A couple of days ago i was really really drunk and ended up having a transvestite performing oral sex on me. This is traumatizing enough as is considering i am 100% straight, but that is a different matter entirely. he/she also tried to make me engage in anal sex but i refused - while trying i think my penis might have come in contact with his/her anus, although there was no penetration.
Since then i have been struggling heavily emotionally and what makes it even worse is that im currently travelling and have no access to a doctor to consult with.
Considering my situation, do you think i should get tested?
I know oral doesnt pose a too big risk, but im more worried about the fact that my penis might have come in contact with her anus.
please help! i dont think i can keep worrying much longer as it is taking a really big toll on my emotions and it is ruining my vacation (havent gone out of the hotel the past 3 days)
Thanks in advance
Ann:
Worrying,
You're worrying for no good reason.
Getting a blowjob doesn't "pose too big a risk", it poses NO HIV RISK whatsoever. Getting a blowjob is absolutely NOT a risk for hiv infection. Not only is saliva NOT infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect.
It also does not matter if you penis came into contact with her anus. Rubbing genitals together without penetration is commonly called frottage and frottage is not a risk for hiv infection.
So you had sex with a transgendered person. So what? Stop letting your prejudice rule your head where hiv is concerned. You didn't have a risk.
Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.
To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.
Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.
ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST SPECIFICALLY OVER THIS SITUATION, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.
If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.
Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!