Author Topic: For Bobbi (AKA Maggie) (Read 19420 times)

LincolnStreet · « **on:** July 10, 2010, 11:06:20 pm »

Hello All,

My mother went by the name Maggie on this board. Her real name was Bobbi.
She's been positive for approximately 17 years.
She passed away this morning by committing suicide.
I wanted to let her online friends know.
My mom enjoyed this board. So, thank you all for being her friends.

--Traci

newby05 · « **Reply #1 on:** July 10, 2010, 11:11:29 pm »

Very, very sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts are with you.

Ann · « **Reply #2 on:** July 10, 2010, 11:18:35 pm »

Traci, I'm terribly upset to hear this news. I knew she was having a difficult time, but had no idea things had gotten this bad. I guess I thought it was a case of "no news is good news". How wrong I obviously was.

Bobbi and I used to chat for hours online. She was a lovely woman, and she'll live on in my heart.

Traci, take care of yourself. Your mother loved you very much, please remember that. She wouldn't have wanted to cause you any pain, she only wanted to end her own pain.

You're in my thoughts.

Thank you for letting us know this sad news.

Hugs and condolences,
Ann
xxx

hotpuppy · « **Reply #3 on:** July 10, 2010, 11:21:49 pm »

Traci,
I'm so very sorry to hear about your Mom. Thank you for sharing with us and thinking of us in your time of need. If we can help you with any questions please don't hesitate to ask. I don't know the details but I would hope that she didn't suffer. I can't seem to come up with words that would express the right sentiment and show respect for you and her. Please accept my condolences.

-Brian

LincolnStreet · « **Reply #4 on:** July 10, 2010, 11:31:17 pm »

Thank you all for your kind words.
Ann, I was hoping to find you on here. I remember my mom talking about your chats.
Per her wishes, there will be no services.
We did everything we could for her. Her depression had really reached the bottom these last few months. She would hardly leave her bedroom or eat. Despite our insisting, she wouldn't go to the doctor or take her meds the way she was supposed to.

Ann · « **Reply #5 on:** July 10, 2010, 11:43:05 pm »

Depression is a terrible thing. Your poor mom. It's heartbreaking.

How is Ed doing? You don't have to answer that if you don't want to. I'm just concerned about all of you.

While she didn't want services, I'm sure she'll be remembered at this years AIDSmeds Gathering to be held in Las Vegas later this summer. They always hold a memorial ceremony for those who have passed.

You may wish to post a thread in the In Memoriam forum. It's indexed, so people who knew her can find it easily and post.

Hugs,
Ann
xxx

skeebo1969 · « **Reply #6 on:** July 10, 2010, 11:59:11 pm »

Traci,

I am saddened by the news of your mother's passing. You have my sincerest condolences.

RIP Maggie/

Thomas

GSOgymrat · « **Reply #7 on:** July 11, 2010, 12:30:53 am »

I'm so sorry your mom has passed. Such sad news.

Ford

runnergal · « **Reply #8 on:** July 11, 2010, 12:32:01 am »

I am so sorry, may she rest in peace.

tednlou2 · « **Reply #9 on:** July 11, 2010, 12:50:55 am »

I'm sorry for your loss. Depression is an awful thing. I've mentioned to my HIV clinic that the docs need to inquire more about their patients mental health. I know no one asked me about depression at my clinic. I had to bring it up.

Wishing you all the best getting through this difficult time.

anniebc · « **Reply #10 on:** July 11, 2010, 01:00:06 am »

Dear God this is sad news, I'm so sorry for your loss Traci, Maggie and I used to chat quite a bit in the early days, I remember sending her one of my painting, for one of her grandchildren I think.

Like Ann I thought "no news is good news" depression is a terrible illness, please know you and your family are in my thoughts.

R.I.P. Bobbi (Maggie)
In sadness
Jan

LincolnStreet · « **Reply #11 on:** July 11, 2010, 01:17:33 am »

Ann--and everyone,
Ed is doing as well as could be expected at this point I suppose.
He is, of course, second guessing every thing he's ever said or done. I'm even finding myself rewinding the events of the last few months in my mind now. I don't know what else could have been done.

My mom left the house before Ed was up this morning, drove to a railroad crossing, and layed down on the tracks until a train came. He didn't hear her leave the house. When he woke up he thought she went out to buy cigarettes. A passerby found her vehicle at the crossing and called the police, who later found her body. According to police, the train had a video and it shows her leaving her vehicle and laying down on the tracks. I'm just in shock and cannot even believe that this has happened....or that I am even on here typing this.

Jan-- I do remember something about a painting. I think maybe that was for my niece. Thank you.

--Traci

Inchlingblue · « **Reply #12 on:** July 11, 2010, 02:20:10 am »

Bobbi's depression and desperation seemed to be directly connected to not being able to access affordable health care.

I just wanted to point that out because I think it's important. I hope America wakes up.

Traci, thank you for letting us know what happened. It was obvious from interacting with Maggie on these forums that she was a kind and lovely person.

J.R.E. · « **Reply #13 on:** July 11, 2010, 03:01:35 am »

Dear Traci,

I am so very sorry to hear about your mom. My heart, and my thoughts got out to all of you.

In sadness-----Ray

anniebc · « **Reply #14 on:** July 11, 2010, 07:52:59 pm »

Sometimes to stop hurting we have to stop breathing.

Bobbi I'm sorry you were hurting so much..if we knew could we have stopped you? somehow I don't think so, your pain was too deep.

R.I.P Bobbi

In sadness
Jan

Matty the Damned · « **Reply #15 on:** July 12, 2010, 03:17:06 am »

Traci,

My condolences to you and your family regarding the death of your mother,

Vale Maggie.

MtD

BT65 · « **Reply #16 on:** July 12, 2010, 05:27:36 pm »

Oh Traci, I am so, so sorry. May she rest in peace.

Joe K · « **Reply #17 on:** July 12, 2010, 07:48:38 pm »

Dear Traci,

My deepest condolences on the loss of your mother. I also suffer from depression and I have experienced the utter hopelessness and despair that depression brings. If there is anything I can do to help, please feel free to PM me.

Jody · « **Reply #18 on:** July 12, 2010, 09:20:25 pm »

Dear Traci...Maggie has been a contributor here on this website for many years now and her experiences helped others in the same or similar situation. I am deeply saddened that the end was so awful for Maggie and she felt as awful as she did. Often I believe folks want to spare others the stress of perhaps caring for them or other factors but do know that your mom was a fine person that we all got to know some and I know she rests in peace now and I hope your family and ours here can heal.

Jody

David_CA · « **Reply #19 on:** July 13, 2010, 08:15:48 am »

Traci,

I'm sorry for your loss and the situation leading to it. You're in my thoughts.

metekrop · « **Reply #20 on:** July 13, 2010, 08:26:51 am »

This is very sad.

siongi · « **Reply #21 on:** July 13, 2010, 09:21:01 am »

Dear Traci,

Very sad to learn of your mom's demise. I wish you and rest of your family God's strength.

Siongi

LincolnStreet · « **Reply #22 on:** July 17, 2010, 05:56:23 pm »

Thank you to everyone for your kind thoughts and messages.
My mom loved this online community, and I know many of you were a great help to her during difficult times. I wish you all the very best.

--Traci

Ann · « **Reply #23 on:** April 14, 2011, 06:28:44 am »

It's been nearly a year since Bobbi took her life and when I think about her circumstances it still feels as awful and raw as it did a year ago.

In the course of letting a long-time forum member know of Bobbi's passing, I discovered that her main thread was deep in the archives in the Living forum, so I merged it here with Jan's thread. I don't want Bobbi to ever be forgotten.

She was such a sweet, gentle woman. I don't recall if she posted much in the public forum about her struggles to access health care, but she did PM me about it from time to time. As someone else in this thread said, I hope America wakes up. I cannot help but wonder how many others take their own lives in desperation and depression over their health care - or more to the point, the lack of it. With the ADAP crisis having no real end in sight, I really hope America wakes up before it's too late.

I miss you Bobbi. I hope you are finally at peace and no longer in pain.

Ann

Inchlingblue · « **Reply #24 on:** April 14, 2011, 08:22:35 am »

Thanks for reviving the thread, Ann.

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