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HIV Prevention and Testing => Do I Have HIV? => Topic started by: wanywany on January 21, 2009, 04:25:51 pm

Title: tear skin
Post by: wanywany on January 21, 2009, 04:25:51 pm
I had massage with a guy masseur using oil all over on me ,    at the end he gave me a body to body naked massage which is rubbing against each other and he was on top of me while doing so ,   his penis was below my tigh or almost around my below buttock area all the time because i dont want his penis touching my penis while doing the rubbing massage ,   after some time he told me that he had cum ,    i was terrified by then and i didn't notice at all but i am pretty sure that he didn't cum directly into my penis head ,    i  quickly stop the whole thing and get myself a shower ,    after that i notice there is small blister or sore just below a bit of my penis head where i can see little blood there may be is due to rubbing too hard , now i am worry that his semen might touches that area which i am not pretty sure , am i at risk 
Title: Re: massage worry
Post by: RapidRod on January 21, 2009, 04:28:15 pm
At no time were you at risk. Take the time to read the transmission lesson. You can find the link in the "Welcome" thread.
Title: Re: massage worry
Post by: wanywany on January 21, 2009, 04:43:19 pm
thanks rod anyway i'm from malaysia ,   this is my first time here nice to meet you ,   anyway well mostly i dont do anal or oral sex at all to whoever i get to meet  because of the hiv concern ,   mostly i will go to massage center to have some massage and mutual masterbation only and that will satisfy me , i hope all this activities will not bring me into trouble like hiv , so do i need to test from this incident ?
Title: Re: massage worry
Post by: RapidRod on January 21, 2009, 04:45:34 pm
No you do not need to test.
Title: Re: massage worry
Post by: Andy Velez on January 21, 2009, 07:58:27 pm
Mutual masturbation including to ejaculation, naked bodies and/or penis rubbing together and any of the other things you have mentioned are all NON-RISK activities for HIV transmission.

The only proven risks sexually for HIV transmission are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. It's ass simple as that so always use condoms and you will be well protected as far as HIV is concerned.

Cheers.
Title: Re: massage worry
Post by: wanywany on January 22, 2009, 12:07:09 pm
thankss andy ,    is it because the hiv virus once come out of the body it will quickly die off or become damage or something else that will give mutual masterbation or massage a safer sex activities   ,    gosh today i found a small pimple on my penis head as it never happen to me before , worry
Title: Re: massage worry
Post by: RapidRod on January 22, 2009, 12:45:20 pm
See your doctor for your pimple. It's not an HIV concern.
Title: Re: massage worry
Post by: Andy Velez on January 22, 2009, 01:17:27 pm
HIV is a fragile virus. It requires a receptive setting like a vagina or an anus to make transmission possible sexually. Always use a condom for vaginal and anal intercourse and you will be well protected as far as HIV and sex are concerned.

Title: worry massage again
Post by: wanywany on February 03, 2009, 12:13:51 pm
i went for a massage recently ,    the ending of the massage he perform a body to body rubbing against me and later after that he perform oral sex on me with a condom on ,    after  i have cum inside the condom and when i remove it i do notice a small little pimple with blood on my lower penis head which is around the upper shaft area which i guess may be by rubbing too hard to cause it tear ,     what i am worry is that his body with lots of sweat while rubbing me might be contaminated with his own blood where i can't really see it and touches my small tear around there ,    his saliva might contact around there also while he was doing the oral sex on me eventhough i have my condom on ,  quite worrying now , am i ok
Title: Re: worry massage again
Post by: Ann on February 03, 2009, 12:33:03 pm
wany,

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread (http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=220.0) so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines. Thank you for your cooperation.


You've already been told that hiv is transmitted through unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse. It is not spread through sweaty massages or getting a blowjob.

Forget the blood fantasy - because that's exactly what it is; fantasy. This is NOT an hiv situation by any stretch of the imagination.

NO RISK.

Ann
Title: Re: worry massage again
Post by: wanywany on February 03, 2009, 12:54:25 pm
thanks ann ,im feeling better now .
Title: Re: worry massage again
Post by: wanywany on February 09, 2009, 12:50:16 am
im sorry to ask again , im worry his pre cum touches my penis head and also it may get enter inside the urethra while doing  body to body rubbing massage , it just keep bothering me a lot
Title: Re: worry massage again
Post by: RapidRod on February 09, 2009, 06:00:32 am
How many times explaining it to you how HIV is transmitted. You didn't have a risk. No more questions on this subject.
Title: Re: worry massage again
Post by: Andy Velez on February 09, 2009, 08:03:30 am
Penises touching, rubbing and being masturbated together are not risks for HIV transmission.

The only real and proven risks for HIV transmission sexually are through unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. Everything else is on risky theoretically. In the real world of HIV we know it happens through unprotected intercourse.

You are worrying needlessly. Give it up and get on with your life. Really.
Title: tear skin
Post by: wanywany on March 04, 2009, 01:08:47 pm
i met a guy in sauna , we perform rubbing and using hand to masterbate each other hard until cum , after that i notice my penis shaft area skin seems to be a bit tear and open , im worry his hand might have cum or have injured fingers with blood that  touches there  , very worry now cause that will give a chance for infection right
Title: Re: tear skin
Post by: Ann on March 04, 2009, 01:56:15 pm
Wany,

Once again, I've merged your threads. Stop starting new threads each time you come here or you're be given a time out.

No, you haven't had a risk for hiv infection this time either. It doesn't matter what sort of details you can think of to add, masturbating with another man is NOT a risk for hiv infection. Not one person has EVER been infected this way and you won't be the first.

Yes, I understand you're worried because you had a tear. Yes, I understand you're worried in case he had blood on his hand. You're worrying needlessly. You had NO RISK.

Keep posting over these no risk masturbation scenarios and you'll be given a time out. If you've read the Welcome thread like you've been asked to, you will have read the following posting guideline:

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Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

Please consider yourself warned.

Ann
Title: Re: tear skin
Post by: wanywany on March 04, 2009, 02:12:41 pm
sorry ann , i didn mean to , after my longtime partner left me a year ago then only i start to come out into the real world where i am not experience with and start having sex with strangers , i consider myself still new for all this , thats why i am so worry sometimes . Anyway i would like to say thank you for all the advice and answer you have reply me , i really do appreciate it
Title: Re: tear skin
Post by: Ann on March 04, 2009, 02:42:27 pm
Wany,

As long as you're using condoms for intercourse, it doesn't matter if the person is a stranger or your best mate.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER MASTURBATION, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
Title: Re: tear skin
Post by: wanywany on March 05, 2009, 05:21:41 am
thanks ann i will take your advice
Title: Re: tear skin
Post by: wanywany on March 19, 2009, 11:48:25 am
Hi , i met up a guy lately and we have unprotected oral sex plus a deep kissing , there is no ejaculation into my mouth , is just that all the while i have a toothache problem i dont know weather it is a tooth decay or something else it just sometimes feeling pain but never get to see any blood coming from it , do i need to take a hiv test for this because of this oral sex while with my toothache happening all that time 
Title: Re: tear skin
Post by: Andy Velez on March 19, 2009, 01:36:40 pm
No, you don't need to test over this latest experience. I does seem like you do need to see your dentist.

You've been told repeatedly what's risky and what isn't. You need to apply what's been said to you to new experiences instead of just coming here everytime you have another sexual experience.
Title: Re: tear skin
Post by: wanywany on April 09, 2009, 06:38:24 pm
im sorry lately i have night sweat , slightly fever or cold, sore throat , body aches and lack of energy as i dont really fall into this sick before . I understand all the sex exposure i descibe is not a risk for hiv , but somehow im terrified now because of these sick symsthom i have right now got something to do with hiv , i hope that im wrong that with my toothache happening while im performing oral sex put me at risk as i also understand that andy already told me is not a risk  and i guess im right that deep kissing is not a risk too.
Title: Re: tear skin
Post by: wanywany on April 10, 2009, 03:35:26 am
im sorry but pls help i nvr hav this kind of sick experience before , i promise that after this post i will not ask or repeat it again . Anyway thanks for all the advice and concern here , im really appreciate that a lot
Title: Re: tear skin
Post by: Ann on April 10, 2009, 06:31:52 am
wany,

If you feel unwell, go see a doctor. It's nothing to do with hiv. Re-read your entire thread - our answers are not going to change.

If you keep posting about these no risk situations, you'll be given a time out.

Please consider yourself warned for the LAST time.

Ann
Title: Re: tear skin
Post by: wanywany on April 10, 2009, 08:46:50 am
thanks for the respond ann , anyway i  have already know that hiv transmission happen only through unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse  and   i have re-read all the entire thread already , if comes to oral sex all i do know is that the mouth inside esp the saliva contains lots of element to neutralise or damage the hiv virus     , but the thing is that im having oral sex with a guy in the shower plus kissing and while i have this toothache rotten or decay happening ,  my concern is that the shower water solution would wash away all my saliva which contains the element to damage the virus because i have been washing my mouth all the time during the oral sex and kissing , i think i have been very stupid by doing so , i understand i have been given the final warning but i have no choice as i have been sick lately and yesterday my company already have this yearly medical check up on me including taking blood sample for the hiv test thats mades me so worry and i hope the best i will be fine , im sorry ann i hope you understand how i feel