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Author Topic: Is it safe to have unprotected sex with my wife?  (Read 23333 times)

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Offline RapidRod

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Re: Is it safe to have unprotected sex with my wife?
« Reply #50 on: February 16, 2012, 09:11:07 pm »
You mean to say these viral particles will NOT be able to infect even if DIRECTLY put into the urethra or mucuous lining of a penis??
Do you honestly think that your immune systems does nothing? You never had an exposure and if you don't like the answers you've received I suggest you find another website because the answers you've received here will not change.

Offline jkinatl2

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Re: Is it safe to have unprotected sex with my wife?
« Reply #51 on: February 16, 2012, 09:16:26 pm »
You mean to say these viral particles will NOT be able to infect even if DIRECTLY put into the urethra or mucuous lining of a penis??

I mean to say that there is no risk from the vaginal fluids you encounter in absence of penile penetration - which reaches the infectious fluids deeper within the cervix.

This is not the correct forum for a course in virology, and I respectfully recuse myself from further discussion of your no risk incident.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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Offline Ann

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Re: Is it safe to have unprotected sex with my wife?
« Reply #52 on: February 17, 2012, 05:53:07 am »
Palat,

The important thing here is that you did NOT have a risk for hiv infection. If you cannot bring yourself to believe us, go test, collect your negative result and move on with your life.

I'm giving you that time out you've been warned about. Do not attempt to create a new account to get around your time out because if you do, you will be permanently banned.

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Offline palat72

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Re: Is it safe to have unprotected sex with my wife?
« Reply #53 on: March 20, 2012, 03:42:22 pm »
Hi,

I am back after my time out period.

I have a small question to ask, if I may:
IS THERE SUCH A THING AS A FALSE NEGATIVE AT 7 WEEKS ??
Thank you.

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Is it safe to have unprotected sex with my wife?
« Reply #54 on: March 20, 2012, 03:50:17 pm »
Hi,

I am back after my time out period.

I have a small question to ask, if I may:
IS THERE SUCH A THING AS A FALSE NEGATIVE AT 7 WEEKS ??
Thank you.

Yes it is possible to return a false negative at 7 weeks.

But that won't happen to you since YOU WERE NOT AT RISK IN THE FIRST PLACE.

MtD

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Is it safe to have unprotected sex with my wife?
« Reply #55 on: March 20, 2012, 03:52:44 pm »
Palat,

The important thing here is that you did NOT have a risk for hiv infection. If you cannot bring yourself to believe us, go test, collect your negative result and move on with your life.

I'm giving you that time out you've been warned about. Do not attempt to create a new account to get around your time out because if you do, you will be permanently banned.

Ann

We are not going to start another round of worried what ifs with you. You did not have a risk. HIV is not your problem. This is all about guilt over having strayed. We can't help you with that. All we can tell you is that you are worrying needlessly.

And further that you are very quickly going to find yourself getting another Time Out for 56 days or being banned entirely if you come back with more of this unnecessary drama.

Cut it out and get on with your life. Really.
Andy Velez

Offline palat72

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Re: Is it safe to have unprotected sex with my wife?
« Reply #56 on: March 20, 2012, 04:04:56 pm »
I see you have replied to my latest question, but I dont see it anywhere!
Where do i need to look for your answer?

Offline palat72

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Re: Is it safe to have unprotected sex with my wife?
« Reply #57 on: March 20, 2012, 04:06:26 pm »
I see it now. Thank you.
There will be no more questions and concerns. Thank you.

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Is it safe to have unprotected sex with my wife?
« Reply #58 on: March 20, 2012, 04:41:06 pm »
OK.
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Offline palat72

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Re: Is it safe to have unprotected sex with my wife?
« Reply #59 on: March 21, 2012, 10:49:40 am »
I woud like to share a thought will all the forum members. After reading through several posts here and online google, I saw a common trait in all humans. People make a promise to God and themselves not to ever engage in risky behaviours if they could get around just this one time with a negative blood report. Only to find out a few months later they somehow ended up going through the risky behaviours again, knowing or unknowingly, it just happened and they then go through all the scary emotions one more time, again waiting nervously for a negative blood work result. The point is animal sexual behaviour is far more stable than the humans as they have a particular season when they mate, unlike humans who think of sex all day along 24/7. So we are worse than the animals, our so called intelligence and being among the top is not true. Its hard and near impossble to control our minds. We keep going in circles over and over again until something tragic really happens, by then it becomes too late. Forum mentors, you have anything to say on this.They say praying and meditation helps. But its hard to keep up on this as the mind is easily swayed into the other 'exciting' things! This fucking world is reallya scary place to live in, as our minds cannot be controlled. Thank you for reading my thought. I hope this will benefit someone who reads it. Thank you once again!

Offline palat72

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Re: Is it safe to have unprotected sex with my wife?
« Reply #60 on: March 21, 2012, 10:52:09 am »
You mentors have a blessed soul, trying to keep peoples fears down all the time. May God bless you all!

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Is it safe to have unprotected sex with my wife?
« Reply #61 on: March 21, 2012, 01:06:19 pm »
OK, thanks.

But you need to do yourself a favor and stay off of this site. Hanging around here is not helpful to you in moving on with your life.
Andy Velez

Offline palat72

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Re: Is it safe to have unprotected sex with my wife?
« Reply #62 on: March 21, 2012, 01:58:40 pm »
You did it once again! Yes, I will take your advice and try to stay off this site. I love you guys, you are great! Great blessed souls!

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Is it safe to have unprotected sex with my wife?
« Reply #63 on: March 21, 2012, 04:30:10 pm »
Don't "try." Just do it. Otherwise you are going to get a Time Out. Consider yourself warned.
Andy Velez

 


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