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HIV Prevention and Testing => Do I Have HIV? => Topic started by: mindi1717 on July 24, 2010, 09:15:17 pm
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hi guys, im confused and concerned , dont know if im infected, here is my story:
i met this guy 2 month ago. we just kissed and nothin more. last month, on jun 19th, i went to his place , and we kissed, i gave him a bj for a min or so, and tasted some pre-cum, so i stopped. and then he started fingering me, and then he put his thing inside of me, and i told him did u put condom on, and he said no sweety i dont have condom but im gonna pull it out before i cum, and i said no , we can do it somother time when we have condom, so he pulled it out , so now im concered since i tasted his pre-cum before he enter me, and now i dont know if any of his pre-cum got into my vagina. besides, i asked him about if he has any disease, and he said no but the way he answered was kinda fishy. and since 2 weeks ago, i started havin this bad headace and pain in my pelvic are and lower back ,body fatigue, i kinda feel there is somethin goin on in my body , just wanna know if its anything related to HIV infection,
thank you
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With or without ejaculation unprotected vaginal sex is a risk for HIV infection.
You should also arrange to be tested for other STDs such as chlamydia and gonorrhoea. These are much more common and transmissible than HIV. You should also consider having a pregnancy test.
The blowjob and the fingering really aren't the concern here. It's the unprotected vaginal sex. In future you should insist your sexual partners wear latex condoms before you let them penetrate you.
Never rely on what a person says. Just because he said he doesn't have anything doesn't mean you should believe him.
The window period for HIV testing is 13 weeks from the date of the unprotected encounter.
MtD
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hey matty , thx for the reply,
but why the pregnancy test?
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hey matty , thx for the reply,
but why the pregnancy test?
Unprotected vaginal sex without ejaculation can lead to pregnancy. Viable sperm are released in pre-cum.
More than one girl has fallen pregnant despite her partner pulling out before he blew his wad.
Therefore you should arrange to have a pregnancy test in addition to the other tests I've recommended.
MtD
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wow! thx for the advice matty!
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wow! thx for the advice matty!
Mindi,
This is why you should always insist on condoms when you have vaginal or anal sex. The consequences of unprotected sex can be very serious.
Please take the time to read our Welcome Thread (http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=220.0) and follow the links to our lessons on HIV transmission.
MtD
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i know matty ! i didnt know that im puting myself in a risk ! and im scared, but oh well, there is nothin i can do now :(
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i know matty ! i didnt know that im puting myself in a risk ! and im scared, but oh well, there is nothin i can do now :(
Mindi,
Now don't get all upset. :)
Firstly, the likelihood that you've been infected with HIV from this encounter is quite low. I expect your 13 week test to be negative. I can't guarantee it, so you should be tested.
Being infected with other STDs like chlamydia and gonorrhoea is more likely but still not great. Even you you do test positive for one of those diseases, they are curable.
The chances of you being pregnant are also very low, but you need to test and rule that out.
We all make mistakes, you're not a bad person because you trusted this fellow. You just need to be more careful in future. You're responsible for your sexual heatlh - nobody else is. I understand how hard it is to resist the charms of a handsome fellow, but never let some guy get into your pussy unless he has a condom on his thing.
And frankly a fellow who won't wear a condom isn't good enough for you.
Ok? :)
MtD
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i took the pregnancy test and it was negative, so thats a good news. but today i talked to that guy and he was so rude to me, and yelled at me that i told u i dont have any STD , and then he said " people should live withe consequence of their mistakes mindi ", which to be honest scared me more! as you said matty, im done with him, that was a good lesson to learn though! but i have a question: since the incidence was on jun 19th , do you think i can go ahead get tested now? i know about the 13 weekes but i cant really wait that long,
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Mindi, the earliest you can test and get a reassuring answer is at 6 weeks after a possible risk. Assuming you test negative at that point then the likelihood is that you will continue to test negative at 13 weeks. And only a negative at 13 weeks can be considered to be an "all clear."
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thx Andy! so i better wait another week , ill keep ya guys posted, thanks for all the help