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HIV Prevention and Testing => Do I Have HIV? => Topic started by: kay007 on April 02, 2007, 12:07:42 pm

Title: Virgin scared out of his mind!
Post by: kay007 on April 02, 2007, 12:07:42 pm
Hey Everybody,

2 weeks ago, I spent a couple of days in Phuket Thailand.  It was meant to be a clean holiday with no hanky-panky as I was still contemplating sex and in no way was I going to have sex with a prostitute (much less in Thailand).  Anyway, our cab driver kept talking about this place that everybody should go to for a massage and a round of sex.  Next thing I know, I was asking him to take me there.

Had a massage..and then had sex for the first time.  A condom was used and I managed to get a few positions before I lost my erection and the lady had to masturbate me to orgasm.  The same thing happened the next day, with a different lady.

My question is : Both acts of oral and vaginal sex was condom protected.  Both times the condoms were intact.  I pulled off the condoms the only way I knew how (slowly and carefully). By masturbating me at the end, is it possible that whatever vaginal fluids that was on her hands could have somehow gotten through my peehole and infected me (assuming she was hiv+)? Could the oil which was used to masturbate me be helping the transmission if hiv, or just kill it?  These were the only times I had sex in my entire life and I haven't done it since.  So is being in Phuket increase my risk? Both ladies were expensive and worked in a an upscale establishment (supposedly regularly tested..whatever)

Am I losing my mind over nothing?  I took an ELISA test (I think it was...took about 3 mins) at a govt clinic about 3 days after and it came out negative.  I know that was waaay to early for a test and am considering to take another one in 4 weeks time.  Can anybody here say for sure that the next test will be undoubtedly negative as well (based on my story here)?  Please..anybody with similar experience have anything to say?
Title: Re: Virgin scared out of his mind!
Post by: ACinKC on April 02, 2007, 12:27:20 pm
It doesnt matter who you were with or where you were.  HIV does not discriminate.  That being said, you were protected and thus had NO RISK for HIV infection.  Please read our lessons on transmission to better educate yourself on how this virus is actually spread and keep using the condoms for intercourse and you shall remain HIV free!
Title: Re: Virgin scared out of his mind!
Post by: Andy Velez on April 02, 2007, 02:00:57 pm
K, condoms provide very effective protection. The important thing is to always, ALWAYS have one on when you have intercourse. As far as getting oral is concerned, that's optional. In the entire history of the epidemic, no has gotten HIV infected from getting his dick sucked. But intercourse is totally different, so just keep on using those latex condoms everytime, no matter whom you are with.

It doesn't matter if you are with a professonal or a civilian, a condom is a must everytime.

As you are finding out, becoming sexually active is very exciting. It can also stir up a lot of anxiety.As long as you consistently use condoms you're ok as far as HIV is concerned. We also recommend that anyone who's sexually active ought to have a full STD panel at least once a year. THere are other STDs out there and they are often much easier to catch than HIV.

Cheers,