..LOL..I dont even pay for dates..sooo.. :D..Yeah I guess u can call me semi-old fashioned..

Nothing new going on yet..oh I'm lookin into the PA Culinary Arts Institute..if its closer than the NY one..I dunno , will see tho..
So Queen hows Kev look?..Is he a cutie? I have never dated a white guy either but i have certainly lusted over my share..  ::)..Im still tryin to taste some PR juices but im in a relationship right now.. dammit!..I live in a predominately Pr/Hispanic area too..it would be soo easy...*smacks my hand* Bad girl!!..NE who.. speaking of a relaitonship..someone is late as hell picking me up from work..(my caddy is in the shop and i have one of them cheap ass 6 month warranties that they really dont wanna pay for anything so they prolong it and prolong it until u finally say fuck it ill pay myself..but nope ima wait for them..aint gonna wear me down , uhn uhn) Yeah but i get off at 430 n its quater of..what the french toast???? 
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 05, 2008, 06:44:49 pm
After the date last night, I crashed and burned. I slept in til almost 1 pm. About 10 minutes after that Kevin called me. He wanted to pick me up then but I had told him later which is actually now and he is 15 minutes late calling me. No biggie though cause I still feel a bit tired and I actually want to chill in the crib tonight. Maybe when he calls I can get him to come over and watch movies here. He works at one of the hospitals here so maybe he is on call or something. I am not even sure what he does at the hospital. So this dating thing with him is different by all means. No more leaving my meds by the bed, that's for sure. And I am definitely in control of this one going in.

When I went to bed last night my sugar was 209. I guess that was from the Coronas but I just took a pill and went to sleep. I checked it when I got up and it was back down to 124. I haven't eaten anything yet. Not sure what I got a taste for and I don't feel like cooking anything. I'm sure I'll eat something once the munchies have set in. My son stopped by today and grilled me about my date. I had to laugh and reminded him that I am not an old spinster yet.

Sorry to hear you had such a rough day, Ann. I don't plan on asking anyone to marry me since I am still legally married but hopefully I can say I am divorced by the end of the month. I have to get with legal aid who helps get it done for free.

Speaking of neighbors, I was heading out to the store today and someone at my neighbor's house asked me if I was married. I was like wtf? But answered him anyway. Then went on about my business. Betty, Gia is a good movie, I liked it. Sorry to hear you are going through it about your Dad. I hope that doesn't affect your studies.

Wishful-- Good to see you back. I was wondering what happened to you. Cooking school,huh. Sounds good then when you come visit, you can cook me something. I have been craving some shrimp like crazy. Or something cheesy with veggies...Get to cooking, woman.. :D
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: minismom on February 05, 2008, 06:57:12 pm
Ann: sorry to hear about your numbers.  Hopefully your next test will show a good upward swing. 

Drag: Oh, hun, hope your day got better.  Screaming into the covers is better than screaming at everyone around - which is what I tend to do.

Wish: hubby is Hispanic and let me tell ya!  He can't dance and he has no accent.  I was robbed! ;)  His parents are a pain in the butt, too.  But, they're back in the mother land, 2002 miles away, and not 1 inch too far  :P  There's only room for 1 queen in this house and it's ME!

Queen: Glad to see you taking control of things.  You are the queen and if Kev wants to be your king - make him earn it.

BT: I'm sorry this drama just keeps playing out again and again for you.  Dealing w/ grandma's been a pain in the ass.  My dad told the dr. to stop saying she's on her last leg - he's tired of being disappointed :o  She called the cops and had my mom arrested for stealing her car.  Grandma doesn't even have a car.  Then, she accused me and hubby of stealing the car - cops came and scared the crap outta the kids.  We've washed our hands of her.  Easier when it's grandma.  Harder when it's your parent.  But, I understand the frustration.  My mom is taking care of my grandma who's her mother-in-law - granny's own kids are fed up with her. :-\

Not a darned thing has happened here worth posting about.  Just another day in the life. 

Mum
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on February 05, 2008, 07:16:30 pm
Hi GFs~

Tired and haven't had dinner yet.  There were hamburgers and hot dogs with onion rings and fries for lunch today, lol.  I already have enough of a belly, tyvm.  Work is going good but I am too tired to even shower right now.  I think I'll chill and do that later on.

Ann~ I think its called Sadie Hawkins Day.  I haven't heard of that date in awhile, but I will look it up, lol!  Sorry to hear about your labs not being as you wanted, but I had forgotten you weren't on meds.  You're doing fine, GF, just hang in there.  And trust me, meds aren't so bad.  I've been on them since '95.  Keep your chin up.
Queen~ Glad your date went well, but girl I see you getting your groove on in no time.  Slow yourself down when that full moon comes, lol.  What has your son said to you?  ;)
BT~ As far as capital punishment, years ago I always believed you should pay for the crime you committed.  Then I saw the movie "Dead Man Walking" and it absolutely broke my heart.  I guess it made me see that maybe we should value life more and try to rehabilitate people, or at least keep them locked up where they can't hurt anyone again.  But then there's the issue of the cost to keep those people locked up for life.  Its such a difficult decision.  I mean, even if a criminal has no remorse and doesn't give a crap about what he did, then I start to think that maybe he has mental problems and maybe needs THAT kind of rehabilitation, but some people never change.  Tough topic there.
Yes, lay low with Pops and let GOD handle it. (your sis)  And for goodness sakes if Dad calls for you to go find his remote.....can you say "no" girl and have him call someone else?  Then maybe the sibs will see how much care he really needs and could benefit from.
Drag~  Is there any way you can start looking for a new job?  I know I am asking the obvious, but the situation you're in there really seems to overshadow everything.  You've even admitted how I am more "alive" here in the Forums, and it in just two days.  You need to go where you'll be appreciated.  And you keep mentioning that these people at work are stealing/using your ideas?  Are they higher-ups?  Can you "fight" back?  Can you keep your ideas to yourself and say you're sick of people using you?  Is there any way that you can take a stand, or just move the hell outta that place?  I know you'd be able to breathe easier. 
Your rant about the neighbors was funny, and having to pay for the lightbulbs and sockets?  OMG, I can't believe it.  Lastly, you have a GOOD man, every time you post about being upset, you always come back around to say how your BF reacted, and its usually with patience and kindness.  I see that he cares for you very much, hang on tight to him, GF.  ;)
Wish~ Glad to see you back, was wondering where you were.  :D
Mum~ No news is good news, right?  Here we are, most of us bitching or tired or something, and seems you're on an even keel, even with all of those kids.  Amazing, yes, you are!  :)

OK, no food in the fridge but I'll find something to nuke, and maybe have a can of green beans.  I feel like Ole Mother Hubbard with a bare cupboard, but when am I supposed to go to the store?  LOL

Sun~ Almost forgot, cause I couldn't see your post while I was posting.  Have a blast with Magic Balls LL this weekend.  Its an Iceman weekend for me, too!  I always miss him so much!

Cristy~   I hope you're giving them hell at work!  Is Robert feeling better?  I thought I read he was under the weather.

Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz   :D

~ Cindy
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: minismom on February 05, 2008, 07:34:29 pm
Cin: went to the grocery store, the mall, the library, and Bob Evan's for lunch.  Ordered pizza for dinner (which I don't even eat) and I've been doing laundry all stinkin' day and still not done.  I'm still dealing with sinus / allergy stuff that I've had since October.  Basically, I just didn't want to admit how totally lazy I've been today :-\.

 Hubby is off translating for some neighbors.  They adopted a baby from Guatamala 2yrs ago and call his "foster mom" every year.  They don't speak Spanish and the foster mom doesn't speak English.  Not sure how they made out before.  Then, he's off to help an elderly lady figure out her computer.  That leaves irritated, hungry,  headache ridden me to get everyone to bed.  It won't be a pretty picture. ::)

Mum (whose crown is tainted, bent, and leaning a bit to the side)
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 05, 2008, 08:08:09 pm
Just a quick post. I ended up going to the bar and having a double shot of tequila and a bud. Kevin just called, he had fallen asleep but he is on his way over. Goddess, I have a serious buzz going on about now... ;D Munched on a burger earlier but am about to roll a blunt. I think my roomie needs it about now. Her bff kid broke her mirror and she doesn't look happy at all...I'll post later if I still have my bearings or else tomorrow...
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: vivyt on February 05, 2008, 09:38:22 pm
Ok...Sadie Hawkins Day is November 15th. This is the first time I have ever heard about Leap Day being about women and proposals. You learn something new everyday! Well today I felt as though I was teaching preschool...this group is such a handful! I have a ton of grading to do and I keep putting it off...Today was "Super Tuesday" and it will be interesting to see how the primaries turn out.

Talk to you all later!
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 05, 2008, 10:35:49 pm
Good evening ladies:

Well, the exam was hard; damn hard.  But, it's done and I got my paper done for my Thursday night class.  In the chapter about the death penatly in my ethics book, it had essays from a few different writers expressing both sides, and two opinions from justices on the supreme court, each taking opposite sides.  When I was done writing it, I can see that I am against it, period.  When it comes to actually taking someone's life, I don't think we as humans and being subject to mistake have that kind of right. 

Ann, I'm sorry about your numbers.  If you have to go on meds, it's not the worst thing in the world, though.  You just hang in there sweetie.

Wishful, glad you're back.  Cooking school, ay?  I'm getting hungry already. :D

Queen, I hope you're having fun with Kevin.  You deserve some goodness because that's what you put out.  Karma, gf, karma.  I'm sending positive energy your way. ;D

Mum, I did send Mini's card out today.  So it should be there in a few days.  I also sent a pic of my cat.  It's pretty cute; she has her two front paws on one of my old slippers.  I'm glad you joined us here.  You kind of bring an even keel to our thread. ;)

Cin, I saw Dead Man Walking as well.  It was a very disturbing movie.  My feelings about the death penalty are already posted, so I won't go back over them.  It sounds like you're really enjoying your new job.  Glad you get to see Ice this weekend.  *singing Ice Ice Baby*

I didn't get to the library to see if they have Gia.  Got too caught up in schoolwork.  But I'll go tomorrow.  Tomorrow morning I'll start the first Depo shot.  Wish me luck.  My doctor is putting me on a combination now of Kaletra/Trizivir.  I remember taking Kaletra when you used to have to refrigerate it.  At least that's not required anymore.  I'll be getting labs done in a month to see how everything is.  I know my viral load is out of control right now (last testing 214,000).  And that test was in December.  I have been really proddling around lately.  Ah well.  Have a good one ladies. :-*
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 06, 2008, 02:32:18 am
*glares@Cindy and LOL* Damn, you girl, why you have to go and jinx me. But then I also had that double shot of tequila earlier... ;) Kevin showed up and bought us dinner tonight. I thought that was sweet. He had never seen any of the Resident Evil movies so that was the plan for the night. We got through the first one pretty good. At the time we were eating too...LOL.....Started the second one and maybe watched about 30 minutes of it before things got a little hot and heavy. Resident who? Not to worry, I didn't give up any booty but it was oooh so tempting. Let's just say Kevin has some hands on him and I am sensitive when it comes to touch, enough said.. ;) By 12:45am he was on his way out the door but wants to get together again tomorrow or I should say later on today. I think I need to catch my breath... :D

Heard a bit of news on the Rico front. It seems he just got back in town a few days ago. He is no longer working and still living with the ex in laws. Can you say SCRUB? Glad I kicked him to the curb. It would also seem that the ex has lost her man too. Actually, he tried to play her. Had her put a deposit on an apartment and some type of way was going to move his wife in....Saaaaaaaaayyyyyyy Whaaaaaaaat? I told my friend maybe now her and Rico will get back together but she says that's not happening because her sister still doesn't want anything to do with him...Oh well, 2 tears in a bucket, motherfuck it. The Queen has moved on.

It would seem that Nefertiti has gone into heat. The boys cats are on her ass. The same for the other girl cat, Polly too so they are bunking with me tonight. It is a sight though cause me and my roomie have been flying around the house with our water bottles..... ;D Hell, maybe I need to spray my damn self with it too... :D

Later on today is the appointment with the ID doc. I doubt my labs will be back since I just had them done on Monday. Damn people don't work that fast. So, I don't think there will really be much my doctor will be talking to me about. I will discuss the depression with him and about stopping the meds. I feel much better now but I don't know if it is a reoccurring thing.

I'll keep you posted...
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Dragonette on February 06, 2008, 05:12:26 am
hi ladies

Ann, rant away... there are plenty places i want to live, but i know i have to be within a certain distance from the hispital. otherwise its too much of a pain in the butt. i am now 10 min away by bike, so easy its a joke. i have no commute whatsoever - work is 5 min, the gym 10, etc, all on bike. i dont know how i used to commute and hour to uni, 1.5 hours to work, back in the day. but i guess living on the isle, you save yourself that shit and the only time you have to stand it is on hospital days.

Queen, i wish you great times with Kev. Hot & heavy huh? when I know that I can't have sex for some reason (lack of time or BF is away) i'm at my horniest. You know like when you crave food that's unavailable.

Cind, i'm ok with my work for the next 2 years until my contract terminates. too much is at stake for me to quit now. it's a projecta and if i don't finish it, there'll be a hole in my resume worse than unemployment. it's v. hard for me to find another job in Holland, esp in this part. i have to see what BF will come up with too. so for now am here... i am fine with the job, but not with the shit that they do. But people with low morals often find their way to the top, precisely b/c they have no qualms about stepping over others to get there. on a day to day basis though, i couldnt have it any easier, and that is so handy with this disease, that it will be very hard to adjust to a normal routine when I am done. I come and go as i please, take vacations whenever i want, do basically whatever i want every day, and I have a lot of opportuinties that I take very little advantage of. On the other hand, dont have the benefits of a regular employer or a Dutch citizen, just a salary. It's s strange life. Not quite the life of a grown up person. It makes me lazy in a way, but in 1.5-2 years, it will be history, and I'll be back in the daily grind (hopefully asap cos I have no unemployment or social security rights).

Speaking of which, it's 11.00 and haven't started work yet. came in at 10.00 after physiotherapy (have a massage 2x a week sicne I broke my arm and fucked myself up with RSI), and been on the forums since...

So just a quick one: Betty I am sure you aced your exam, but good luck anyways, Minis, I have a "bleached" Latin also, my BF is Spanish, but not the Antionio Banderas type. But there is still a warmth to Latin men (he is the only one I have "been" with, but I know a few) that I really like. I am sure you did in your "lazy" day more than I do in a week. and i dont know how you guys post cos it takes me ages. Hope everyone else is doing good, little Robert included. Have a great day ladies. Hugs. PS am flying tomorrow, so might be away for a while. Or maybe check in again, but if not ... group hug!!!  ;D  ;D  ;D 

Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 06, 2008, 10:32:10 am
Good morning ladies-

I'm kind of irritated right at the present.  I went to the gynecologist's to get my Depo shot and the receptionist looked at me like I was crazy.  They didn't even have me down. >:(  I know I wrote down the right time; right after I talked to them last week, I called my case manager at my ASO and told her, as she wanted to take me.  So, I have to go back tomorrow at 9:15.  I could have slept in.  So I'm not in a good mood.  I hate it when medical offices make mistakes like that and then treat you like you have some kind of deficiency, and won't admit their errors.

Queen, I'm glad you had a good time with Kevin.  It would be hard for me to hold out also.  I love guy's hands when they go to work.  I absolutey loathe when female cats go into heat.  Luckily when I got my kitty, she was already spayed. 

Drag, I hope you have a wonderful time on your trip.  If you can, check in and let us know how you're doing.  Where are you flying again?

OK, today I have to go get some prescriptions filled and go to the library.  Other than that, I'm pretty much free.  I'm sure I will be crashing in the afternoon.  My eyes are burning.  Check back in later.  Have a good one ladies-
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Winiroo on February 06, 2008, 03:35:46 pm
Good morning ladies-

I'm kind of irritated right at the present.  I went to the gynecologist's to get my Depo shot and the receptionist looked at me like I was crazy.  They didn't even have me down. >:(  I know I wrote down the right time; right after I talked to them last week, I called my case manager at my ASO and told her, as she wanted to take me.  So, I have to go back tomorrow at 9:15.  I could have slept in.  So I'm not in a good mood.  I hate it when medical offices make mistakes like that and then treat you like you have some kind of deficiency, and won't admit their errors.


LOL deja vu!
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 06, 2008, 05:57:38 pm
Well, I am back from my ID doctor appointment. Here's the scoop.....My cd4 has gone up to 401 from 265, the viral load isn't back yet but we are assuming that I will still be undetectable. My potasium seems to be low and he wants me to take a pill for that for about 2 weeks and then get blood work done. He is not sure if it is from me not eating when I was depressed or what. If the potasium goes back up then he will take me off the pill. I have managed to gain 7 pounds and I don't know where the hell from. Great, another freaking pill. He wants me to stay on the Celexa for depression so he can tell if it is the Sustiva in the Atripla that made me depressed or not. He says if I stop this soon, I will more than likely bottom out and get depressed again. My kidneys and liver are fine. My ldl went up from 11 to 37 and my hdl went up a little from 107 to 114, not overly concerned but he is watching it. I had to get a tb test done and have to go to my primary on Friday to have that checked out.

I am a liitle pissed with my roomie. While out, she asked me to stop by the store and grab her some cigs and some more Pepsi. I told her that it seems like I am the one who is always running to the store. The killer part is that there is a store right across the street from where I live. Why couldn't she walk her ass to the store. Then she has the nerve to say be real, she gets Pepsi when she is out. For one, I don't ask her to get it and second, the damn store is across the street. I think it set me off when she said, be real. So, I told her since we are being real, why am I the one who is always washing the dishes, taking the garbage out every week, and changing the litterbox in the bathroom? I guess she has an attitude about me saying that but what the fuck? I feel like Molly fucking maid over here. I am thinking it is time for me to be on my own again. I have an appointment with section 8 on Friday so if that goes through, I think I will be looking for a place by myself. I am not trying to be mean but if I am doing damn near everything around here myself I might as well live alone. Yeah, it is nice to be able to split the bills but it's not like I am saving any money.

I am fucking livid right about now. I am in the room with my door closed and I think I will remain that way for the rest of the night. And I feel she owes me an apology but I doubt I will get one. If anything she will whine about how her hands has been hurting her and that's why she hasn't been doing anything. But she manages to roll a doobie without any problems!!!!!

I think I will go chill for a moment. I am not in the frame of mind to respond to threads about now. But I needed to come in here and vent right quick. Thanks for letting me sound off, I shall return later....
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: minismom on February 06, 2008, 07:49:11 pm
Hiya ladies!  Just wanted to let you all know that I won't be here for a while.  It's nothing dramatic, just something that i need to take care of.  I'll be leaving in about 30 minutes and I'm still in my P.J's 8). You all be good and safe. I hope to see everyone bright and early on Monday :-*

Mega Moochies!
Mum
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on February 06, 2008, 08:07:32 pm
Hi GFs~

Have a nice getaway, MUM, hope all is well.  :)
Queen~  I know, people take shit for granted and then when you speak up they act like you shouldn't be bitching.  I have tried to NOT do things before in the past to see if a roommate or BF notices, and they never do.  Then I get pissed cause nothing is getting done, and I end up cleaning, etc anyway.  :(  Glad to hear you and Kevin are moving along nicely.  Did you say he works at the hospital?  What does he do?
Win, I was thinking of you when I read BTs post, lol!  Crazy-ass medical office people. LOL
BT, sorry to hear that you got up and out the door for nothing.  I hate when that happens.  These days I call the day before to verfiy.  It sucks having to do that, though.  Keep us posted on that Ethics exam grade. :)
Drag, so I guess you're staying at that job.  If I were you, I would have trouble keeping my sarcastic tongue to myself, if someone took my ideas.  I guess you're working in groups and people steal them during discussion?  Just be a bitch and don't offer anything up next time, lol.  Tell them you're not feeling well, and to let "Roger" or someone come up with "something."  Just like they did last time.  LOL  ;)

Work is going well, but it was stop and go on the highway for nearly 30 miles this morning.  It took 90 minutes and thats only cause I cut out and took a back way at the last second.  Rumor has it that a Lays Potato Chip truck broke right down in the middle of a 7-lane wide area.  Crazy ass potato haulers.  Get outta my way! 

I did a lot of organizing today.  I am really cranking the work out quickly, as soon as I get something, I process it and off it goes.  Tomorrow I get to start settling the accounts for the end of January.  I have found a lot of mistakes already in the check books and in the paperwork, etc.  Hard to believe the chick before me was there for 3 months.  My boss has been saying that the lady didn't know what she was doing.  I am kicking ass and things are getting straightened and cleaned up!  :D  Today there was Caesar salad, chicken marsala, mashed potatos and CRAB BALLS for lunch.  I was in heaven, but I am darting back and forth so much at work that I think I am losing weight, lol.

I miss Iceman, I can't wait to see him.  I'll have group on Friday night and then the Cheechster and I will go to Ice's house.  He'll be at the Caps game with a buddy so I can chill out and relax.  Then we're supposed to get all snow on Saturday with a little on Sunday.  I wouldn't mind getting snowed in.  He has these big, strong hands, and a fireplace.......oooooh, yum.  :D   :P

Have to go shower, go to the GYN tomorrow for another 3-month follow up to the bad Pap in May.  My cycle is light and normal, doing well there.  Miracle of miracles. 

~ Cindy
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Snowangel on February 06, 2008, 08:57:42 pm
Hi everyone,
I could of swore I posted here the other day but who knows what I was doing?  My AC adapter thingy is bad and I keep losing power.

I had my labs drawn yesterday and I will get the results on the 20th.  I finally got an appointment for Monday to get a case manager.  I hope they will take a diagnosis letter from 2005 cuz thats all I got :)...not like it is ever going to change.  I really hope he has some contact info for a support group.

I went out for the first time in months last night with my girlfriend.  We tried to go to a comedy show but they had switched nights so we just stayed and had some drinks and appetizers.  We used to work together and she does not know my status, it would be so nice to tell her but I am too afraid, she is the only connection I have now to the adult world :)  She thinks my life is already f'cked up enough already, that would flip her out.

I have been trying to figure out what to do with myself since the trip  lets started all day school.  I started volunteering for a local non-profit that helps out people that are housebound/elderly/disabled and I met a lady before Christmas that needed some help around the house.  It has worked out really good for me because she and I really clicked, and she asked me to come more than just the one day a week to volunteer.  She is such a sweet lady but it is funny because I am ghetto-fying her.  She had never gone into a Walmart or Dollar store.   Goodwill will never happen.  We had to go to the mall to do some returns, in one store she returned 4 0r 5 things and got back $600.   :o Meanwhile, there is me who only shops on clearance racks...clearance, clearance racks.  I was all excited cuz I went to Kohls and got a bunch of stuff at 80 to 90% off.  People I hate to see me coming but why pay $40 when you can get it for $4?  So anyways... I have to help her one day this week,  if the rains stops I would like to start walking again at the local park and hopefully, I will get the heating elements for my hot water heater so I can actually take a hot shower that stays hot.


Betty-  The only reply I remember from one of your posts is your question about the dealth penalty.  I see since then you are not for it. I think...I am so tired.  I wish we could have the death penalty for heinous crimes and murders.  My older sons father was in maximum, minimum, and every kind of jail cept federal and it was all one big joke.  The people who commit these crimes do not give a second thought that they just ripped some live human being away from thier life and loved ones.  The only thing they are care about is themselves. I heard somewhere that it costs the tax payers almost $40,000  to keep someone incarcerated for a year.  There are too many other things to do with that money.

Mini-  Glad to hear you had a nice date with your hubby.  I am insanely jealous and happy for you that you have someone to come and stay with  the kids so you can get away for a week.  My mother tries to come here every weekend to give me some time because she is the only one "willing and able" to.  It always amazes me how everything runs so much smoother with teamwork.  Did you trying braiding?  My SIL did my sons when thier hair was a little over a 1/2 inch or so....and I can't believe they sat there for it.  If mini wants anymore on-line friends we can send her a valentine from Massachusetts. :)

Queen- That would be great if you could get your own apartment.  I am an only child so having 5 other people around me 24/7 is total chaos.  I was not a good room mate in college or ever.  Not having to deal with other people habits and personalities is so much less stressful.  Kids I can take.....adults I could do without :)

Sun- I hope you have fun at your black tie affair!  Sounds like a lot of fun!

Wish- I hope you and yours are all doing well...you know if you go to chef school you have to wear a pillsbury dough boy outfit for a while....don't want you to cramp your style :)  The bonus is you get to eat all kinds of yummy food depending on whether your classmates can cook or not.

Win- I got the cutest sketchers pull ons today...YEEHAH!!  Hope you and yours are doing well too.

Moonlight- Glad to hear your new job is going well, your jeans sound great.  Believe me I hate my bootydoo, too.  How are you tolerating the drive?

Ann- If I do any leaping this year ,it will be in another direction :)

Viv- Hope you are catching up on your grading and having fun with your kids.  Do you an Minismom have any tips for me for working with dyslexia?  My son who is in 3rd grade is struggling big time.

Hi Drag- I hope things work out at your job, it sounds very interesting at least, and I hope you have heat.  I hope I am directing this to the right person. :)

I hope everyone else is doing well and taking care of themselves.

Have a good night!  Snow


Gee, I hope a lot and have obviously forgot how to use commas because I am the queen of run-on sentences!...just an observation

Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on February 06, 2008, 10:23:40 pm
Snow~  My drive leaves something to be desired, but I am so happy to be making good money doing what I love.  AND I'm good at it.

I just crack myself up "talking" to everyone on the roads, and making comments about them all the way to work.

I let everyone over in front of me, no sense being a bitch and riding the ass of the car in front of me to keep someone out.  LOL  Also, I have a bad neck and quick braking is NOT my friend.  So, all of these people I leave room for in front of me.....only two waved "thank you" this morning, and that was when I got down to where the good zip codes were, lmao.

OMG, I am SO funny.  OK, I'll stop now.

My ride?  Yes, PURE entertainment for me, myself and I, lol!

 ::)

~ Cindy
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 06, 2008, 10:55:56 pm
Good evening ladies:

I went to the library and got some movies, and I just got done watching 'Hair.'  I really liked it.  I took a break from schoolwork for a day, which felt good. 

Wendy, I thought of you while I was typing about the doctor's appointment.  :D

Queen, I wouldn't want to have a roommate.  Maybe I'm just selfish like that.  That would be great if you could get your own place.  I need my space.

Cin, the exam was in my social psych class.  It was the first one from the new teacher, which was hard because I didn't know his style.  Hey, I talk to myself when I'm driving also about the other drivers.  I'll say "Ok, fuckwad, go ahead!" :D  Things like that.

Mum, I hope wherever you're going that you stay safe. 

Snow, please keep us updated on your labs.  I'm glad you were able to get together with you gf, even if you didn't get to see the comedy show. 

Ok ladies, I'm off to browse some threads and go to bed.  Have a good sleep everyone-
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 07, 2008, 12:28:51 am
I am back. I am a bit cooler now but I am still considering getting my own place but I do kind of feel bad if I up and leave my roomie. I don't think she could afford a place on her own. She was living with someone else when I met her. But the dishes are still sitting there. There was water in the sink earlier and I guess she let it out again. This is what usually happens when I mention I am not doing the dishes. I am sticking to my word too. At the same token, I have her for a room mate for a reason, should anything happen to me healthwise, I trust her more than anyone else to take care of me.

While venting earlier, I forgot to mention that I got my other hearing aid back today. I can hear again. Tomorrow, I have to get my ass on the bus and go get my depo shot....I am dreading it, I hate public transportation. Kevin called me today but I was at my doctor's appointment so I didn't answer. I think he is working Thurs-Sunday at the hospital. I am not sure what he does exactly. Next time I see him, I will have to ask.

My son came over again tonight and excited with good news. He is going to New Orleans on Wednesday and he is going to perform for some type of after party for Neyo, who is a R&B singer. I have also come to find out that he has some type of contract to rap for someone, I forget the guy's name. I asked him did he read the contract before signing it and he assured me that he did. I told him I would like to meet this guy whoever he is. He promised me that if he makes it big, he will buy me a house and I can have all the cats I want... :D He says the cats can even have their own room made just for them. I thought that was sweet.

That's about it for me. I have games to play.... ;)
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on February 07, 2008, 04:18:03 am
Low sugar woke me up and the wind is blowing hard here.  I had a granola bar and went and blocked the doggie door so it doesn't keep flapping.  Sugar was 52, I feel OK, but I know better, so I ate a little.  It was 64 degrees here at 1030pm when I went to bed, now its really cold again, the way I like it.

Queen, glad to hear you got your other hearing aid back.  Are you sure the water doesn't drain out of the sink on its own?  Why would roomie drain the water from dirty dishes? :( 

BT, glad to hear you kicked back and watched some movies!

I need to get back to bed for two more hours.  I wonder if I've lost any shingles off of the roof.  Crap.

~ Cindy
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 07, 2008, 04:56:11 am
Cindy--

Sorry to hear your sugar crashed on you. When it happened to me in the hospital I was scared shitless and began asking the nurses all kinds of questions in between them feeding me glucose tabs. I spoke to the diabetic person yesterday when I went to clinic about it. My guess was that I was crashing due to that nasty ass diabetic diet they had me on and no Pepsi. And she agreed, she said my body was looking for that extra sugar and the snacks that it was use to getting. Since being back home, I haven't crashed once. I did pick up 7 pounds and I don't know where the hell from. I'm still waiting on my sister to come by with my Y application so I can start working out.

While at clinic, I had to get a BIA done. I was looking over the graph they had on me. I noticed that it said my ideal weight should be 110. I told the nurse, I couldn't even imagine myself at 110 that I would look like I was on crack... ;D I haven't weighed 110 since I was 15. I'm thick and I prefer it that way... ;) I do need to tone up some areas. She said I need to build up more muscle. She suggested that I start walking. I wanted to say that ain't happening while it is cold outside. And she told me I shouldn't drive as often. I was ready to bitch slap her by then. Drive what? I haven't driven anything since March when I got into the car accident. But then she didn't know and she just assumed.

No, the water in the sink didn't empty out on its own. She let it out as she often does. She has a habit of starting something then walking off and doing something else. But hell will freeze over before I go in there and wash those dishes. She needs to get off her ass, take a pain pill or something. I'm irritated with her because I use to listen to her bitch about her old roomie not getting off his ass to clean and leaving everything for her to do. Or I have even heard her say that no one should have to tell someone to do something if you can see it needs to be done. Ok, so what is her excuse? I think she forgets what she says around me. I am just waiting to see how long those dishes are going to sit.

I need to check my sugar then take my ass to bed. It is almost 5 am.
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 07, 2008, 07:40:55 am
Morning ladies:

I woke up an hour late.  I had my clock-radio set wrong; I wanted to get up an hour earlier to give myself time to get ready before I have to leave to get my Depo shot.  This will be the first one.  So I'll probably keep it short for now.

Queen, if it gives you some security being with your roommate, then stay.  Maybe if you stick to your guns by not doing the dishes, she'll get the hint.  Congratulations on your son.  It sounds like he has some success coming his way. 

Cin, I hate low blood sugars.  I saw what time you posted and was wondering what you were doing up.  I know it couldn't have been because Ice was there and you had been kept busy. :D

OK ladies, I'll check in a bit later.  Nothing really exciting.  I had a conersation last night with the self-proclaimed god of the siblings.  Will talk about it later-
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 07, 2008, 04:56:43 pm
I guess she got the hint...She did half of the dishes....I really had to laugh about that. I plan on cooking a roast tonight so the dishes will be back again but the things I need to use are not dirty. I slept in today which is not what I had planned to do. So once again, I had to reschedule my depo shot. It snowed a little bit last night and felt like it got cold as hell. What happened to 52 degrees just a few days ago? I really don't have anything to report and for some reason I still feel tired. I don't know what that is about. I haven't heard from Kevin but I think that is because he is at work. I started back on my Celexa maybe that is what has me feeling sleepy, I dunno. I will just take this time to nap and rest up cause Kevin is a handful.. ;) I will check on you ladies later...
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Winiroo on February 07, 2008, 05:25:48 pm
LOL Queen - It sounds like you live with a teenager. half the dishes LOL

I had a bit of drama last night. My girlfriend of 25 + years called me upset. She lives in New Jersey, the rest of her family lives near me. Her 5 year old niece was in the hospital and she felt as if she wasn't getting the full story as to why the little girl was there. I told her I'd go to the hospital today and visit her and check on her condition.
She had a blister on her toe when she left her mom's house to go for visitation with her dad. While at her dad's house her toe turned purple and was swollen twice its size.
I've never heard of this but it turned out to be herpes on her toe. I spoke to the doctor while I was there and she said its definitely from the virus herpes simplex 1.
After researching it on the computer I found that its proper name is herpetic whitlow. It was supposedly passed to her toe because she is a thumb sucker. Anywho -  she will be fine.

I talked to my girlfriend and calmed her down. She thought the baby had genital herpes and was freaked.
Its a shame her family couldn't be normal enough to tell her exactly what is wrong with the little girl instead of giving her half the story and letting her worry about the rest.

Nothing new with her family. They are all kinda kooky. But I've known them as a second family for most of my life so its nothing new to me. They are all about the drama.

LOL




Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 07, 2008, 06:36:49 pm
Good evening ladies:

I'm supposed to be in school, but I have an extremely soar throat and plugged up head which has gotten worse as the day has gone on; and I checked my temp at 4:30 and it was 101.  So I guess I got teh crud.  I did drive over there to turn in my paper about capital punishment I had to write.  It's the first class I've missed in a very long time. 

Queen, I am so glad you have both your hearing aids back! (I read your blog)  That must be so relieving.  I can't imagine being hearing impaired.  You're very brave.

Wendy, I know scads of people who are all about drama.  I call them "crisis-junkies."  Because that's what they really are.  I had to chuckle when you said your friend thought the little girl had genital herpes.  That was so far-fetched, it just sounded a little humerous.

Anyway, I'm going to check out a few other threads and watch some tube.  Take care-
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on February 07, 2008, 07:25:48 pm
Hi GFs~  I did really good at work today, started settling lots of bank statements.  Still finding mistakes from the last chick and cleaning as I go.  LOL 

Queen, my sugar usu crashes every other day or so.  Sometimes I get the overnight crash and sometimes I get the mid-morning crash if I don't have a snack and I am running around too much.  Its nothing to be scared of.  I always keep chewy granola bars in my purse, just in case, maybe 2 or 3.  The other day I looked in the bottom of my purse and counted them all.  I had ten bars in there, lmao!  Needless to say I cleaned some out.

Yes, I forgot to congratulate your son's turn of good luck.  It sounds like he is very talented and maybe he can meet the right people and make it big time!  Wouldn't that be the coolest?  As far as the dirty dishes situation, I would just clean the ones I used and figure out some kind of deal as to who cleans the ones that the meal was actually cooked on/in.  Before you know it, shit will be growing in your sink.  ??? Have you given in yet, or is the agreement that you cook and she does the dishes?  I'm curious.  Hang in there, that kind of shit always pisses me off, to no end!

BT~  Sounds like something is up with you running that fever.  Have you called a doc?  I don't know what to think when you have a fever and a higher VL.  Do you need to take extra precautions?  The flu going around is supposed to be awful this season, you read about Lucas Clay....I sure hope I don't get that shit.  I would be home for two weeks.

Win~  Please explain how sucking your thumb gives you herpes all the way down on your toe?  Is it because the mouth has all of that bacteria and it gets into your system?  Weird to read about that dilemma but I'm glad your friend's little one is OK.
Cin, I hate low blood sugars.  I saw what time you posted and was wondering what you were doing up.  I know it couldn't have been because Ice was there and you had been kept busy. :D
  Don't I wish that were the case.  He and I are missing each other BAD this week, but tomorrow night, Ooooooo Come Hither  :D

Curious to see what the She-GOD had to say to you (sibling).   ::)  What's the "plan of action" this time?  LOL  Be strong, and don't give in just because you aren't working.  You aren't working for a REASON.  Because you're a student and you need to take care of yourself, esp now with that damn fever.

Survivor starts tonight.  Have to go shower.  Stay warm my GFs.

Oh, good news!  I adjusted how much tax will be taken out of my pay at this new job and I am getting 20% more a week than I thought!  Better in my pocket or 401k than with the govt.  I hope to break even next tax season.  I am so happy!   :D   :D   :D

~ Cindy
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 07, 2008, 09:42:49 pm
Hello ladies.  I just got done watching Girl, Interrupted.  I really love that movie.  Getting tired though and tomorrow I have to go to my dad's. 

Cin, it sounds like you really like your job.  I'm so happy for you.  I haven't called the doctor.  I'm on an antibiotic right now for something else, so I'm hoping that will kick it in the ass.  I haven't talked to my sister yet, but my therapist suggested that we all go to my dad's doctor and express our concerns.  The object of that being that the doc will be able to take action.  I might throw that out there and see how she responds, probably tomorrow.  Wish me luck.  Good night-
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on February 07, 2008, 09:52:01 pm
Sleep tight, GF, and PLEASE rest up, take good care of yourself.  :)
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 07, 2008, 10:13:21 pm
I started taking my anti-depressants again. I am wondering if that is what kinda has me feeling crappy. Dinner was a success and not too many dishes, she has been working on them. I am on strike at the moment... ;) I am a bit annoyed at the moment but I won't go there cause I am not allowed to. So, if you ladies don't see me for a few days, you will know why and it is not because I am depressed.

I am happy for my son and I truly hope he will be successful but I know it is hard to get into the music industry. It seems like there is a new rapper coming out daily. But if he does make it, you can bet your ass I will be his biggest fan and supporter. Who knows, you might see me on an awards show one day... ;)

I am keeping it short and sweet tonight. I think I will go back to playing Warcraft and let off some frustration. I'll get at you ladies later.....
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Winiroo on February 07, 2008, 10:41:52 pm
Win~  Please explain how sucking your thumb gives you herpes all the way down on your toe?  Is it because the mouth has all of that bacteria and it gets into your system?  Weird to read about that dilemma but I'm glad your friend's little one is OK.  ~ Cindy

I copied and pasted this info from one of the webpages offering info on the condition. I didn't paste the entire thing just a part of it. You could google herpetic whitow for more info.

...............
Herpetic whitlow is an intense painful infection of the hand involving 1 or more fingers that typically affects the terminal phalanx. Herpes simplex virus 1 (HSV-1) is the cause in approximately 60% of cases of herpetic whitlow, and herpes simplex virus 2 (HSV-2) is the cause in the remaining 40%.

In children, HSV-1 is the most likely causative agent. Infection involving the finger usually is due to autoinoculation from primary oropharyngeal lesions as a result of finger-sucking or thumb-sucking behavior in patients with herpes labialis or herpetic gingivostomatitis.

Similarly, in health care workers, infection with HSV-1 is more common and usually is secondary to unprotected exposure to infected oropharyngeal secretions of patients. This easily can be prevented by use of gloves and by scrupulous observation of universal fluid precautions.
..................

I've never heard of this but it sure did look painful and nasty. Poor baby...
I'm pretty sure most of us have never heard of this either.
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: minismom on February 08, 2008, 06:28:02 am
Hello all you happy people!  All is fine and I'll be back in full force probably Monday.  It's way early here - been up for a while thanks to my nose that won't quit running except when I try to blow it. >:(  I've not read all of the posts I've missed but suffice it to say that I miss you all greatly and see that I'll have a ton of catching up to do.

Happy Friday!
Mum
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 08, 2008, 07:28:19 am
Good morning ladies:

Queen, I think I know why you're annoyed, but we can't discuss it on here, I know.  The reason I think I know why you're feeling that way is that I was also last night, probably for the same reason.  I'm over it today, though. 

Wendy, you're right, I had never heard of what it was.  That poor thing.  I hope it clears up soon. 

Mum, I'm glad Mini got her valentine.  I still have the one from her hanging on the frig.  Too cute. ;D

Well, I don't seem to have a fever this morning.  I took an extra 600 mg Motrin before bed last night and soaked everything with sweat.  But I'm still blowing my nose about every 5 minutes.   It's so frustrating.  And today I have to go to my father's.  I really don't want to go, not only due to the fact that I don't feel well myself, but I wouldn't want to be getting blamed for giving something to him.  But the god of the siblings would hit the roof if I asked her to cover this week.  So, go I will.  But grudgingly.  My brother sent an e-mail to us sibs about father's health condition; that he should be in at least assisted living; that the people that take care of his oxygen go along with this also.  I don't know how much good it will do with my two sisters.  When it comes to anything being suggested to father, who holds the most weight is the god and the self-proclaimed martyr (my 2nd to the oldest sis).  At least the martyr is easier to deal with.  She's not so caustic and tries to see things from all sides.  Anyway, I'm off to check out a few more threads and eat, etc.  Have a good one-
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 08, 2008, 12:37:16 pm
Howdy(as Philly267 would say),

Nothing going on today, I might have a date with Kevin. He called me last night after 1am wanting me to come over his house. Can we all say "Booty Call"?.. :D It was tempting but I declined and suggested that we get together today. I was trying to get him to come over here but remembered he is allergic to the cats. He actually wanted me to spend the night with him but I am just not ready for that yet. I think he is moving just a little bit too fast.

Last night when I took my meds, I felt sick to my stomach,I'm not sure what that was about. I usually don't feel that way but maybe I didn't notice it because I usually smoke some good green after taking my meds. I didn't have any last night. I went to bed feeling terrible.

I have to walk over to my ASO by 4 to have my tb shot read. From what I can see nothing has happened. I wish they could just take my word for it because I really don't feel like walking over there but if I don't, I will have to take the test again. Not that I mind...*sighs*

I am hearing about everyone getting sick from this new flu running around. I hope I don't catch it but what is the point of me getting flu shots if it doesn't cover the type of flu that is going around? It seems like a waste to me. I hope everyone has a good friday and behave yourselves. If I don't hook up with Kevin then I will just be around the house playing my games.....
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 08, 2008, 05:57:58 pm
Good evening:

Well, I went to my dad's today to do his shopping and (as usual) I had to have him cut down his list.  He had too many things on there compared to what he gives me money wise to cover it.  And we've had this conversation before and I told him to save his receipts and look at them when he makes out his new grocery lists.  He wanted me to "cover it" and he would make up the difference.  Now, when I covered it before, he never made up the difference.  I told him that I go to a food pantry 3-4 times a month because I have a hard time covering food for me, and I don't have the money to purchase food for anyone else.  So, we cut it down.  He also wanted me to run him around and I told him I couldn't; that I didn't feel good and I wanted to get home.  I really wanted to tell him about how my gigantic car eats gas and even moreso because of the rings in it being bad. (burns more oil, hence more gas).  But I didn't.  He argued for a few minutes, then saw he wasn't going to win.  Anyway.........

I want to write another paper for my social psych course this weekend.  I have four papers that are due between the two courses and there's only three more weeks of school left before I change classes.  Time goes by so fast.  I think I also wrote awhlie back that I was planning on attending Indiana's state Narcotics Anonymous convention the first weekend of March.  Well, that's not going to work out.  I would have to pay my share of the cost of the hotel room, which is $25.  The registration is $25.  And I would have to pay for my meals.  So, I'm not going to be able to afford it.  It's disappointing, really disappointing.  But I suppose I'll live.  Have a good one.
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Snowangel on February 08, 2008, 06:25:52 pm
Hi all,
Friday! Friday! Friday!  I don't know why I am excited I am not doing anything fun this weekend, I think I am just happy I don't have to set my alarm in the morning. 
My older son stayed home sick again today from school.  I took him to the doc for 1 and because he had some back pain they made him pee in a cup.  The intial test came back that there was blood in his urine so they are sending it out for more tests and I won't hear anything till Tuesday.  She said that blood sometimes shows up if they have strep so hopefully that is what it is.  He was questioning me on the way home of why I named him what I did and I explained and then he tells me I should have named him 50 cent or Chris Brown.  I laughed and told him he has to become his own 50 cent or Chris Brown.  Kids say the funniest things.  Last night, I kept asking one of the trip   lets what he was watching because I thought it was so cute how he said it.  He was watching "Star Whores"  otherwise known as Star Wars :)
It is supposed to snow off and on here for the next 4 or 5 days and I have to go see my family on Sunday for a get together which I am not looking forward to...at all.  If I wanted to be infront of judge and jury, I would commit a crime. 
Betty- Glad to hear your fever broke.  Sorry to hear you have to deal with all your family "stuff" 
Queen- Are ALL the dishes done yet? I hope your feeling better and things are going good with Kevin.
Moonlight- I forgot to tell you, your dog is adorable!  What kind is he?  We have 2 ankle biters that are sisters and supposedly shit zus (sp)  and 1 pit.
Hope everyone is doing well and has a good weekend!
Take care, Snow
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Winiroo on February 08, 2008, 07:23:57 pm
Went to the doctor today and got my labs back. Well I'm up to 120 tcells and my viral load is still undetectable.
Since my tcells aren't above 200 they still aren't going to treat me for the H pylori "intestinal infection" because they want my tcells to be at least 200 before they treat me for the infection because I will have to stop taking my HIV meds for 2 weeks because there is some drug interaction with the H pylori meds and my hiv meds.
Instead they gave me amitriptyline "an antidepressant" that supposedly will help with the chronic intestinal pain I have. We'll see. I'm not overly thrilled with the idea of taking an antidepressant. I haven't had any good experiences so far when taking them. But I'm going to give it a shot. If it fails I'll just continue to live in pain and take Billy's hydocodone when it is real bad.

I complained again about my periods, the pain and blood clots so they changed my prescription from ortho tricyclen to ortho novum. They plan on doing a ultra sound for my intestines and uterus but God only knows when they will do it. County hospital ya know. They suggested that I have IBS "irritable bowel syndrome" again and possibly fibroids.

They don't know. They are just guessing....

This is likely too much info for some but I don't have any pooping problems I just have pain. 24 - 7
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on February 08, 2008, 09:16:53 pm
Hi GFs~

Win~ Thanks for the info on the little ones infected toe, pretty amazing how that all happens, if you ask me, but not in a good way "amazing," of course.  Sorry you're in so much pain.  I have had fibroids a few times before and they have gone away on their own.  I hope you can get to the bottom of what the underlying cause is soon.

Snow~  I saw where you lived, its my favorite part of the US, went there once in 2003.  Beautiful drive up from here.  :)  "Cheech" is an Australian Shepherd/Alaskan Spitz mix, he's 14 and just under 50 pounds.  He's mostly fluff, but such a loyal doggie!  We have been together since March 30, 1994.  Its hard to believe.  I had to put Casie Beagle down last April, so I have made sure to keep Cheech extra-happy, since his big sis is up at Rainbow Bridge.  :)

BT~  I'm glad you put your foot down as far as Dad's shopping -- good idea to suggest he save his receipts and check the prices.  Do the other siblings buy his groceries, too?  I know this must be very tough for you.  Do you think your brother's email will help to get your Dad into a care facility?  I guess he's (Dad) the one saying "no" while all the rest of you know its for the best.  *sigh*  I wish something would give to help him out more.

Queen~  That flu is going around here, too, esp with the people I work with.  They come into work and say their kids have it.  I am so afraid they'll pass it on to me, even if they don't get really sick from it themselves, you know?  Every season a flu vaccine is made up with the hope that it will combat against whatever strain(s) will be out later in the winter.  We always risk the chance of having that one strain (or more) that is resistant to the vaccine, like the one that "got through" and we can all get sick.  Just because you get the flu shot is never a guarantee that you won't get the flu, but think how bad it would be if you didn't get the shot.  You'd be even more susceptible.  So, Kev wanted some action?  Way to hold back, GF.  I know its killing you.  :D

I am at Iceman's house, this is the first time I have been able to relax all day.  I went to group straight from work, I was so tired, though.  I am going to turn on the Caps game and look for Iceman in the stands, lol.  :D  He's ten rows behind the team's bench. 

Have a good weekend!

~ Cindy
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 08, 2008, 09:43:04 pm
One more time ladies:

Snow, I do hope your older son gets better soon.  Are they thinking his kidneys might be involved?

Wendy, I didn't know you were dealing with all that pain.  Yeah, dealing with any county facility is frustrating.  I hope they can do something to make the pain stop.  Good luck.

Cin, I'm glad you're going to be able to relax now for a couple days.  Don't forget to play some. ;)

My dad doesn't want to go anywhere and the god of the siblings doesn't think he should; and she holds the most weight when it comes to telling my father what he should be doing.  Le sigh.  I'm going to go to bed here real soon.  If I'm feeling up to it, I might try to go to an NA meeting tomorrow.  If not though, oh well.  Sleep tight ladies-
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Snowangel on February 08, 2008, 11:11:24 pm
Betty-Ugh! My mother goes through the same thing with her siblings.  Whats up with that?  That sucks that you have to deal with that!  Hope you have a good day tomorrow.
The doc mentioned his kidneys but when he showed her where it hurt on his back, she said it was not near the kidneys.  I am going to keep my fingers crossed.
Win- I hope you feel better soon, I am sorry to hear you are in so much pain, too. 
Moon- Have fun at Icemans house!  I had an Australian shepard named Shaq I had gotten from a shelter and he hated men and my daughter middle name is Abbie after the beagle I had growing up.  She was my best friend and the sister I never had.  How sick is that? :) You named your daughter after your dog...whatta ya mean....she was a REALLY nice dog! ;D  She waited for me to come home for Christmas break my first year in college, I got home late, played with her a little, gave her some love, went to bed and in the morning she was gone :'(  I was heartbroken, but we were together a long time.
Come and visit anytime you want.  I have not liking the weather in this state too much these days but like say around here....you don't like the weather...wait a minute, it will change.  I love it around here in Sept and Oct.
Got to go do dog duty now. Sleep tight, everyone!
Snow
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on February 08, 2008, 11:40:25 pm
LOL, Iceman used to have a dog named Cindy.

No, GFs, don't EVEN go there.    ::)
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 09, 2008, 12:14:14 am
It's a miracle....She did the dishes... ;D I think she got the hint earlier when she saw me neatly stacking them and wiping off the counter. I admit it was starting to get on my nerves, that's why I stacked them. I hate seeing dishes all over the place from the sink to the stove.

My sugar has been kinda of high off and on today. Bouncing around up to 180 about 2 hours ago when I checked. I feel tired and sluggish as hell. Kevin had called me earlier but I didn't answer my phone. We were suppose to get together tonight but I just didn't feel up to it. He hasn't called back but he prolly will tomorrow. Maybe I will feel better then.

My gay bff came over today to report that his bf checked himself into the hospital for depression. He has been on meds for awhile but stopped for a few days. I guess he also tried to cut his stomach open with a scapal(sp?). I am not really crazy about my bff bf because he has put him through sheer hell as well as involving him in a bad drug habit. But I don't judge or preach to bff. But I can't help but worry about him. They both were recently diagnosed poz and I really don't think they are taking care of themselves. I believe they go see a doctor but I don't think they are on meds. And now come to find out that his bf lost his job and the police are ready to lock him up for parking tickets. They actually went to the hospital to get him but I guess he was in too bad a shape to take. My bf already works like a slave and now he is going to be even worse trying to pick up the slack for his bf. Even his appearance has changed and I know it is because of the drugs and stress coming from his bf. I want to talk to him but I know it would do no good. He had left the bf once before but went back to him so I doubt he will leave him now especially in the condition he is now in. I hate it because I feel helpless because I know there is nothing I can do to help him. It sucks.. :'( It has been awhile since we hung together and I know it is because of his bf and the drugs.

Cindy--- Actually, I am doing pretty good with holding back with Kevin. But those hands... ;) I think I don't have a problem because to me he is moving a bit too fast. An example of this, he has been trying to get me to spend the night with him already. He has asked me twice and I keep making excuses not to. How do you invite someone to spend the night that you have just met? In my eyes, we have already moved too fast with all the touchy feely... ;) We have barely held a conversation. I guess we're both in heat, he's just more in heat than I am. I'd spray him with some water but he just might like it.... ;D
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 09, 2008, 08:41:03 am
I'd spray him with some water but he just might like it.... ;D

 :D :D  That is too funny, gf!     I know what you're talking about with your gay bff.  It's like you've lost the friend you once had.  That's happened to me.  I had a very good friend who was a crack addict.  He was abstaining from crack, but he never gave up the booze.  That eventually lead him back to the crack.  The last time I saw him, he had lost 40 lbs in one month, was having to move because of being evicted, and his utilities and cable were on shut-off.  And he was always one (before relapsing) to take care of those things.  I had to withdraw from the friendship.  And when I was in the nursing home being over-medicated and acting psychotic, my bff kept telling people "I want my friend back."  You're right, nothing you can say will change the situation.  Maybe just let him know you'll be there for him. 

I wonder where Cristy's (cjc) has been lately.  It's been awhile since we heard anything from her.  I hope her little Robert is better.  The high temp tomorrow is supposed to be 10 with a windchill of -20. :o  The winds are supposed to be 50 mph.  And it's not looking any better until Wednesday.  So I'm going to try to get my laundry done today, as I don't like to venture outside when it's so cold, unless absolutely necessary.  I'm feeling better, though, so that's a good thing.  I'm also going to write another paper for my social psych class, so I won't have work piling up for the last minute.  I'm sure I'll check back in later.  Have a good one-
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: cjc on February 09, 2008, 11:50:12 am
I,m here. Just been being quiet. I just got through reading Paulette's post about her husband.  So sad.                                                      No matter how things go I guess I should be grateful to be alive.               Things are okay. I work tonight and a Tea tomorrow. Should be okay. Little Robert is okay. The virus he caught is running rampant through his school. I hope he doesn't catch it again.                                      Queen, you go girl.  If you spray him with water, he might suggest a shower together so be careful ;D ;D    Glad your housemate is helping. I've had a few like that. Very frustrating.                                            Betty, Glad you feel better. Good luck with the paper for your class. The situation with your dad sounds stressful.  Wish it wasn't.                  I have lots of laundry to fold before work. Hope everyone is okay. If I didn't reply to you, I love ya anyway.   Cristy
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 09, 2008, 12:09:17 pm
Nothing planned for today. I guess I will just chill. I do have to call in a few prescriptions. That's as good as it gets..lol..I am feeling better today. It's suppose to get cold here too. I will have to go pick them up before that happens. Can you believe it, I have nothing to say.... :o Maybe it's cause I just smoked a doobie and am feeling it's effects... :D I will check back later.
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on February 09, 2008, 02:16:31 pm
Iceman just rode his H-D up to the store to get a few things.  He splurged on a new H-D leather riding jacket and is wearing it everywhere, even when not on the bike.  Its VERY nice on him.  I was bumming after I posted last night cause I found something on the computer here at Iceman's that I didn't like (aka a website he had been looking at).    It made me feel jealous and insecure about my body (see where this is going?), and last night my head was a mess from it all. 

I did the right thing and talked to him about it today, esp after seeing a desktop background on his laptop that could have been straight out of the SI swimsuit issue.  I know better than to worry about Ice looking at beautiful women, bec he loves me very much and is very open with me.  I basically said that if he was going to look at that stuff online, to be smarter and not let me find out.  This lipo isn't going anywhere.

So, this was all interesting, me having something weighing on my mind, and forcing myself to COMMUNICATE rather than suffer silently while holding it in.  Iceman was very understanding and supportive and said he would respect my wishes in the future without being so insensitive again.  We are still getting to know each other's quirks, but I am happy to report that he is as great about the entire topic as I thought he would be.

Thank goodness.

~ Cindy
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Winiroo on February 09, 2008, 06:50:03 pm
I have a pretty high tolerance for pain. I'm ok mostly.
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 10, 2008, 12:01:55 am
Hey ladies-

Nothing exciting to report.  My bff and I went to a meeting tonight.  There was a girl there who had been in a bad car accident 12 years ago, had been on Methadone for 9 years and has only been off for 6 months.  She was shaking and crying.  I offered her some condolences after the meeting and told her 6 months was not a long enough detox for Methadone.  Boy, the memories she brings back.  She's at the YWCA currently, and they monitor the meds she takes now.  I don't know if she will make it or not; I hope she does of course. 

You know, a friend of mine bought me a webcam and brought it over last week.  I have yet to mess around with it.  I really have no idea about what to do with it.  I might mess with it tomorrow.  I never did get that paper written today, so I will have to do that tomorrow as well.  I did go to the library to take back the movies I had and got a few more.  So I have stuff to keep me occupied. 

I really need to go to bed, because I'm supposed to deacon at church tomorrow.  I don't know if I'm going to or not, as the wind chill here will be -20.  I hate going out in weather like that.  Oh well, have a good night everyone-
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 10, 2008, 12:43:21 am
Don't feel bad, Betty. I don't have anything to report either. It has been a pretty quiet day. No one came over and my cell didn't ring once. I took a nap earlier for about an hour. That's as exciting as it got. I have a slight headache, not sure where it has come from. I have checked my sugar today and they have not been bad so I know it is not that. I took some aspirin but it doesn't seem to be completely knocking it out. Which is making me want to go back to bed. And I probably will shortly. I hope the other ladies have had a more eventful day then we had... :D Good Night....
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 10, 2008, 07:57:01 am
Good blustery morning ladies-

And believe me, it is.  The winds are howling at 40 miles an hour and it's only 6 degrees outside.  I got up, fully intending to carry out my duty as deacon today, but now, I'm not so sure.  I absolutely hate going out in weather like this. 

Queen, what are you and I going to do to bring some excitement to our lives? :D  I mean good excitement, of course. 

Well, today I will probably try to hook up the webcam.  My friend who got it for me was going on and on about how I could take a picture (or something like that) with it and send it to him.  I'm really not very computer savvy, so I don't know how that will go.  Any ladies with webcam experience, please chime in.  I really want to get that skype thing.  I understand they're only like $15.   My friend left me the receipt for this webcam and it was only $12.  But I understand someone else has to have a webcam for "live" viewing.  This is a whole new thing for me.  Wish me luck. 

Other than that, well, I really don't have anything else to say right now.  I'm sure I'll be checking back in a little later.  Mornin' ladies-
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 10, 2008, 11:35:37 am
Betty-- I may be able to help with the webcam thing. It came with a disc, right? Install the disc and follow the instructions. Downloading the disc will put th drivers you need on to your computer. It's really quite simple. Most instant messengers like yahoo, will allow you to be in real time. The other person doesn't need a cam to see you, just for you to see them. I'm not sure how else I can help unless you have a more specific question. I'm not sure if skype has a webcam feature, I thought it was just to call people for free. There are a few people on here with skype like Aunty D, Matty, and Lil Mouse that maybe able to answer that for you.

I went to bed with a headache and woke up with one. I hate that. I'll prolly go lay back down. Kevin called twice last night but late so I didn't answer the phone even though I was up. His last call was at 3:15am, I couldn't understand for the life of me why he would call that late. He prolly worked last night but still. He didn't leave a message so I am not sure what is going on but next time I do see him, we're gonna talk about these late night calls.

I don't have anything else to report for now so I am going to lay back down for a few more hours...
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 10, 2008, 02:31:22 pm
Well, I tried to put the webcam on and I can't figure it out.  I will just wait until the person that gave it to me can come over and show me how to work it.  I haven't done jack today.  It's just too cold outside.  I did go outside to make sure my car started; I was out there for about 10 minutes and when I came in, I couldn't feel my fingers.  They're warning people here to stay in because of it being so dangerously cold. 

So, I'm a little frustrated about the webcam thing.  I think I will get that skype thing next month; hopefully I will be able to figure that one out.  What a pain in the ass.  I did finish my paper for my social psych class.  I think I'm going to take a nap. 
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: superkim24 on February 10, 2008, 03:18:18 pm
Ladies,
This Title is an idea you should really consider, Without fear.
I was thinking about it recently even started searching for mens engagement rings. :-[
Saw some great ones at
http://www.phillipnoel.com

My take is why wait on him if you are sure and ready let's change tradition.  :D
 
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 10, 2008, 06:32:38 pm
Betty---What problems are you having with the webcam? Usually when you put in the disk that came with the cam, it guides you on what to do? Are you having error messages? If you had an instant messenger, it would be easier for me to help you out.

I have been sleeping all day. Now I'll probably be up all night. Great. I haven't ventured outside but there is a chill in the house. I turned the heat up to 80. I know the gas bill is going to be outrageous once again. I feel like going back to sleep again. I have been jittery most of the day, I think my sugar had crashed. I ate a piece of chocolate cake and had some pepsi, last check my sugar was at 127 but I still feel crappy. I hope I am not coming down with anything.

Superkim--- Well, welcome to the Forums. I am already married but has been separated for going on 7 years. I don't plan on asking anyone to marry me no time soon, believe it. I'm working on getting a divorce even though I don't know where the bastard is. I am kind of partial to the Irish wedding ring though and likes the story behind it.

Any ladies thinking of proposing to their man?
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 10, 2008, 06:45:23 pm
Hey Queen, the disc that the stuff gets downloaded from doesn't give instructions.  I'll just try again tomorrow.  I get frustrated very fast with things that are technical.  If I can't figure it out, I have a couple friends who are very high-tech people who can do it.  *sigh*  You know, I was thinking about this.... the last time I was in the hospital, I was put on a diabetic diet.  I thought I was going to get sick, the food was so nasty.  What we need are chefs who can cook us up tastey meals that we can enjoy. :D 

Superkim, hello and welcome to the forums.  I'm not going to ask anyone to marry me.  I've been married twice.  So, for now, that's enough for me.  I'm not dating anyone and haven't had sex in like four years.  And believe me, the last person I had sex with really wasn't worth the effort (yeah, it was that bad).  I sometimes wonder if maybe I might have cobwebs. :o 

Anyway, it's still freezing here.  The high temp tonight is supposed to be 2.  That's too cold for me, way too cold.  I hope you ladies are keeping warm, wherever you are. 
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 10, 2008, 07:10:46 pm
Betty-- Funny, you should mention that. I was joking with the nurses in the hospital about the diabetic diet. I told them that they should try eating it and that even my cats wouldn't touch that crap. It made them laugh. I remember the roast beef and pork tenderloin tasted like dried leather. The only thing that was worth eating to me was the grilled chicken salad.

And when I hadn't been serviced for a few years, I could bet if someone yelled in my poonani they would hear an echo... :D I am under the covers now and it must be really cold out because the parts of me that isn't covered is cold as hell. I feel like pulling the cover over my head. I sure could use Kevin's body heat now.. ;) But instead I will snuggle up with Nefertiti who is sound asleep and just passed kitty gas....Ewwwwww.
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: vivyt on February 10, 2008, 08:16:11 pm
Ok ladies...I just had an incredibly embarrassing moment. I am not even sure it is appropriate to write about here but oh well...

I had mentioned a while ago that my ex had come back into my life and we have been "hooking up". He came over one Sunday and let's just say there was a lot of activity. I have always been very private and since I live in a condominium complex I am very aware of how close the neighbors are and I try to be sensitive to it. I wasn't sure if the guy next to me was home that day but now I know for sure that he was. I was talking to him(my nextdoor neighbor) about the man that lives upstairs and how crazy he is. He is always complaining about noise. So my neighbor tells me that he always complains about my dog and I told him that he needs to come talk to me then. Now here comes the embarrassment...my neighbor then says that he wants to tell me something and that I shouldn't be embarrassed about it. Right away I think I know what he is talking about...he says that a couple of weeks ago on Sunday he heard "some stuff" and he didn't complain.  :o I wanted to die! I turned so red! He kept saying not to be embarrassed and I said I am embarrassed and we are done talking about it....I just feel like moving....uggghhhh! Everytime I see him I know I am going to feel stupid. I know it does sound kind of funny...like a teenage story. We have done it in places that could get us arrested and I end up getting caught at my house. I guess I will avoid him....what should I do? :)
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 10, 2008, 08:51:16 pm
Viv--- It is kinda funny, sorry. But to me there is nothing to be embarrassed about. You were getting your freak on and you're a bit vocal. Is it your fault the walls are paper thin? Not at all. Maybe next time you should turn on some music to sort of drown you out.. ;) And why wouldn't it be appropriate to talk about it here? We're all women and adults. I can imagine your face going beet red. Hell, I have a roomie and I know I get loud if a person is hitting it well. I think she just turns the tv up... :D

Kevin called me twice and I missed his calls, Damn!!! He prolly wanted to hook up but I still feel crappy. It's not my sugar, just checked it again...123...I think I am coming down with something. My tummy feels queasy but I don't have a temp and I am sniffling a bit.

I have been enjoying having the crib to myself today. My roomie went somewhere to install a new sink and toilet for somebody. The cats have been in a coma and all is well except for me feeling sick. I am just glad the headache is gone. Funny, I can deal with pain except for headaches, I get like a baby and just want to sleep. Nothing is on tv but am glancing at Pulp Fiction. I have seen it so many times but one of my fave parts is when John Travolta is dancing with Uma Thurman at Jack Rabbit Slim's.

I'm going to do some drive by posts and then jump to playing Warcraft. Maybe go back to sleep again. I'll check in later...
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: vivyt on February 10, 2008, 09:04:12 pm
I know you're right...it is kind of funny. The ex a.k.a. "Mr. Wonderful" likes it and thinks the neighbor liked it too. I'll never understand guys...I guess I would rather get busted at home then in the other places we've been... ;D
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 10, 2008, 10:51:22 pm
Viv, that is hilarious.  I got busted skinny dipping with a couple guys years ago; I also got busted fucking a guy in a public park (it was at night).  The Michigan state police shined their spotlight on us.  At the time I wasn't embarrased, because I was so fucked up.  I'm just glad I never got arrested for public indecency.  Don't worry about having sound effects.  Like our Queen said, if it does bother you, turn the stereo up. 

Queen, I know all about that hospital leather meat.  It seems almost like they try to starve a person.  I hope you're not coming down with that stomach flu shit.  I heard it's very uncomfortable. 

Other than that ladies, nothing new to report.  I'm waiting for my Kaletra to get here.  The doc switched me from Sustiva/Trizivir to Kaletra/Trizivir.  I remember taking that when it was liquid and had to be refrigerated.  Glad it's not like that now.  Have a good one everyone-
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 11, 2008, 12:27:12 am
I know you're right...it is kind of funny. The ex a.k.a. "Mr. Wonderful" likes it and thinks the neighbor liked it too. I'll never understand guys...I guess I would rather get busted at home then in the other places we've been... ;D

Personally, I like it too when my partner makes some noise. It lets me know that I am doing something right and it is a turn on for me... ;) Holla if you hear me and feel me... :D Unlike, Betty, I have never gotten busted in the great outdoors. Had been to a make out spot once in Miami and while everybody was in their cars getting it on, I was on top of the car instead....hehe...One of my fantasies is to do it in a glass elevator but before I get that bold, I better have some bail money saved up... :o

My roomie has to go finish doing the work she started today. Come to find out she has to lay some floors down in 3 rooms. I'll have the crib to myself again tomorrow..yippee..Kevin called around midnight after he got out of work. We have plans to get together tomorrow. He better appreciate how much I like him cause Monday night is WWE Raw and I usually don't miss that for anyone. I will probably have it on at his house and recording it here at home. I'm sure he will have me too distracted to pay attention.. ;)

Ok, it's been kinda quiet up in here. I am sending a S.O.S out to a few ladies...Cammie, Sunseeker, Wishful, Em, Ann, and Cindy, it's been 2 days for you. Where my girls at? At least do a drive by post to let us know how things are going. Anyone heard from Ms. NY? It has been awhile and I thought the dust would've cleared by now. I am worried about her. Now y'all can't keep making me and Betty hold down the fort forever.

I think I will finish watching The Bride of Chucky and then turn in for the night. Sweet Dreams....
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 11, 2008, 07:48:57 am
Good morning ladies-

OMG Queen!  You're going to miss one of your wrestling shows?  *faints* :D  Kevin must be pretty good for that to happen.   

This morning it's only 2 degrees outside.  They're (of course) telling people to stay in.  I have to go out sometime today.  Guess I'll be putting on the layers. 

Yes, we have some MIAs here.  Cristy, where are you at darlin'?  Cin, it's not like you to go a day without posting.  And Camms, what are you up to?  And all the rest of the ladies, well, we miss you guys!  I wish Ann would post more here.  Ann, I know you're busy being goderator, but we'd love it if you'd join us more often. Just sayin'.  Well, until this afternoon-
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Winiroo on February 11, 2008, 10:56:31 am
I have a big thing about privacy. Anytime I know someone has heard me, one of the kids, ect. It embarrasses the crap out of me.
I cant imagine going to a neighbor and casually letting them know I heard them screwing someone. What a wierdo LOL

Well maybe if it sounded like they where going to knock a hole thru my wall and where screaming bloody murder. Try explaining that noise to a 3 year old. <giggles> :o
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 11, 2008, 12:49:00 pm
I finally woke up just before noon. I am still feeling groggy but my routine dictates that I check in here everyday. I have the crib to myself again..wooo hoooo. A date later with Kevin. It is 10 degrees here and I am not looking forward to going to CVS to pick up my meds. It is just around the corner. We have the heat all the way up as far as it can go because my roomie said the windows were freezing on the inside. I can imagine what my gas bill is going to be like. :o

I spoke with someone who gave me a bit of information on the place where I am suppose to seek therapy. I guess they have a therapist who deals with the hearing impaired, so I think when I call, I will request her. At least I know she will be sensitive to my hearing issues. I will not worry about anything else for now.

I will check back in later....
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: minismom on February 11, 2008, 03:56:11 pm
When hubby and I were in college, we lived in a quad-plex townhouse type thingy.  We were the 3rd house in our row.  Anyway, our neighbor in #4 whose bedroom shared a wall with our bedroom was deaf.  Her guy was deaf, too.  Let me tell ya, what kind of noise THEY made.  Hubby and I used to pound against the wall to try to get their attention.  I sware they were rabbits!  Then one morning, after beating on their wall half the night to get them to SHUT UP, I met Lacee coming out of her house.  She smiled at me all weird and signed, "We 'heard' you two last night." 

I stood there with my mouth open. :o  Here we were pounding the wall to get them to shut up and they were getting off thinking we were having sex!!!!  Oh, good grief, I can't win. :-\

Mum
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on February 11, 2008, 06:25:51 pm
Hi GFs~

I'm here.  Viv, you have nothing to be worried about with your noisemaking self, lol.  I was dating a guy last spring who assured me that the walls in his townhouse were thick and the neighbors wouldn't hear.  So, I let myself go, lol.

Um, they heard alright, and asked him what he was "doing to that poor girl last night?"  LOL  I heard from him a couple of months ago and the neighbors are still teasing him.

Hee-hee, nothing better than a Scorpio in heat, esp now with my Iceman! 

And yes,  it was a HOT weekend.  :D 

Where's the smiley with the shades on, lmao?

~ Cindy

Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 11, 2008, 06:59:24 pm
Hey girls:

My mum told me of a night where she heard her next-door neighbor screaming.  It woke my mum up and she called her to see if she was o.k. :D  She quieted down after that. 

I went out today to the store and I was freezing!  I had on two shirts, long johns under my jeans and still frigid.  I don't recall the winters being this atrocious in years.  I haven't really done much else today.  I hope everyone is doing alright.
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: cjc on February 11, 2008, 08:14:54 pm
Hello ladies. Not much going on here. Got the grocery shopping done for most of the week.                                                                    Viv, I could see how that would be embarrassing.     I wouldn't worry about it to much, he was probably just jealous.                                                   Sorry it is so cold where you are , Betty and Queen.                                        Everything is good here, I just feel like reading most of the time and I am working a lot more cause we are short one server and really could use 2 more.   Little Robert is good but the oldest son is locked up again. New charges pending and a  probation violation is sure to be coming.   SS/DD. What can you do? Guess I will try to just let it go.        ML, glad you and Iceman are still going strong. Got any special m Valentines plans?                                                             Queen, hope the therapist works out for you. I had one for a short time and it helped.                                                              Anyway, tired and got a double tommorrow. Time for bed.    Cristy                                                                                                   
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on February 11, 2008, 09:11:09 pm
Hi GFs~

Its unusually cold here, too.  I don't mind it that much, though, better than sweating your ass off, I say.  LOL

Iceman is taking me to a very nice restaurant on Thursday night.  He has his girls Friday night through Sunday, so we decided to celebrate Valentine's Day on THE day itself.  I would type what I am doing for him as far as a gift, but he reads here from time to time, so I'll wait until after.  He told me not to spend any more money on him, since I was unemployed for so long and just getting my act together again.  I DID want to get him a Washington Capitals hockey jersey, but it costs $200.  I confessed to him and he basically said "Don't you dare....."  So, I've come up with something else. 

Iceman and I are doing really well, I couldn't be happier.  :)

~ Cindy
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on February 11, 2008, 10:26:12 pm
Posting again because SOMEONE has a BIRTHDAY this Friday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   ;D   ;D   ;D

Happy Birthday to our Viv on 2/15!    :D
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Winiroo on February 11, 2008, 10:38:04 pm
Happy early birthday Viv!

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Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: vivyt on February 11, 2008, 10:38:52 pm
I am sending all my warm thoughts to you all in the cold... :)

Well I think I will continue to avoid the neighbor until I feel better. I am bothered by the fact that he heard but I am more bothered by him telling me...kind of weird I think. I am sure we all have some stories about getting caught. I have not been caught in person thank god...I think I would just melt into the ground! LOL! Mr. Wonderful is a firefighter and we have done it in a few firestations (that's exciting!) and some parks. Crazy...

On a different note...lately I have really been in a bad place and can't seem to get out of it. I have OK days and then times when I just want to cry. My mom was asking me about my birthday and I said I don't care and I don't feel like I have anything to celebrate. I tell her that I am still adjusting to this and it has only been a few months. Well she goes back and looks on her calendar, she keeps really good records, and says that it really has been 9 months and she thinks I have forgotten about how sick I was and how far I have come. I told her that if you look at the short term it looks good but when I look at the future I feel defeated. She doesn't get it and it irritates me. She thinks that because I am physically better then everything is OK. I don't know...maybe it's just me. I guess I'll have a lot to talk about tomorrow w/my therapist...

Have a good night ladies..... :)
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: vivyt on February 11, 2008, 10:40:04 pm
Thank you!!!! I wish you all were close so we could get together and have some drinks... ;D
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 11, 2008, 10:40:59 pm
Ooooh.  Happy birthday Viv!  I hope you do something special for yourself.

I received a letter from my university today.  It's an invitation to take part in the graduation this spring.  I'm not going to, because of finances and the cost of everything that entails graduation.  I won't get the degree anyway until I've completed the course requirements.  I don't really feel excited or anything.  Not sure why.  I have to look at the degree requirements again to see what classes I have left.  I think after the next eight weeks, I only have like six.  I won't be attending this summer; vocational rehab doesn't have funding for it.  So ladies, it looks like there's a light at the end of the tunnel now.  I really don't know exactly what I'm going to do once I complete the degree.  What I would like to do (as I've said before) is to be an addictions counselor.  But only very part-time.  I can't risk losing disability and physically, I can't take working full time.  

Other than that, no other news to report.  Have a good night-
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 11, 2008, 11:10:38 pm
Happy Birthday, Viv

I was suppose to have a date with Kevin but I just couldn't get myself together. I am still feeling sick to my stomach. He did surprise me and stopped over for a few. Then after he left, he called me and we talked about a few things that were on my mind. I assured him that I was not blowing him off because I have missed a few of his calls. He's going to call me tomorrow and see how I am doing.

I had to make myself eat today, I don't have any green at the moment. I am feeling hot but when I check my temp,it says it is normal. I feel like barfing but nothing has happened so far. I took a nap earlier around 5ish and slept til 8 but I still feel like I could go to sleep. I dunno, I just feel like crap. :(
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: sunseeker on February 11, 2008, 11:53:48 pm
Hi girls

Sorry in a bad place.  My nice dinner went horrible with the Latin lover and we have not talked since.  When I feel better I will right what happened.  He won't call me and I am being stubborn and not calling him either.  I hate men.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY VIV
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 12, 2008, 07:43:58 am
Morning ladies:

Queen, I hope you're not coming down with the nasty stomach virus.  Drink lots of fluids, you know the drill. 

Sun, when you're ready to talk, we're ready to listen.

Today I really don't have a lot planned.  I'm going to take the bill for my latest scripts to my ASO.  Then tonight is social psych class.  So I'll probably be moping around.  When I woke up at 7:00, I wanted to go back to sleep, but my cat wasn't hearing of it.  When I first get up, I always give her a few kitty treats, so she meows until I do that.  Then, always after my first cup of coffee, I give her some tuna.  So when I sit down to drink the first cup, she meows until I give her the tuna.  Can you say spoiled.  Yes, she is.  But she's worth it. 

I received my Kaletra in the mail yesterday.  So I'm unsure as to whether I'm going to start it tomorrow or wait until this weekend.  I know it can have some nasty GI effects, and I don't want to be at school and keep having to get up to run to the bathroom.  Maybe this weekend, to give myself a couple days to get used to it and figure out a good schedule with it. 

Have a good morning ladies.

Edited to add:  HAPPY BIRTHDAY VIV!
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 12, 2008, 02:17:14 pm
Ugh, I woke up with a headache again. I took a 800mg ib for that and hopes it will knock it out. Betty, I have plenty of Vitamin Water and will be drinking that. But like how you have to have a cup of coffee to wake you up, I have to have a glass of Pepsi. I hate coffee.

It is snowing and we have a severe winter warning going on til late tonight. No problem, I will be in the house, I don't have to go out for anything today. Nothing else to report, I will check back later...
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: keepingfaith on February 12, 2008, 05:44:13 pm
Hi! I am new to HIV and new to this board. I am 27, mother of 2.I just recently found I was positive. I tested negative every year. But last year was not so great. I found out on Dec 26, 2008. I just recently got my lab results. CD4 278 VL 62,270. I am to start Atripla next week. I am still kind of scared, but I take it one day at a time
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: BT65 on February 12, 2008, 06:12:02 pm
Hi ladies:

And welcome, keepingfaith.  You will find this site very helpful and supportive.  If you have any questions, don't hesitate to ask.  Glad to have you aboard!

Class was cancelled tonight.  It's really snowing out and it's making travel very detrimental.  So, I'm happy to be staying in.  I really didn't feel like going anyway.  I'm so burned out on school and I'm trying to motivate myself to get into doing the work that needs to be completed.  I keep putting it off "for just another day."   

OK ladies, an interesting question.  If you could have your choice of any man in the world to have a one-nighter with, who would it be?  Just curious.  I've got to think about it, but I'm almost sure it would be Brad Pitt.  Just thought I'd try to strike up a conversation.
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Winiroo on February 12, 2008, 06:37:58 pm
My first thought was Michael Chiklis. Something about him is hot to me. I dont know what it is.

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I'll have to think about who else floats my boat. Brad Pitt is very handsome but I got a thing for the average joes big time.
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Winiroo on February 12, 2008, 06:43:00 pm
Love these guys too!

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Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: vivyt on February 12, 2008, 08:10:03 pm
OK I am telling you my secret crush....The Rock! He would be my one-night stand... :) :)


Welcome Keepingfaith! This is a wonderful group of ladies. I too am some what of a newbie.
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Queen Tokelove on February 12, 2008, 08:40:56 pm
Since Viv mentioned it..I got a thing for wrestlers....And I have more than one, I would have a one night stand with so how about 3...First would be John Cena, then Triple H(even though he is married to Stephanie McMahon, Vince's daughter, Vince is the CEO of WWE), and then The Undertaker....

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Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Winiroo on February 12, 2008, 08:57:05 pm
List of former crushes. Some of them are from when I was a girl.

In no particular order.

Andy Gibb
Shaun Cassidy
River Phoenix
Corey Haim
Christopher Reeves
Nicolas Cage
Patrick Swayze
Jon Bon Jovi
Sebastian Bach
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Snowangel on February 12, 2008, 09:38:54 pm
Happy Birthday ,Viv!!  Your neighbor probably told you because he sees or has heard you in a new light  and wants to get in on the action.  :)

Sorry to hear your date didn't go so well ,Sun.  Hope you are in a better place soon.

Welcome, Keepingfaith!  I am relatively new to the forum but have been taking meds since 94.

Betty-  That is a hard question :)  I'll have to think about it too.  Iam so out of the loop these days I don't know anybodies names.
I am glad they cancelled class for you, I hate driving in snow only because everyone else drives crazy esp. the ones driving the big SUVs.  I hate this cold weather although it is probably warm compared to some of you guys...it was 10 here this morning.  Good Luck with the Kaletra.

Queen- I hope you are feeling better.

Moon-  I am so happy you are having such a good time with Iceman.  How did you guys meet?

I am so mad at my sons doc.  He had the blood in the urine on Friday and I was supposed to call today and get the results. I called this morning and they gave me the negative strep results and they said the doc would call me back with the urine results.  I called 3 more times and never spoke to the doc and none of the nurses would give me any info.  The way they were talking though it was like the doctor had to talk to me.  I really hope nothing is wrong and she just forgot to call.  I suck at waiting.

So I go to my aunts on Sunday for our Christmas get together(finally).  We sit down to eat and my first bite of the homemade mac and cheese and I inhale a bread crumb and immediately start coughing.  So I get up to go to the bathroom and I  am coughing so bad I have to stop and cross my legs so I don't pee on myself.   WTF!   Does this happen to anyone else?  It happens to me all the time now.  Is this the reason I am supposed to be doing kegals?  Lucky for me, my family are a bunch of drinkers and my kids are the only ones that noticed I was gone.

Wish me luck!  I am going to a peer support group tomorrow and after that I am going to meet a therapist.  I really hope I meet some people I can talk to and get to know.  I am so sick of being miserable and alone.

Hope everyone is doing well and staying warm or cool depending on your location.
Take care,
Snow

Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Snowangel on February 12, 2008, 09:42:56 pm
Win- What ?? No Scott Baio or Rick Springsteen  ???  How bout Michael Jackson and Prince?
I loved Shaun Cassidy!  I am not sure why :)
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: minismom on February 12, 2008, 10:21:15 pm
Snow, i have horrible allergies and a bladder the size of a peanut.  Everytime I sneeze, I leak.  It's to the point that I'll either have to live on the toilet, risk od-ing on Benedryl, or wear Depends :-[  It gets really embarrassing.  Midwife says that things like this happen to women "at my age".

 AT MY AGE?!? >:(

 Oh, good grief! 

Mum (who is trying to get her stories of this past weekend together to tell you)
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: vivyt on February 12, 2008, 10:27:52 pm
Hey Snow! When I first moved in he (my neighbor) started making plates of food for me. No man had ever done that for me! I made him some muffins and then we went out to dinner. I guess you could call it a date. There was NO CHEMISTRY! We have really nothing in common. So since then we just talk. I get his newspaper when he's out of town. When I was really sick my mom asked him to look out for me.

Hey speaking of Scott Baio...do any of you watch that VH1 show with him? I watched the first season when he didn't want to be married but now it just seems so stupid.
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on February 12, 2008, 10:39:02 pm
Hi GFs~

Welcome to you, KF.  :)

Sun, so sorry to hear it wasn't a Magic Ball date with LL.  :(  I used to try and hold out, waiting for a phone call too, and finally one day I said "Shit on it, I am calling him.  Let it be however it will be."  Then the guy gets all squirmy cause you've got the upper hand and are taking initiative by calling, lol.  ;)

Queen~  Iceman had the same symptoms you did during the day today.  He cancelled some appointments and stayed home to rest.  He's doing better now, but didn't eat much.  Then he goes and has clam chowder tonight.  Not good if your tummy hurts all day, but at least he ate something.  He needs me there to take care of him.  :D

OK, so it just started to rain here again and we are in the middle of an ice storm.  We keep getting rain coming through and we aren't really above freezing.  Its all turning to black ice when it hits the ground.  Work sent us home at 315pm today (with pay!) and there were accidents EVERYWHERE.  I stayed off the highway and snaked home on the back roads with everyone, slow and steady.  Problem was, the roads just looked wet, but it was black ice.  I had it in 4WD just in case.  It took 90 minutes to go 30 miles and we stopped for about ten minutes at one point where someone had spun out.  In a Jeep Wrangler, no less.   :o

Its really starting to POUR here now, weird stuff.  Tomorrow morning is going to be a shitstorm.  I may go in late......

Hi Snow~  I looked at the beginning of this thread and no one copied the other links over to this one.  I'll do that tomorrow in our next thread.  Whoever names it, maybe do a love/Valentine's theme?  I think it would be cute!  Or something to do with this crazy weather!  LOL 

But Snow, to answer your question, I did a free 3-day trial on Match.com last October.  I was distraut after disclosing to someone, a very nice mature man.  He seemed shaken by my status and I just knew there was no sense in taking things further.  So, I got on Match (for the millionth time in 6 years, mingling with the neggies.... :D ), and Iceman sent an email.  We talked on the phone for about 10 days, every other day, and had our first date November 2nd. 

When I get the links over in the next thread you can read about all of our GF histories in here.  The Dating Thread has been going since June, thanks to Cristy who started it all.

BT~  Good luck with the Special K, keep us posted.  Take one Imodium every morning with it, it can do wonders!  I did that when I was on Fortovase back in the day (1996 - 2002).

Drag and Camms~  Are you doing OK?

OK, time to go snuggle with Cheech.  It was a nice relaxing night.  I usually watch The Biggest Loser and eat chocolate.  LMAO A girl's gotta have fun when her man isn't around, lol...

As far as my one night stand, oh goodness, I didn't even want to post cause Iceman reads here, lol.  I was looking for pics of Bruce Willis and Cal Ripken Jr (Baltimore Orioles fame) because Iceman looks like him.  But, OK, here goes, in no particular order.  And sweetie if you're reading this, I'm just playing with the girls, you know you're my #1.  ;)

BILLY BALDWIN
Nick Cage
Bill Pullman
Andy Garcia
Benicio Del Toro

....and I suppose i should pick a musician of some sort........hmmmmm

Nikki Sixx, lol  :D  lololololol




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Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on February 12, 2008, 10:42:11 pm
Others posted while I was posting, so Ann, its time to lock the thread.

GFs, post in Thread XIX.............   :)
Title: Re: Dating thread part XVIII - It's Leap Year, so ask him to marry you!
Post by: Ann on February 12, 2008, 10:46:12 pm
I'm locking this one and it's up to you ladies to start another.

Minismum, google "kegel exercises" ;D you won't regret it!