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[peterhelms]

My boyfiriend is hiv positive, my question is, i have read that moucus membranes can absorve hiv and there is no need to have any kind of cuts in oreder fo hiv to enter the body, is that true?
For example , if my boyfriend īs cum  accidentally lands in the head of my penis while we are masturbating and i pull up my foreskin , can his cum be absorved by my moucus mambranes in my foreskin or urethra and  i could be at risk?
Am i right to aassume that since his cum already touched the air before landing on my penis , the virus lost effectiveness ?
Hace there benn any reported cases of something like this happenning.?
Thabks for your answers.

[Andy Velez]

No, I have never known or read of a single case of confirmed transmission via this, your latest worry, Peter.

Once again you're talking theoretically. In the real world of HIV it just doesn't happen this way.

I can't help wondering how muich conversation you have had with both an HIV doctor as well as a therapist or other professional to talk about your concerns.  Your recurring questions signal to me that your ongoing anxiety about protecting your sero-negative status continues. And further, that you don't seem to get what has been said to you repeatedly, namely that the real risk sexually for transmission is via unprotected intercourse and not these various other concerns you continue to raise.

[heavenly88s]

Ill put it to you this way, my fiance' has AIDS. He has been on meds for 5 years now and his levels are awesome. I had unprotected sex with him before he even knew he had it, this was over 13 years ago we had a child together, neither myself or the child has it. He married someone else 9 years ago still not knowing he was possitive, they had 2 kids together neither the kids nor his ex wife have it. I have been back with him  for a little over a year and a half, wich was well after he found out he had AIDS. We have unprotected sex all the time, I get tested every 6 months just to be sure. I am still negative. In my opinion you dont have anything to worry about, however if you have fear, get tested, most places have testing sites for free testing. What I always keep in mind is that doctors are practicing medicine, they dont know all the ins and outs about this disease. We are learning more and more every day, and its quite exciting. As the saying goes though when in doubt check it out. We take risks every day, if something is meant to happen it will happen no matter what you do to try and prevent it. My thing is you know you are with someone who is poz..so dont make an issue about it, live and let live. Love and happiness is not based on conditions. And remember Hiv does not define who he is..Best of luck!

[anniebc]

Hi Peter

My advise to you would be to listen to Andy he really does know what he's talking about.

I always keep in mind is that doctors are practicing medicine, they dont know all the ins and outs about this disease.  .

The reason they are called HIV specialist is because they do know the ins and outs of this virus. if your partner doesn't have an ID specialist then maybe it's time he did.

We take risks every day, if something is meant to happen it will happen no matter what you do to try and prevent it

This has got to be the worst advise I have heard on this forum..yes we all take risks in life..but not when it comes to HIV, if you want to take risks then that's up to you but do not advise others to do the same.

Passing on HIV to others is something that can be prevented by using condoms at all times.

Jan

[edfu]

This has got to be the worst advise I have heard on this forum..yes we all take risks in life..but not when it comes to HIV, if you want to take risks then that's up to you but do not advise others to do the same.

Thank you.  SOMEone needed to make this reply. 

[CRAZYred]

Hi Peter

My advise to you would be to listen to Andy he really does know what he's talking about.


The reason they are called HIV specialist is because they do know the ins and outs of this virus. if your partner doesn't have an ID specialist then maybe it's time he did.

This has got to be the worst advise I have heard on this forum..yes we all take risks in life..but not when it comes to HIV, if you want to take risks then that's up to you but do not advise others to do the same. *AMEN!*

Passing on HIV to others is something that can be prevented by using condoms at all times.

Jan

[skeptik73]

We take risks every day, if something is meant to happen it will happen no matter what you do to try and prevent it.

This is indeed the worst piece of advice, and especially because of the context.  But its just bad advice even without a context.

While I can agree with the tone of the rest of what heavenly88s said in so far as the implication that the original poster is worrying WAY too much, and in other respects.... but this particular item is terrible advice.

Its one thing to make a choice, to take a risk, even with the big bad bug.  But to say "what's going to happen's going to happen, there's nothing I can do" --- that is downright delusional.  That is abdication of one's responsibilities as a human being.